Pandya Store|Episode Discussion #88|Mystery of Raavi's Lehenga - Page 37

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

Yeahh she thinks for herself. And I didn't mean to outburst like that. But since in my family I have always seen and perceived I liked and feel comfortable around people who thought about themselves and then family, like my aunt. Atleast she is happy and not worrying around. On the other hand my elder aunt is always stressed about everything happening in family and that pretty much scares me. Hence I commented. Didn't mean to offend anyone. But personal experience you can say.

Both go wrong and make mistakes but the younger aunt just says sorry and moves on. But the elder one repents for like 2-3 weeks. That's what makes me see this serial with a more personal experience. My mom is just sandwiched between all but managing. You can say like how Ravi was.

None taken. Of course, personal experience does influence the way we see the characters and understand the story. People with differing personalities exist and I try my best to empathize.

I will admit that I've only been watching Shivi this week as I can't handle family drama. So my opinion about Rishita is from before. I've been treating this show as a bad khichdi with too many badly connected stories.

Also, just for context, I was initially commenting on why Rishita may or may not try to be a mediator for Shivi, the way they're suggesting in the precap. My point was that she needed the incentive that people will forgive her to motivate her. Ultimately, I don't think any of her attempts will have any impact though.

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

Okay here you go. I could not stop myself actually from typing this.

But the fact that people expect women to be managing everything single handedly shows how much ITV has glorified women being over worked. If someone does not want to do a particular work or can't find time there shouldn't be a compulsion that he/she has to do it. It's a family not a prison. (But in Pandya Nivas case I can't say much 😂)

And Rishita is guilty for her behavior. She had to be there but she couldn't. She went to give the interview. If she had heard Suman maybe she would have helped her. And she even suggested Adult Diapers for her. Her thoughts are innovative and right. If Suman wears adult diapers there wont be tension of her urinating in public na? And don't tell that it doesn't seem right. My both grandmother's are/were in diapers because they can't walk or balance themselves and this has even reduced the tension of them of embarrassing themselves. So when there is a problem you need to search for solution. Adapt and Evolve. There is no harm.

And her wanting to help the family. She is working for the family only. Because she knows her needs can't be afforded by the family where the whole finance is looked after by Dhara Gaumbi and all Dhara's devars offer their savings also to her. So now she wants to work and look after her needs. So what's wrong in that? I mean if a woman wants to work for herself why is it so wrong? And anyhow she will contribute to the family also! So what's the big deal.

And really the house members should stop interfering in Shivi's relationship. They already interfered once and this is the condition. Now they should rather refrain themselves.

I had thought After Dishita get married Ravi will be sad and her constant banter with Shiva will give her a sense of belongingness and thats how their marriage will happen. But here Dhara Mahan told get married and both did. Now again she wants to interfere.

Rishita even gave an idea of marriage counsellor but Suman rejected it. Now if a girl is giving so many sensible ideas just think about it no. What is this behaviour that "I am right". She is a modern girl and has modern ideas. It can easen out the burden over everyone. But no as long as a woman doesn't work her a*s off she is not a good person.

And please she offered to do the house work because she knew how much Dhara and Suman wanted a child and how they were being taunted for the same. How much the family wanted the child. Hence she was taking care of all. But one person will do how much he/she can do. Mistakes will happen so what you will term her as self centred. Everyone needs an easier life goddammit. No one wants to be working hectic 24/7 atleast not me tho.

And Rishita stands for what she feels is right. She stood against her dad in Shiva's matter, not even caring that her dad can be jailed. She stood with Dhara when all were taunting, she stood with Ravi when she came to know what Shiva did in temple, and stood with Dhara again when all were blaming her. Just that she doesn't keep anything in her heart and this irritates people.

P.s sorry for this long lecture. But yes people need to understand. Over-worked women should not be glorified.

Long lecture, 💯💯 for it

Originally posted by: Shadow_kira

None taken. Of course, personal experience does influence the way we see the characters and understand the story. People with differing personalities exist and I try my best to empathize.

I will admit that I've only been watching Shivi this week as I can't handle family drama. So my opinion about Rishita is from before. I've been treating this show as a bad khichdi with too many badly connected stories.

Also, just for context, I was initially commenting on why Rishita may or may not try to be a mediator for Shivi, the way they're suggesting in the precap. My point was that she needed the incentive that people will forgive her to motivate her. Ultimately, I don't think any of her attempts will have any impact though.

Yes maybe she will. But when she suggested about Marriage counselor to save ShiVi marriage that time she didn't have any such motivation. But she still tried to.

Yes as long as both Shiva and Ravi don't sort out their differences, even maha saas ka kuch nahi chalega. Let them be and take their decisions.

Originally posted by: _charu_

Long lecture, 💯💯 for it

Thank You so much ❤️ did not think anyone will read it seeing the length of it😂

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

Yes maybe she will. But when she suggested about Marriage counselor to save ShiVi marriage that time she didn't have any such motivation. But she still tried to.

