What does Raghav think marriage is? (August 10 episode) - Page 4

Originally posted by: -abz-

Like I said before, both are at fault.

Raghav is trying to explain his situation and Pallavi is trying to explain hers. What they need at this point is a full fledged conversation. Pallavi right now is totally unrelatable but still this does not make Raghav less culpable. Raghav is acting on his insecurities and impulse. Pallavi needs to understand this, also at the same time Raghav needs to think about the circumstances that is pressing Pallavi down. It cannot only be her fault only right? This time the contribution to this problem weighs on her but at a grasping point, Raghav has only been crying his eyes out the entire time. She can be unsafe, Mandaar challenged him and Raghav is okay with her being under the unsafe line? As a woman I hate it when other women are oblivious to vibes. Yet, there are some people who get emotionally manipulated. Raghav is only afraid that Pallavi is choosing Mandaar over him. For the umpteenth time, Pallavi confessed her love to Raghav and not Mandaar. Pallavi is being manipulated emotionally and Raghav's worry is about their relationship. They are married, they confessed their love and what more is needed?

If being beside each other 24*7 and saying 'I love you', having cheesy romance is love for them...then that relationship is nothing but a joke for me. They are not showing their strength in the most needed moment. Pallavi emotionally looks out for Raghav if this is not understood, then what they are sharing is very shallow. What Pallavi did for the past few episodes is unjustifiable, I cannot find a justification for Raghav either. They need to sit and talk; that's what they need to do now.

I cannot fathom to put words forward to describe what they have done to their relationship.

For tracker he realised his mistake and said sorry

He didnt want pallu go dhouse because he is worried for her safety but pallu naraz hokar emotional blackmailing ki shikaar hokar chali gayi

Aur kasam me trap hogayi raghu abb tak dont know about the kasam she gave to sanki

Later in mangala gowri he tried everything to go near pallavi but sunki budda aur mandar ne usko apni hi wife milne nahi diya

Aur award function me tho no one only pallu is to blamed for not reaching function on time because she forget about her husbands important even for baby sitting mandar

Abb insan ko apni hi wife par naraz aur upset hone ka bhi hak nahi hai

Raghu went to dhouse to take her back even though in drunken state but he went right what else he can do

Communication ke liye mauka bhi to chahiye na dhouse nahi jaathi to woh mauka milta abb bilkul nahi hai

Originally posted by: jakkula.sirisha

For tracker he realised his mistake and said sorry

He didnt want pallu go dhouse because he is worried for her safety but pallu naraz hokar emotional blackmailing ki shikaar hokar chali gayi

Aur kasam me trap hogayi raghu abb tak dont know about the kasam she gave to sanki

Later in mangala gowri he tried everything to go near pallavi but sunki budda aur mandar ne usko apni hi wife milne nahi diya

Aur award function me tho no one only pallu is to blamed for not reaching function on time because she forget about her husbands important even for baby sitting mandar

Abb insan ko apni hi wife par naraz aur upset hone ka bhi hak nahi hai

Raghu went to dhouse to take her back even though in drunken state but he went right what else he can do

Communication ke liye mauka bhi to chahiye na dhouse nahi jaathi to woh mauka milta abb bilkul nahi hai

Ussko Pallavi par naraaz hone ka poora haq hai. Pallavi has hurted him, iska matlab yeh nehi hai ki he is not wrong. He needs to use his brains to connect with the dots. She has messed this up a big time. Mangla Gaur mein Pallavi didn't fall on Mandaar's arms out of ishq wala love, she was drugged. What Mandaar and Sanki did was pathetic but that does not justify the lack of communication.

Devdaas banke drunk hona and rona is usesless. A person who has watched Raghav's character development closely will understand what they have done to Raghav. Remember how cleverly Raghav snapped the pencamera? Keerti is as close to Raghav as Pallavi is, when he can use his brains for her why can't he use his brains for Pallavi?

