Originally posted by: jperalta
I totally get you, Dreamer, in fact there are many moments when I feel the same. However, this is where I feel we are being unfair to Adi too.
Heās being pigheaded, agreed, and his main fault is putting his trust in the wrong place. Imlie is constantly telling him to open his eyes and see the truth, but Adi doesnāt want to let go of the image that Malini has created of herself in his mind in the past seven years. Heās been emotionally abused and manipulated in that relationship, but the saddest part is he hasnāt even realized that, let alone processed it. He keeps saying Maliniās emotionally unstable, but the thought of her doing something to herself for the nth time, as sheās already done several times before, must terrify him on the inside. I will be the first to say it doesnāt excuse what heās done to Imlie šš¼, she has all the right in the world to be upset with him and he needs to find a solution to this on his own, but if we can support Imlie even after she hasnāt walked away for the sake of her own dignity and self-respect, why canāt we give Adi the benefit of the doubt too?
Bottom line is they are both stuck in a bad situation, one of the worst any couple can go through really, but theyāre both doing whatever they can to hold on to each other. Imlie by choosing to accept the child and Maliniās presence in Adiās life for the rest of their life, and Adi by trying his best to win back Imlieās trust without having to let go of Malini now that he has responsibilities towards her. Adi needs to wake up and smell the coffee, yes. He should redeem himself for having broken Imlieās faith in him, absolutely. But I personally donāt think there is anyone else who can love Imlie more than Adi.
I used to wonder, if he loves her so much, why doesnāt he let her go? The truth is, love means different things to different people. For all his faults, his love for her is the rawest, most honest emotion heās felt in his life. He wants her to soar high, but he also knows very well that he cannot survive without her, so he wants to tether himself to her no matter where she goes. For him, itās not Imlie goes where I go ā itās I go where Imlie goes. This element of selfishness binds them together. It is high time he learns to fight for Imlie the right way and takes preventive measures to protect their relationship, but I donāt think he deserves her walking away from him. The poor man has no one in his life who puts him first the way Imlie does. š I wouldnāt wish that hell on him, at least not while he still has a chance to make things right.