To be with someone you love or who loves you.... - Page 2

Originally posted by: Sanjanas

if ever in that situation then go ahead and choose the latter is how I sum up today's episode 😊

The two dynamics: Abhay-Deepika and Sia-Wasim are all in the same boat in their own way. We all dream for the ideal romance and marriage - All thanks to growing up with Yashraj and Dharma movies where all these movies advocate to doing ANYTHING to be with the one you love but is reality really found in such stories - maybe for a few blessed souls but for the majority its otherwise.

I remember as a kid loving Kuch kuch hota hai but as an adult rebuking it (I still revisit it in pieces for the iconic jodi and songs but thats it). I was waiting for something more raw...something not so simplistic and then came Jab We Met :):) It was the first mainstream hindi movie which busted your pyaar ek baar hota hai bullshit and kinda catalyzed the trend of normalizing a realistic take on relationships, romance and marriage.

Today's scenes of Abhay-Deepika and Sia-Wasim took me back to Aditya and Geet. When you unconditionally love someone, all you want is to see them happy and do everything in your capacity to make that happen. There is respect and pride in everything they do, however different they could be from you - you accept them, you hang out, as their mere company completes everything. That's what I saw in Abhay and Wasim today - there is absolutely no expectation of anything in return, they are aware that the person in front of them is into someone else but being for them and with them makes them happy...and that's all that matters :):)

So why not choose the person who loves you, if he/she is giving you everything you deserve: Love, respect, equality, time, compassion and no judgement. I hope Deepika and Sia break their shackles of wanting an idealistic Yashraj romance when in reality koi Raj nahi aane wala...but guess what aapka wala Aditya itna bura bhi nahi hai 😉

Let me know your thoughts guys :)

perfect post...summed up nicely

its a myth ki love can happen only once and thats our true love and blah and blah

ITV and bollywood mainly proclaims the same and try to shove this down people's throat so just because its 'True love' you forgive all insults, abuses, cheating, manhandling and again get together with the toxic person

in real life doesnt work that way. i feel you can have a beautiful relationship if you have honesty, commitment, respect and understanding even if you dont have "so called love" but it doesnt work if u just have love and no respect or trust or understanding

ps - I loved and loved Jab we meet..amazing movie

So true. Friendship is the base for love. I too loved Abhay - Deepika and Wasim - Sia scenes. Abhay put his ego, selfishness and took care of Deepika without any expectations. Both Abhay and Wasim are aware that Deepika and Sia don't have any feelings for the other but still they are with them without expecting anything. I hope one day both Deepika and Sia realise their worth and move on from their past.

Originally posted by: Anuprerna_fan

Friendship is the base of every relationship, and specially in true love..The day Abhay became her friend, he leaved his ego, possessiveness and madness, and learnt to care for her happiness and normalcy, and thats how a person evolves in feelings and Abhay will be a greater person, if he learns that friendship is the biggest form of love..and being happy and normal in life can only make you positive and being loved by other person and not by doing silly things...

And I want Abhay to win in every form of phase of life, because he knows how to struggle and care for others..

This is what I want as well my friend....i will watch this show as long as this character graph keeps growing ❤️

Originally posted by: ShinyMishka

Sahi hai. If there's any lesson to take from KKHH, it's that "love is friendship". Even in Jab We Met, Aditya first learned to be Geet's friend and support her unconditionally. Then she realized his true value. I hope something similar happens here with AbDeep.

I completely agree on friendship supremacy and I personally look for that in my future partner who either is or has the potential to be my best friend :) But I don't think KKHH did it the right way....a more genuine and realistic take at that was Jaane Tu imo.

Aditya first learned to be Geet's friend - So this is where I think a little differently, I don't think he did anything with the pursuit of being anything to Geet...it was a byproduct of his unconditional love where it didn't matter to him what she felt about him or for him....he loved her and that was his reality and he did everything to be happy in that reality :) That scene in Jab We Met where she asks him "Main Tujhe Bohut Acchi Lagti Hu Na" and he says "Bohut....but woh meri problem hai" was the most mature and selfless responses ever!! Today Abhay's response of "Aapno meri zarrorat ho ya no ho, main hamesha aapke saath hu" or "I'll believe Vikrant will come back to you cuz you believe in it" rang a very similar bell!

These are two selfless souls, who didn't get much love in their lives so they are used to it. Hence when they experience love for the first time, they are selfish - they totally relish/ value it and do everything in their capacity to keep their love "happy", even if they mean nothing to their "love" - and that takes a lot of courage and self security...which is why i fell for Aditya and now Abhay ❤️

P.S. Thanks for sharing your thoughts :)

Originally posted by: Monstuholic

a well written post 😊

Thank you so much dear!!

Originally posted by: Swetha-Sai

Beautifully penned post by you, dear! 👏

Thanks for always appreciating my jabber 😃

Originally posted by: SONIA441

While most focus on AbDeep, I like that you were able to focus on Wasim's predicament with Sia too here❤️

I hope it takes time but both of them if possible find their ways to each other and if not, they come to share a good friendship which we already see budding 🤗

Thank you soo much for bringing this up!! I love the casting here and both Alma and Nishant are great. I saw good friendship today and that's what i loved. When Sia laid her head on Wasim's shoulder; he was neither mesmerized or surprised like previous times...he was just comfortable....they were comfortable in each other's presence and that is growth in an equation which was beautifully shown in both the shoulder rests 😃

Originally posted by: Ashviniv

True i ditto remember teh scene when Aditya comes to take Geet from the hostel in Simla and she also says same thing ki ye mat samazhana ki ab tumhara chance hai.. i loved how he responded, samazh gaya, yaad rakhunga

after watching the precap on friday, i thought Abhay might respond the same way :D:D:D

After watching the precap which froze on Deepika's statement, my brain shut and i was just left fuming I was like another Abhay insulting session 😡

But Abhay really surprised me yesterday with how he handled the situation. Him unnerved with her statement and merely saying main koi chance maarne nahi aaya hu to his zidd of not moving till she eats (the actual purpose was her to let it out) eventually drew parallels to the scene above you mentioned :)

However this was much harder for Abhay as with Aditya, Geet was always child-like and did bakwaas so Aditya retorting back didn't require as much courage and stability as required by Abhay - the woman in front of him was much older and considered "mature" and the same words can feel so much more demeaning - thus my respect for Abhay grew three folds yesterday ❤️

I have mentioned this several times and will do it yet again that this show breaks stereotypes on age defining your maturity, confidence and/or self security. These days the younger lot seem so much more sorted and better at dealing with their issues than the older ones on the show, proving that there is no age for these attributes.

Originally posted by: fatssrilanka

So true. Friendship is the base for love. I too loved Abhay - Deepika and Wasim - Sia scenes. Abhay put his ego, selfishness and took care of Deepika without any expectations. Both Abhay and Wasim are aware that Deepika and Sia don't have any feelings for the other but still they are with them without expecting anything. I hope one day both Deepika and Sia realise their worth and move on from their past.

This is what we are all hoping for ❤️