The problem is the bad writing. They have destroyed Raghav's smartness. Buddhu banadiya unnlogon ne usse.

Originally posted by: Jalebiness

Watch YHM to know what he can do with his own show🤣

You may not able to even recognise Raghav and Pallavi after one/two leap😆

It feels sad that many ITV shows starts with unique storyline and is loved so much but they ruin it without a proper reason to such extend that you find no logic.

Ruining Pallavi was not needed they could have actually kept loop holes from their marriage where Pallavi would have forced to go to D house and probably get Blackmailed by VD that they will make Raghav arrested by saying the truth of their marriage to the court and Pallavi will ignore Raghav and hurt him deliberately (even that wouldn't make sense whatsoever but would have been much much better then her choosing her ex blindly over Raghav) and then their pain could have been related so much..

Also, She had her voice when Raghav spoke against Mandar but now can't stand against VD for Raghav. She won't even think once that if VD behaved with Raghav like this at her presence than what must have transpired between them at that function when she was unconscious that led Raghav to leave her and go. Such Idiot Pallavi has been turned to. And if she doesn't have a painful redemption, I won't ever relate to her.

I watched initial episodes of yhm after too much shagun glorification & jap I stopped to watch as watching those kachra were not cup of my tea😆 frankly I never thought that this mandar track would be come out like this rubbish. Never thought pallavi role would be destroyed this level. I thought after entry of Mandar; Mandar & vD family tried to bring back Pallavi to prove raghavi marriage was not legal using law( to fake or some way) but raghavi would try hard & soul to save their marriage. Huge emotional turmoil, agony in both of them for fear of losing each other. D family might compel Pallavi to come in D house to harm Raghav but Raghav got to know these all then both raghavi planned against mandar & VD & eventually they would succeed to prove their marriage was quite legal & expose mandar before family. This was my imagination on current track.

Alrighty, let's begin! I'm quite enjoying your inputs on the forum btw, you seem to find more flaws in Raghav than the rest of us and it certainly makes for interesting conversation and healthy debates (hopefully!). 😊

Originally posted by: BrhannadaArmour

What does Raghav think marriage is?

I actually think his views on marriage are far more sorted than his wife, which is surprising to say the least because he's been all alone for a good chunk of his life!

Sure, Raghav and Pallavi started off on the wrong foot, but he was always adamant on treating their deal as an honest marriage that entails open communication between both partners. Something as simple as that is hardly ever shown on ITV, so Raghav's role of a husband was definitely a breath of fresh air.

He will tell Pallavi what he needs or wants, and it is her responsibility to do it for him?

Absolutely not! He has never expected Pallavi to adhere to his needs or wants (barring the time he forced her into this marriage). That being said, even if Raghav expected that of his wife, it's not entirely wrong so long as he's doing the same for her. If he's fulfilling her needs and wants, then it's not absurd of him to request the same from her.

When is it Raghav's turn to support Pallavi and trust her out of his sight (without a tracker)?

The entire length of the show actually! The tracker was for her safety, not his lack of faith in his wife. If anything, Raghav has been the driving force behind Pallavi's coming of age into an independent and feisty woman. She wasn't nearly like that in Deshmukh Niwas. Raghav pushed the goal post farther and farther away for her with each of his challenges, thus motivating her to achieve each goal with more fervour than the last. If Raghav didn't turn her world upside down, she'd still be performing CPR on a comatose DSE. Let's face it, the fate and financials of that shop were not going to turn around with her meagre efforts. Raghav supported her in plenty of mysterious and mischievous ways!

Pallavi needs his permission to show compassion to her family?

Isn't she a person that he loves for her qualities, including her compassion?

Or, is she just a trophy with his name on it?