Yes as long as both Shiva and Ravi don't sort out their differences, even maha saas ka kuch nahi chalega. Let them be and take their decisions.

@bold- that's what we're already seeing, and I really hope that we continue to see. Its Shivi ka rishta and nobody else gets to make decisions for them ❤️

Originally posted by: Shadow_kira

@bold- that's what we're already seeing, and I really hope that we continue to see. Its Shivi ka rishta and nobody else gets to make decisions for them ❤️

Exactly no one should be doing that. They know what's right for them. Anyhow we saw that realisation is hitting them hard so lets wait for the actual proposal. 😍😍

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

Exactly no one should be doing that. They know what's right for them. Anyhow we saw that realisation is hitting them hard so lets wait for the actual proposal. 😍😍

Lolll proposal ko bohottttt time hai 😆 if next week is Shivi, the following week will be family. But yes, separation has had the right effect on them.

Originally posted by: Shadow_kira

Lolll proposal ko bohottttt time hai 😆 if next week is Shivi, the following week will be family. But yes, separation has had the right effect on them.

That's the problem. The writers don't know how to incorporate everything. Just hawa hawa mein. Matlab now I don't even feel Shiva and Krish are a part of Pandya family. Dev toh it's better he disappeared. Except for the time when they have to taunt Shiva and Krish comes to cheer them up.

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

Okay here you go. I could not stop myself actually from typing this.

But the fact that people expect women to be managing everything single handedly shows how much ITV has glorified women being over worked. If someone does not want to do a particular work or can't find time there shouldn't be a compulsion that he/she has to do it. It's a family not a prison. (But in Pandya Nivas case I can't say much 😂)

And Rishita is guilty for her behavior. She had to be there but she couldn't. She went to give the interview. If she had heard Suman maybe she would have helped her. And she even suggested Adult Diapers for her. Her thoughts are innovative and right. If Suman wears adult diapers there wont be tension of her urinating in public na? And don't tell that it doesn't seem right. My both grandmother's are/were in diapers because they can't walk or balance themselves and this has even reduced the tension of them of embarrassing themselves. So when there is a problem you need to search for solution. Adapt and Evolve. There is no harm.

And her wanting to help the family. She is working for the family only. Because she knows her needs can't be afforded by the family where the whole finance is looked after by Dhara Gaumbi and all Dhara's devars offer their savings also to her. So now she wants to work and look after her needs. So what's wrong in that? I mean if a woman wants to work for herself why is it so wrong? And anyhow she will contribute to the family also! So what's the big deal.

And really the house members should stop interfering in Shivi's relationship. They already interfered once and this is the condition. Now they should rather refrain themselves.

I had thought After Dishita get married Ravi will be sad and her constant banter with Shiva will give her a sense of belongingness and thats how their marriage will happen. But here Dhara Mahan told get married and both did. Now again she wants to interfere.

Rishita even gave an idea of marriage counsellor but Suman rejected it. Now if a girl is giving so many sensible ideas just think about it no. What is this behaviour that "I am right". She is a modern girl and has modern ideas. It can easen out the burden over everyone. But no as long as a woman doesn't work her a*s off she is not a good person.

And please she offered to do the house work because she knew how much Dhara and Suman wanted a child and how they were being taunted for the same. How much the family wanted the child. Hence she was taking care of all. But one person will do how much he/she can do. Mistakes will happen so what you will term her as self centred. Everyone needs an easier life goddammit. No one wants to be working hectic 24/7 atleast not me tho.

And Rishita stands for what she feels is right. She stood against her dad in Shiva's matter, not even caring that her dad can be jailed. She stood with Dhara when all were taunting, she stood with Ravi when she came to know what Shiva did in temple, and stood with Dhara again when all were blaming her. Just that she doesn't keep anything in her heart and this irritates people.

P.s sorry for this long lecture. But yes people need to understand. Over-worked women should not be glorified.

Great post.

Managing home and working at job is definitely not a easy job. Some ppl definitely manage both and some can’t. Even I can’t do both as it’s kind of tiresome and ppl do need rest. I mostly order home cooked from outside. It’s not a crime that if women can’t manage both.
Even if staying at home women is not fond of cooking and cleaning, it is also not a crime. Even many ppl in India hire helpers to do all the work. It’s all different to ppl to ppl. Rishita only mistake is not listening to her family as she definitely not fit for Pandya home and lifestyle. She is what she is! She is selfish, realistic, honest about her feelings, sometimes even immature, lazy too. Everyone in this series committed even more worse mistake than her if taken in comparison. I am not definitely her mistakes, everyone does makes mistakes in life. Compared to many characters in this series, Rishita is somewhat good.

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

That's the problem. The writers don't know how to incorporate everything. Just hawa hawa mein. Matlab now I don't even feel Shiva and Krish are a part of Pandya family. Dev toh it's better he disappeared. Except for the time when they have to taunt Shiva and Krish comes to cheer them up.

Loll at everyone being happy not to see Dev 😆 but yea, its a bad khichdi. That's why I'm watching in skip mode now 😆