Pandya Store|Episode Discussion #88|Mystery of Raavi's Lehenga - Page 38

Originally posted by: livepraylaugh

Great post.

Managing home and working at job is definitely not a easy job. Some ppl definitely manage both and some can’t. Even I can’t do both as it’s kind of tiresome and ppl do need rest. I mostly order home cooked from outside. It’s not a crime that if women can’t manage both.
Even if staying at home women is not fond of cooking and cleaning, it is also not a crime. Even many ppl in India hire helpers to do all the work. It’s all different to ppl to ppl. Rishita only mistake is not listening to her family as she definitely not fit for Pandya home and lifestyle. She is what she is! She is selfish, realistic, honest about her feelings, sometimes even immature, lazy too. Everyone in this series committed even more worse mistake than her if taken in comparison. I am not definitely her mistakes, everyone does makes mistakes in life. Compared to many characters in this series, Rishita is somewhat good.

Exactly my words. And I think flaws are in everyone. Yes mistakes has happened from everyone in that family and sometimes worse. Her mistakes are childish and not harmful to anyone and it can be forgiven and forgotten. It's not like she gave Suman an overdose or anything. (Sometimes when I see that old lady bossing around I think that could be done 😂😂) sorry but she is getting on my nerves

Bold: 💯💯💯💯

Originally posted by: Shadow_kira

Loll at everyone being happy not to see Dev 😆 but yea, its a bad khichdi. That's why I'm watching in skip mode now 😆

Shiva atleast takes his own stand. Even if in misunderstanding, he does. Krish toh nicely evades topics he doesn't like. But Dev he can't take a stand for himself neither anyone else. Only for his bhabhi he can.

Same here just watching in fast forward mode 😂😂 Enough with this electric current se bhi zyada high voltage drama.

Originally posted by: Shadow_kira

Since I've been skipping family scenes this week, I don't think I should be talking about these interactions. But I do agree about balance and family support.

Re Rishita's character sketch: all I meant is that right from the start she's always thought of herself first. Her pyaar, her shadi; even her andolan for financial independence started because she was getting affected by it....Not saying right or wrong.... Just that she doesn't do anything out of the goodness of her heart.

If that's the thing then I don't think anyone would have been saved from khandar..Except Dev😂😂😂

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

Thank You so much ❤️ did not think anyone will read it seeing the length of it😂

Oh I loved reading it..

It's the plight of most of us...managing the house or job or both should be a personal choice but mostly we are compelled into choosing something that we don't want , just bec there are expectations in a joint family . ...to bring this "progressive thinking " in place , we need to separate the couple after marriage from their parents.... Let them live their life their own way . I would want that for my daughters. If she will leave me , I would want her husband to leave his parents . Everyone must learn to shoulder responsibilities. At least ye daily chic chic chic chic se chutkara milta hai..saas ki , kitchen ki, who will do what ..yahi sab masle hain zindagi mein? Nonsense 🤢

Maid rakho, zomato se order karo, cooking karo, na karo, clean rakhi ghar ko na rakho..let the 2 people who share a life decide all of it . This is not being selfish. This is being practical in today's scenario. If its selfish, it's ok...selfishness which doesn't harm anyone should be OK.

Parents must stop burdening their children with their own expectations and learn to live their life independently..there can be arrangements where they live closeby n be there in the time of need..

I am not talking about ppl like Suman.. bec in her condition, someone has to be there by her side ...that's why she should be thankful to her children and not over burden them with her tantrums.

Originally posted by: deeps07

She should have refused to do it all herself just like she refuses anything else which she doesn't agree with..

That's why I said..her behaviour is very subjective..she is practical and reasonable in one moment..and another moment she becomes someone else..she should just tell suman she would help in kitchen but she needs to maid too..

Same thing with taking care of suman..I understand she did a mistake and she was sorry..but the kitchen scene she started justifying herself ..if she was sorry , than why is she justifying herself that she wouldnot have managed even if she heard..

I think she told she needs maid..And btw even Suman need to keep down her ego and listen to her once..Even elders can learn something from young ones..

Originally posted by: _charu_

Oh I loved reading it..

