POLL: money, money,money! -- Arpita & Sundar - Page 2

I guess I wrote about an example of my cousin so I will tell about her story only. That's something I saw infront of my own eyes.

My cousin sis was the only sis of 2 big bros. And she was pampered, and she had grown up in luxury. Fell in love with the guy who courted her. Yep like Sundar he used to dream about her. And since was brought in all girls atmosphere both school and college the first touch of opposite gender became her love of life. She threatened us by suicide and my barepapa got ready to marry her off to him. The guy had an extremely nice family. The only thing that didn't match up was finance. And then in covid he lose his job. She is jobless and with a 2 year old kid. Their furnitures became hostage of landlord as they couldn't give rent and they were thrown out of house. My cousin bro kept her family with him but the luxury which his daughter got her daughter could never afford. Now their kids has an intense competition living under the same roof.

Finance plays a big role in everything. More than being rich income for both the people is important. If Sundar marries Arpita he won't feel good just like my jiju taking help from Aryan. But it would have been different case if Arpita had income. Also the lifestyle, even if Arpita makes money she would need to set it up her family with Sundar but she can never be billionaire like her brother. So the next generation will get a competition too. If she decides to adopt Sundar's lifestyle she might feel uncomfortable to bring her children in her brother's house. When it is turned around in Imlie's case, her kids will have all the luxuries of life. If they live one day in Imlie's house than they would be considered humble and great human beings.

But Arpita's kids living in a poor lifestyle won't be called like they are so humble living their whole life in poor atmosphere because that's what the lifestyle they should expect. That's what they deserve.

Neither Sundar nor Arpita can be a billionaire even if they try on their own( the no. Billionaires in India is very less) so they have to live with the kindness of Rathore's (Aryan and Imlie). That would effect Arpita's relationship with Aryan too.

And if I take the possibility of Aryan keeping Sundar with them then there is the possibility Subdar will be isolated from his family as the lifestyle of his will be very different from his family and relatives. He would need to sacrifice.

When a girl marries a rich guy its very common since she is leaving with him it's easy, the guy's family helps her family too but if we turn around what could we expect. Though many works out like my sis has accepted her life but it still can be seen evident from the next generation.

Her daughter is the victim to see her Mama's(mom's bro) girl living a total different lifestyle under the same roof. She will never know how much money her mother used to use for shopping as now she sees her mother saving even a 10 rupees. And when she knows her mom's lifestyle what will happen? Can she accept? Can she digest?

The impact of decisions of love and marriage with a financial gap can be high in next generation too. You may accept it as your fate and work on but the differences still presides. So only few are lucky to completely work it out.

Not all glasses are rainbow tinted.

I hope I didn't offend any. I might have no experience in love and life but I hope my views can add a little to the opinions asked in this post.

Ok. I know a real life story somewhat like Arpita

Super rich girl fell in love with poor boy.. Good person but poor... He was the kind who didn't take any money from his inlaws bec khud he'll do everything

Sounds ideal

Except it wasn't. The girl was the only child. And she was like all this money is anyways mine. Why do i have to struggle for basic necessities. When my dad can give me 2 cars why should i travel in bus.... All this money is going to come to me only one day so why should i spend my years crying

Boy was like main paise nahin loonga. I'll earn no matter how long it takes

They got divorced after 2 years

Ps: since its about the show, more than $, it is the lack of sundars education that irritates me... Kaun apni sarv gunn sampann ladki ko unpadh ladke se byah dega??

