Originally posted by: jperalta
I totally get you, Dreamer, in fact there are many moments when I feel the same. However, this is where I feel we are being unfair to Adi too.
He’s being pigheaded, agreed, and his main fault is putting his trust in the wrong place. Imlie is constantly telling him to open his eyes and see the truth, but Adi doesn’t want to let go of the image that Malini has created of herself in his mind in the past seven years. He’s been emotionally abused and manipulated in that relationship, but the saddest part is he hasn’t even realized that, let alone processed it. He keeps saying Malini’s emotionally unstable, but the thought of her doing something to herself for the nth time, as she’s already done several times before, must terrify him on the inside. I will be the first to say it doesn’t excuse what he’s done to Imlie 👎🏼, she has all the right in the world to be upset with him and he needs to find a solution to this on his own, but if we can support Imlie even after she hasn’t walked away for the sake of her own dignity and self-respect, why can’t we give Adi the benefit of the doubt too?
Bottom line is they are both stuck in a bad situation, one of the worst any couple can go through really, but they’re both doing whatever they can to hold on to each other. Imlie by choosing to accept the child and Malini’s presence in Adi’s life for the rest of their life, and Adi by trying his best to win back Imlie’s trust without having to let go of Malini now that he has responsibilities towards her. Adi needs to wake up and smell the coffee, yes. He should redeem himself for having broken Imlie’s faith in him, absolutely. But I personally don’t think there is anyone else who can love Imlie more than Adi.
I used to wonder, if he loves her so much, why doesn’t he let her go? The truth is, love means different things to different people. For all his faults, his love for her is the rawest, most honest emotion he’s felt in his life. He wants her to soar high, but he also knows very well that he cannot survive without her, so he wants to tether himself to her no matter where she goes. For him, it’s not Imlie goes where I go — it’s I go where Imlie goes. This element of selfishness binds them together. It is high time he learns to fight for Imlie the right way and takes preventive measures to protect their relationship, but I don’t think he deserves her walking away from him. The poor man has no one in his life who puts him first the way Imlie does. 😔 I wouldn’t wish that hell on him, at least not while he still has a chance to make things right.