I think I am done with Abhimaniyu

Apologies. I made a thread a few days back where I posted something from Twitter showing Akshara and Abhimaniyu's POV. And while that thread made me resonate with Abhimaniyu's POV, I have officially lost nearly all of my respect for Abhimaniyu after yesterday's episode. Let me explain. I understand his pain, his trauma, all of it. But, Akshara came running to him in the hospital and her maternal figure was very sick. Instead of consoling her and just being there for her, he once again made it all about his own pain. I get that he is very hurt about the Harsh dialogue but then he has a) no recognition that the galti dialogue was equally bad and b) no recognition that mimi is admitted + how much pain Akshara must be in. To be honest, this was the Manish's heart attack bench scene all freaking over again. That time too, Akshara was in a vulnerable state. She was not blaming their love but simply saying how sad she is that she is constantly torn in between her love and family. What is wrong with that? If not Abhimaniyu, who else is she going to share her pain with? She even apologized right after it, because he made it all about himself, his pain, his feelings. What about her feelings? When will he ever ever ever respect HER feelings? Again, her parent figure is in the hospital and he has turned it into HIS FREAKING PAIN.

And another thing that I cannot help but say. When Manjari got into her accident, Abhira had just fought with each other. But Akshara let it all go and became his support. Why cannot Abhimaniyu do the same for his WIFE?

He called Manjari out and everyone is rejoicing. But he still wiped her tears and FELT BAD FOR HER. Where are his emotions for Akshara. The woman he claims to love more than anyone else. What happened to his Akshu Akshu Akshu now????

I lost it with the whole bangle game. Why hurt her that way? Yes everyone kept saying he ran to her and applied the bandage afterwards et etc but why do that in the first place? I don’t even recall him apologising. The fact he did hurt her physically, all be it to win, that was too much for me.

Abhimanyu first and foremost made sure Mimi was okay when she came to the hospital. Once she was settle he then had a talk with Akshu because they both suspect that Mimi may have overheard them having a fight leading to her high blood pressure. The only way to resolve the situation is to talk to each other now with calm minds and hearts. To try and solve what they need to solve about the relationship then Mimi's health will get better as well.

Abhimanyu is triggered by the father's behavior comparison. And yesterday he finally explained calmly why it is effecting him so. Akshu should now understand this and explain what she meant. But before she could Mimi started to come around so she made the excuse of getting coffee. Akshu herself is triggered by his words about marriage. She cannot handle her love being questioned. She has yet to explain why his words hurt her so and her feelings. (I feel writers always keep Akshu’s feelings in the dark half the time so we never get a clear picture of what she is thinking. We only get exposed to Abhimanyu's thinking which really bothers me. Both are ML and FL I want to know what both are thinking 🤔 )

There is still tonight's episode to watch to see where all this is going. It seems Abhimanyu is finally at a place where he can hear and understand. Akshu who has been the most patience since this adoption track taking Abhimanyu's silent treatment, avoidance, and anger has finally reached her limit so she's in her own space of anger and hurt. She needs to calm down as well to have a more constructive discussion with her husband.

Next week we will probably see a patch up.

I am always Team Abhira even if one or both sides are being dumb 🤪 The thing is both have said some hurtful things to each other with both having a grain of truth to their own perspective and understanding of the circumstances hence both are right and wrong. In orde for them to get past this they have to come to an understanding of why their words hurt each other.

I'll only say this much. Those who we love dearly are capable of causing maximum pain to us .

We need to stop seeing everything with microscopic eyes ..abhimanyu and akshu both are right and wrong ..both did some mistakes and used wrong choice of words in anger. It's not too difficult to explain their pov to the other but they are not doing it bec the writers want to drag the mu for trps. The angst and tashan was ok but if dragged unnecessarily, it will piss off a lot of viewers. Kuch acha likhna toh aata nai ..it is stuck in the loop of kaand - mu- tashan- dreams - drama - accident - promises

I agree wid vrythng u said......abhi is d mst self obsessed prsn.......evrythng is & always shld b abt him.......d victims of dis of DNA situation r Manjari & Neil......but Abhi pretnds lke he is d only 1 hu has been wrngd.......& he takes it out on evry1, incldng Manjari & his wife..........

I hv said dis b4 abhira marriage also......abhi is d worst partner ny1 can have.......he is all lovey dovey wen thngs r gng d way he wants.....he turns physically (Tilak 2.0 and engment 2.0) & emotionlly abusive.....wen thngs don't go d way he wants.........

Anger issues r not romantic....even if ppl keep pstng stuff abt oh he is angry bcoz, he luvs akshu a lot........u can try 2 understand d trauma behind it, if he atleast considers oder ppl around him.......but 4 abhi.....only his feelings matter.........if u don't bhave d way he wants........he will get angry & thro tantrums.......

I dnt knw.....hw ny1 can deal wid sum1 like abhi...for a even a day.......he suffocates akshu.......in d house verythng shuld happen d way he wants.........

Nd evry1 has a prblm wid how kairav is behaving.......I do 2...but if it was abhi dng it for his sister.....der wud b 100 long psts on dis forum praising.....abhi's brthrly luv & concern.........

The writers are messing up his character...Earlier abhi used to put Akshu's pain over his but now idk anymore...i get ot comparison with harsh was wrong very wrong, but did he realise what he has said and done?? No, there is no stress over that, akshu should be vocal about that, she should speak up about her pain, how his words teared her heart.

Also its good that manjari apologised, but did she tell abhi that she misunderstood akshu??? What about the sorrys she deserve for being misunderstood in that dna fiasco...

tbh i lovw the show for abhira, but these writers with open ended tracks are getting on my nerves

Originally posted by: NikhatNur

I agree wid vrythng u said......abhi is d mst self obsessed prsn.......evrythng is & always shld b abt him.......d victims of dis of DNA situation r Manjari & Neil......but Abhi pretnds lke he is d only 1 hu has been wrngd.......& he takes it out on evry1, incldng Manjari & his wife..........