Originally posted by: Lethamukund

I am having a personal experience of this kind. I had a love marriage, an intercaste, inter state, inter religious, a class apart. I visited his home two years before marriage and I knew his family conditions, and we did not hide from our family especially my parents. But by the time I proposed for a marriage (I had to since my man never thought of telling that he loves me and he felt that it is not necessary to say and I know it without telling)😡😡🥺🥺, he was in a reputed job in government of India and completed his doctorate. So my parents were worried about only his place of posting Arunachal Pradesh. Not about any caste and class difference. But I sometimes feel like I am lucky one to have a great relationship with smooth sailing for the past 21 years. not all are lucky

thanks for sharing ❤️-- it is nice to read a positive story because usually you hear of how these differences eventually tears couples apart. so I guess my question is what do you think contributed positively to your 21 years? and in relation to this drama, what do you think the writers need to show in order to convince us that sundar-arpita pairing could work?

thanks for sharing those stories as they highlight real world practical problems -- what I find interesting is that many of these failures with financial incompatibility are heightened when the girl is rich and the guy is not. why don't we hear more of issues where the guy is rich and the girl is not. take Imlie and Aryan -- their financial differences was not even a thought for us to discuss...

Financial compatibility doesnt make or break a couple . But its a factor ,drawing from personal experiences ,where i have couples being like arpi and sundar as well aryan and imlie. ( in terms of finances ).

It didnt break the.

But ,did it cause problems for both the couples ? Yes.

It depends how the couples choose to let it influence them. How actively they are taking steps to mitigate it.

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

thanks for sharing those stories as they highlight real world practical problems -- what I find interesting is that many of these failures with financial incompatibility are heightened when the girl is rich and the guy is not. why don't we hear more of issues where the guy is rich and the girl is not. take Imlie and Aryan -- their financial differences was not even a thought for us to discuss...

I think the answer to that is simple... Because in almost all cases (in India) it is the girl leaving her house and living with the guy... So if the guy is rich then he doesn't have any adjustment issues... And for the girl also, adjusting up is easier than adjusting down.

Also, I'm sorry but guys are generally not happy when their wife earns more than them... That leads to insecurities and ego clashes... I'm talking generally and not exceptional cases... So when the girl is rich and they are not, it leads to other conflicts... Which doesn't happen when its the opposite.. Girls are proud that their husband makes $... Guys get insecure that she earns more than me

Originally posted by: Toreadff26

Financial compatibility doesnt make or break a couple . But its a factor ,drawing from personal experiences ,where i have couples being like arpi and sundar as well aryan and imlie. ( in terms of finances ).

It didnt break the.

But ,did it cause problems for both the couples ? Yes.

It depends how the couples choose to let it influence them. How actively they are taking steps to mitigate it.

super! so based on what you have seen, what do you think the writers need to incorporate to show us that sundar-aprita pairing could work?

Originally posted by: bips

I think the answer to that is simple... Because in almost all cases (in India) it is the girl leaving her house and living with the guy... So if the guy is rich then he doesn't have any adjustment issues... And for the girl also, adjusting up is easier than adjusting down.

Also, I'm sorry but guys are generally not happy when their wife earns more than them... That leads to insecurities and ego clashes... I'm talking generally and not exceptional cases... So when the girl is rich and they are not, it leads to other conflicts... Which doesn't happen when its the opposite.. Girls are proud that their husband makes $... Guys get insecure that she earns more than me

unfortuantely, it is true that most men have large egos that need to be stroked. it is why all of us are swooning over aryan singh rathore! he is one in a million! aditya couldn't even handle that his wife, a junior reporter, got her article on front page while his was put in middle page.

Financial comparability is important in a relationship and the couple should discuss about it before the marriage.

In AryLie's case both are earning but in Surpita's case both lack ambition. They cannot survive with only love, it will be better if either Sundar improves professionally or Arpita starts managing Rathore's industries so that they can have a secure future.

Originally posted by: ..Orla..

Financial comparability is important in a relationship and the couple should discuss about it before the marriage.

In AryLie's case both are earning but in Surpita's case both lack ambition. They cannot survive with only love, it will be better if either Sundar improves professionally or Arpita starts managing Rathore's industries so that they can have a secure future.

I find it interesting that many see Sundar's lack of ambition as a problem rather than finances. after all, there are many house husbands who are perfectly happy not to be doing much except look after the house.

so here is a question for all -- if someone is content with their lot in life, is that such a bad thing? do they need to be super ambitious? how do we differentiate between ambition, contentment and laziness?