It's the plight of most of us...managing the house or job or both should be a personal choice but mostly we are compelled into choosing something that we don't want , just bec there are expectations in a joint family . ...to bring this "progressive thinking " in place , we need to separate the couple after marriage from their parents.... Let them live their life their own way . I would want that for my daughters. If she will leave me , I would want her husband to leave his parents . Everyone must learn to shoulder responsibilities. At least ye daily chic chic chic chic se chutkara milta hai..saas ki , kitchen ki, who will do what ..yahi sab masle hain zindagi mein? Nonsense 🤢

Maid rakho, zomato se order karo, cooking karo, na karo, clean rakhi ghar ko na rakho..let the 2 people who share a life decide all of it . This is not being selfish. This is being practical in today's scenario. If its selfish, it's ok...selfishness which doesn't harm anyone should be OK.

Parents must stop burdening their children with their own expectations and learn to live their life independently..there can be arrangements where they live closeby n be there in the time of need..

I am not talking about ppl like Suman.. bec in her condition, someone has to be there by her side ...that's why she should be thankful to her children and not over burden them with her tantrums.

Bold: Loud claps for all these statements.

Yes in cases where your parents are medically dependant on you, you need to stay back. And Suman should indeed be proud of all her sons and especially the daughter in laws for taking care of her so well.

And in today's world being selfish without harming someone physically or mentally and hurting their self respect is like very smart. She is indeed a smart woman and that's the reason I fall in love with her. Like her modern approach be it marriage counsellor, fertility doctor rather than going to temple (but at the end it's belief so can't say anything) and adult diapers etc. She has tried to easen the burden on everyone including herself but Suman just being stubborn doesn't want to listen to youngers.

Sometimes I feel Anita would be the best bahu for her.

Originally posted by: Yooooo

If that's the thing then I don't think anyone would have been saved from khandar..Except Dev😂😂😂

Exactly! No one would even question her. Aur agar Dev zyada bolta toh chod ke aa jaati. Already ghayal tha 😂😂😂 That would be vamp character.

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

Exactly! No one would even question her. Aur agar Dev zyada bolta toh chod ke aa jaati. Already ghayal tha 😂😂😂 That would be vamp character.

Ahh..That would be interesting😂😂

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

At that point she might have thought she will come in good books just like Dhara. But she failed sadly.

Thats what I felt.. rishitha is very impulsive..and thinks very highly of herself..thats why she was all OK at first and later on seeing the vastness of work and her interests she started getting frustrated. I still say..I dnt find it as a fault that has no redemption..she is how she is..she is not evil... But her fluctuating stands make her very less reliable. And she really doesn't care about others feelings or situations when it's a matter about her needs..

Oh really! Suman? I mean that woman before hearing everything she starts taunting. She is too much toxic for the family. And if she would have told that she would put Dhara to work. For her maid and Dhara is same.

Suman qualifies to be a total pain in the ass Saas..totally patriarchial. self-centered..diffentiation between sons and daughter in laws..altogether she is turning out to be pathetic. But it's not about whether suman agrees with rishitha or not. It's about rishitha making her stand clear. No matter how many taunts suman gives..rishitha shouldn't budge from her opinion that its either a maid with Me in the kitchen or hotel food..suman might do emotional drama,threaten and all kind of stuff..but why bother..

She was explaining Dhara the situation. But yes I agree even if she would have heard then how would she manage? I mean she has no experience of it.

But threatening her in the precap? I don't think that's right. I mean how toxic can you be as a family? Mistakes will happen one day or the other. And I hope it's Rishita's dream only.

@bold...its not about experience. All she needed was to help her get and sit in the toilet. Who has experience the first time they does this..they manage somehow and get better at it with experience..

@pink..I agree. Its pathetic. I too hope its a dream..otherwise I am sure we will get some mahaan reason from dhara for her behaviour towards rishitha later on.. like the batwaara kaandh. 🤪

Originally posted by: deeps07

@bold...its not about experience. All she needed was to help her get and sit in the toilet. Who has experience the first time they does this..they manage somehow and get better at it with experience..

@pink..I agree. Its pathetic. I too hope its a dream..otherwise I am sure we will get some mahaan reason from dhara for her behaviour towards rishitha later on.. like the batwaara kaandh. 🤪

Bold: I do understand. But I remember the first time I tried to clean my granny. I made a mess for which I got even scolded. It's not just about making someone sit. It's even about the comfort both have. That's why if Rishita is not comfortable with that work she didn't have to take the responsibility/given the responsibility (I actually don't know what happened before as I see it in skip mode).