I hv said dis b4 abhira marriage also......abhi is d worst partner ny1 can have.......he is all lovey dovey wen thngs r gng d way he wants.....he turns physically (Tilak 2.0 and engment 2.0) & emotionlly abusive.....wen thngs don't go d way he wants.........

Anger issues r not romantic....even if ppl keep pstng stuff abt oh he is angry bcoz, he luvs akshu a lot........u can try 2 understand d trauma behind it, if he atleast considers oder ppl around him.......but 4 abhi.....only his feelings matter.........if u don't bhave d way he wants........he will get angry & thro tantrums.......

I dnt knw.....hw ny1 can deal wid sum1 like abhi...for a even a day.......he suffocates akshu.......in d house verythng shuld happen d way he wants.........

Nd evry1 has a prblm wid how kairav is behaving.......I do 2...but if it was abhi dng it for his sister.....der wud b 100 long psts on dis forum praising.....abhi's brthrly luv & concern.........

I will say one thing about trauma. When you have it and something triggers that fear, anxiety, or anger inside of you, you have very little scope of understanding others around you during those times you are being triggered. Hence the trauma part. It becomes about your fears and the hurt.

This is why Abhimanyu and Akshu are having trouble communicating because they both triggered each other. Both are thinking about themselves and their feelings and misunderstanding each other.

Originally posted by: NikhatNur

I agree wid vrythng u said......abhi is d mst self obsessed prsn.......evrythng is & always shld b abt him.......d victims of dis of DNA situation r Manjari & Neil......but Abhi pretnds lke he is d only 1 hu has been wrngd.......& he takes it out on evry1, incldng Manjari & his wife..........

I hv said dis b4 abhira marriage also......abhi is d worst partner ny1 can have.......he is all lovey dovey wen thngs r gng d way he wants.....he turns physically (Tilak 2.0 and engment 2.0) & emotionlly abusive.....wen thngs don't go d way he wants.........

Anger issues r not romantic....even if ppl keep pstng stuff abt oh he is angry bcoz, he luvs akshu a lot........u can try 2 understand d trauma behind it, if he atleast considers oder ppl around him.......but 4 abhi.....only his feelings matter.........if u don't bhave d way he wants........he will get angry & thro tantrums.......

I dnt knw.....hw ny1 can deal wid sum1 like abhi...for a even a day.......he suffocates akshu.......in d house verythng shuld happen d way he wants.........

Nd evry1 has a prblm wid how kairav is behaving.......I do 2...but if it was abhi dng it for his sister.....der wud b 100 long psts on dis forum praising.....abhi's brthrly luv & concern.........

What you said in blue is so true, there definetly would be praise.

Rest I’ve been saying same to myself for a long time. I like his character mostly but the continued tantrum throwing and controlling behaviour alongside the me me me is not romantic at all.

It’s like he has declared his love for Akshu in the grand ways he did and given her freedom by marrying her but is now clipping her wings which does make him similar to his dad who throws tantrums, controls people and is all me, me me.

Originally posted by: chremma

The writers are messing up his character...Earlier abhi used to put Akshu's pain over his but now idk anymore...i get ot comparison with harsh was wrong very wrong, but did he realise what he has said and done?? No, there is no stress over that, akshu should be vocal about that, she should speak up about her pain, how his words teared her heart.

Also its good that manjari apologised, but did she tell abhi that she misunderstood akshu??? What about the sorrys she deserve for being misunderstood in that dna fiasco...

tbh i lovw the show for abhira, but these writers with open ended tracks are getting on my nerves

It's not one sided. Akshu also doesn't realize what she said was wrong . She is only thinking about his words , not her own actions. Manjari would have refused divorce without her backing up but she had to stand in between them and give her aag pani lecture declaring that she won't budge if he doesn't back off..like why does she have to interfere in their decisions ? And why did she run off to her maayka when she is yearning for her husband ? Now mimi is in hospital , kairav is going crazy, both the families know , her relationship is at stake , all bec of a psycho woman manjari who is not worthy taking a stand . Manjari has failed abhimanyu several times and she has started doing the same with akshu but akshu wants to give precedence to manjari than abhimanyu. So consequences will be these. No wonder.

Some.battles are not worth fighting for. Manjari is one of them . She isn't clear on anything in life but her husband , whereas it should be the opposite. 😆

Originally posted by: iheartChai

I will say one thing about trauma. When you have it and something triggers that fear, anxiety, or anger inside of you, you have very little scope of understanding others around you during those times you are being triggered. Hence the trauma part. It becomes about your fears and the hurt.

This is why Abhimanyu and Akshu are having trouble communicating because they both triggered each other. Both are thinking about themselves and their feelings and misunderstanding each other.

Der is a limit.....2 keep brngng abhi's trauma.......sure....his parents issues r definitely a trauma thng 4 him........but Manjari is d direct victim of d said issue........so, definitely his trauma can't take precedence over it........his so called "trauma" is further hurting manjari........

In dat sense......he hurts his mother as much as his dad does.......

Also.....abhi is nt a teenager 2 keep thrwng tantrums........he is a man well into his mid 30s.... dat 2 a doctor hu works under pressure.....& ..if he hasn't done nythng 2 get his anger under control for d 2 so called imprtnat women in hs life.....den dat says volumes abt wat a horrible prsn he is dat he cant thnk byond himself........trauma or no trauma....anger issues cant b justified.......his self obsession cant b justified.......& its definitely a toxic trait.....