Financial independence of girls

Baa told marry pakhi to adhik

Honestly all this drama would not happen if pakhi was working

People come from villages and small towns and workk in mumba, bangalore, delhi etc and decide their partners

Although their parents may be orthodox once a woman ahs finnacial independence a mother father cannot decide their fate or wedding or force anything on them

Pakhi should learn from anupama and start working

So her parents do not dictate to her where to marry and when

It just shows how daughters are treated before being financially independent and after being fin independent

Like because malvika was independent anuj could not force her to stop vanraj affair

Like anupama was independent so vanraj could not force her not to marry anuj

Like dolly is independent so no one can dictate her what to do in life or baa would have chewed her up in 90s only

Like rakhi whose financially independent

It not about girls being independent it is about when couple are going to marry then out of couple at least one should be earning be it wife or husband wife or husband mein se koi to khud Job karke earn kar raha Hota.

But Here padhik case neither pakhi is earning nor adhik is earning neither they are making any plan or nor they are thinking how will run their love hood both just want to eat muft ki roti from Anuj Kapadia money for whole life

Why should anuj feed both pakhi and adhik and let them enjoy luxury whole life

Agar padhik mein koi bhi job karne ki planning ke bare mein sochta to tub shaadi karne jaate to bhi chal jaata

Like if pakhi is earning if adhik not able to get job tub woh shaadi ke baare mein sochte chal jaata

In same way if adhik is earning and if pakhi not able to get jaate tub yeh shaadi karte to bhi chal jaata

But out of padhik neither of both earning neither none of then making any plan to find job bus shaadi Karni hai .kya romance se bijli ka bill aur pet bharenge ?

I have seen couple who are b.tech they fell in love with each other while studying .b.tech they wanted to get marry but before getting married they first try for job ( according to their qualifications)for at least 3 years but inspite of trying for Job for 3 years they do not get job so at last they decide to marry with the help of elder brother money .elder brother pay their house rent and some basic need but inspite of elder brother helping. Couple both couple did not stop searching for Job .wife has started teaching in school and husband started taking tuition they live separately and after lot of struggle they finally got good job .both had not plan to use elder brother money free for whole life

To logon ko graduation karte time pyaar Hota Hai Even they desire get marry but they do think about career planning as well

In kinjal toshu marriage they do get marry without job but before getting marry they are planning about career as well .vanraj is toshu father to ek baar toshu aur kinjal ka apne father in law father se help Lena . samajh mein aata hai as. Vanraj is father vof woh khuch time ke liye not saying kinjal and toshu should depend on vanraj money whole life

But how is anuj is liable to take responsibility of long distance relationship that is is bhabhi ka bhai

Yeh bhabhi ka bhai kis right se anuj ke paisa use karke resort hotel mei enjoy karenga ?

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Dear baa,

Please heart attack se gujar jaiye.

Sincerely,

Viewers.

I do agree, girls should be financially independent. Then only youncen have respect at inlaws place or home. I won't say that is 100% true but financially independent plays a key role in the life. Once you start working your mind won't have time for any other crap. You can decide what is good and bad. If fails inyour decision can stand up again.

Coming to the serial, it was so funny this Baa only supported Toshu for his crime. And now asking Pakhi to marry Adhik as it is kalank for their family. I mean like ye kaunsi rule bhai... still that narrow thinking 🤔 🤣 😅 😂 it was so funny to ask them get marry. Did she ever thought who will take carw of their expenses. The same goes for Padhik. Without settling in life how can they even think about marriage. Life is not bed of roses... why these guys don't want to accept it. Infatuation time i can understand but Baa is like making fun of Indian culture...

Originally posted by: Loveforworld

Dear baa,

Please heart attack se gujar jaiye.

Sincerely,

Viewers.

Meri dadi ko toh theek se dikhai or suanai dena bhi band ho gaya tha, jjab woh pardadi bani thi.

By God, isko toh chasma bhi nahi laga.. kaan, naak toh tez hai hi .. jubaan mei toh break hi nahi hai.

seriously, yesterday the way she was darting atowards Pakhi again and agai, at that time she was full of energy.. doe any other dadi has a motor of this horse power.

ghar aate hi nautanki behosh

Baa is forcing but anupama is not forcing she is worry about her daughter marriage life suppose if parents give their children u are free to do marriage where u want but still marriage life ko theek thaak chalnane ke liye paisa ki to jaroorst to hoti hi hai Hai

Chahe doosre ki marji se shadi Karo ya bache apne marji se shaadi kare dono situation Marriage life ko theek thaak chalnane ke liye paise ki jaroorat to hoti may be not for luxury but basic need paisa ki jaroorat to hoti Hai

Even if parents allow their children to get marry according their ( children ) choices but if couple are not earning how will they run their marriage life by just looking at each other eyes and just dancing with each other ?

Leela is forcing pakhi but anupama ka yeh point nahi hai pakhi ko kisse shaadi Karni chahiye anupama ka point yeh abhi pakhi aur adhik ek bhi responsibility khud nahi nibhate bus shaadi Karni hai ?

Apni pasand se hone wale spouse se shaadi Karni Hai khoob Karo Anupama ne iske liye mana bhi nahi Kiya Hai ki tum apne pasand ke hone wale spouse se shaadi nahi kar sakte but marriage mein khud responsibility bhi to Lena seekho .

Let pakhi and adhik get marry according to their own choice but padhik should not expect family will afford their expenses for whole life and both pakhi and adhik will just do romance only and not taking responsibility of their own marriage life ??

Here background is of Ahmedabad Gujarat India. I am from ahmedabad gujarat and I am Gujrati .

Yaha Beti bhag kar shaddi kar le toh itna bawal nahi hota jitna bawal beti kawari maa bane yah kisi hotel room mai ladke ke sath pakdi jaye tab hota hai.

Chahe ladki dependent ho yah independent, aj bhi gujarati Samaj mai kawari maa ko accept nahi kiya jata and traditional families chahe cultured ho yah uncultured , waha bhi Beti jab relatives ke samne hotel room mai pakdi jaye tab scene hota he hai.

Yaha shah family kitni bhi uncultured ho , kawari maa and Beti ka hotel room mai kisi ladke ke sath Jana is not normal as per their background.

India ab dhire dhire change ho raha hai but aj bhi kuch actions acceptable nahi hai.

Live in relationship is new normal in India but aj bhi sabke ghar mai normal nahi hai.

Financial independence ka baat bhi isiliye aya because pakhi considers herself adult ! 😆

Ofcourse anupama is dogli hypocrite because aj jab uski Beti ki baat ayi toh shakal par fear hai but once upon a time jab rakhi ki Beti bhag gayi thi tab rakhi ne apni beti par hand raise kiya but tab issu dogli anupama ne rakhi ko apni beti par thappad Marne ka haqq bhi nahi jatane diya tha! At that moment rakhi apna pain apni beti ko kaise dikhaye that was none of this dogli’s business fir bhi dogli dedhshani bann kar maa-Beti ke bich ayi thi uss din.

Isn't it kinda wrong?

This mindset that a girl can make decisions for herself only if she is financially independent?

It means that those who are not,don't deserve the same amount of respect.

I have seen women who are financially independent or dependent having a say in their homes and also those who don't have any say either ways.

Yes,I agree that financial independence gives you a certain kind of confidence, but many people are heavenly dependent emotionally also on their families,so where money doesn't work for manipulating,emotional blackmail does.

Plus,being your parent,I think they have full rights to discuss with you regarding the person you are marrying,after all, they gave also raised you all these years, and in a way,you are capable enough to stand on your feet today because of them.

Not saying,that parents get the right to make decisions entirely on the behalf of kids on whom should their life partner be,but it's also important to take into consideration both the child and the parent's opinion in one of the most important matters of your life.

Originally posted by: shubhK2308

Isn't it kinda wrong?

This mindset that a girl can make decisions for herself only if she is financially independent?

It means that those who are not,don't deserve the same amount of respect.

I have seen women who are financially independent or dependent having a say in their homes and also those who don't have any say either ways.

Yes,I agree that financial independence gives you a certain kind of confidence, but many people are heavenly dependent emotionally also on their families,so where money doesn't work for manipulating,emotional blackmail does.

Plus,being your parent,I think they have full rights to discuss with you regarding the person you are marrying,after all, they gave also raised you all these years, and in a way,you are capable enough to stand on your feet today because of them.

Not saying,that parents get the right to make decisions entirely on the behalf of kids on whom should their life partner be,but it's also important to take into consideration both the child and the parent's opinion in one of the most important matters of your life.

ii said so because anupama keeps saying pakhi should have career than marry

todays gen does not accept parents or family advicing on their partners usually

tthis was ok in 90s may be anupamas times not now for 18- 30 year olds in cities especially

even if parent or sibling gives correct advice youngsters think they are jealous of their going to be spouse or choice

no one is really that grateful a kid anymore they think its parent duty to bring them up spend on them

you are talking of 15th century where kids would be greatful for parents bringing them up etc or someone like a gandhiji or tilak etc great ppl