I don't think so... I don't think Raghav has ever put her in a place where she needs to seek his permission to do/say anything. Even before they were married, she would walk into his house like she owns the place and he would simply taunt her, but he never once implied that she needs his permission to be herself. Yes, he loves her for her qualities, mainly her compassion, but I don't fault him for not loving her for her lack of common sense and gut instinct. Her compassion or sense of responsibility towards her family has irked him at times, but never ruffled his feathers enough for him to hold her back. I mean... let's not forget that Raghav made sure his father-in-law was out of jail within minutes when he was taken in for stealing a necklace from Raghav's showroom.

If Raghav didn't want her showing compassion to her family, he would've gone to any measure to stop her. It's not beyond his means to put an end to this nonsense, by hook or by crook. He's choosing to take a step back because Pallavi wants to handle this matter firsthand and he's been trusting her to do so without damaging their relationship.

Did he ask Pallavi's permission to choose Kirti over her, or did he just pay off the witness, steal the pen camera, and make a false confession?

You're right, he did all of that, but he never failed to speak to his wrongdoings as plainly as you've listed them. He could've lied to his wife in an effort to protect his sister. Instead he chose to be honest with his wife, lend an ear to her concerns, say his piece, and maneuver the situation in such a way that he's able to protect both, his sister and his wife. He said so in as many words that he's willing to take the hit for Keerti's crimes so he can protect her future and simultaneously give Pallavi's family the closure they seek. He could've just as easily hired someone else to take the blame and save himself the trouble. I'm sure plenty of laymen owe Raghav Rao a favour, and if not, I'm sure he can easily bribe someone to go to jail for him. However, he wanted to take the blame himself because he understands the gravity of what his sister did and how it shook an entire family to its core. Raghav understands that the death of a family member leaves a permanent void, he wasn't trying to brush Mandaar's death under the rug by any means. According to him, he was going to kill two birds with one stone; but yes, he handled that situation rather poorly. I guess that's what draws me to him - he's flawed and he has no qualms about accepting that.

If Pallavi faints while dancing, and mutters something in a daze, that is a reason for Raghav to doubt her fidelity, to shout at her?

Not at all. That wasn't his reason either (unless that's what he said in today's episode, I haven't seen it yet). His reason to doubt her fidelity is because her actions are constantly going against her intentions. Similarly, when Pallavi questioned her place in his life during the Keerti fiasco, it was because his actions were going against his intentions.

Shouldn't his concern be for her health, to ask why she fainted?

He tried as soon as he got home that night and his Amma handed him the phone. He wanted to speak to her to ask how she suddenly fainted right when he turned his back to her. Mandaar switched off her phone though so he couldn't get through to her. Not Pallavi's fault, yes, but certainly not Raghav's fault either.

If she forgets about his special moment for the sake of someone less important, he isn't happy to see her anymore?

If you truly love someone, shouldn't that person always be more important to you than what she does or fails to do?

Uhh... depends, to be honest! I'm rather short-tempered myself and I know when I'm upset, I weigh my partner's actions more than my love for him. Anger does that to a person. Raghav's anger isn't unjustified just because he loves her. It's because he loves her that he's willing to fight it out.

This is emotional abuse by Raghav. Sure, I believe what he said when the liquor loosened his tongue: he desperately loves Pallavi in the sense that he cannot live without her - the same obsession that we are supposed to see from Mandar.

I don't see it as emotional abuse by Raghav, rather just his funky choice of words. Emotional abuse is what VD and Mandaar are inflicting on Pallavi, and to some extent, what Pallavi is inflicting on Raghav.

Telling your wife that you cannot live without her isn't abusive, it's just the truth. It would be manipulative if let's say Pallavi was preoccupied with her job or with taking care of her ill mother/brother/whoever. For Raghav to tell her he can't live without her in those situations would imply that he's indirectly asking her to leave her job/loved ones to spend time with him and that is utterly ridiculous in every sense of the word! However, Pallavi is preoccupied with nursing her healthy ex-husband, so for her current husband to create a ruckus is highly warranted in my opinion.

(I'm not convinced that Mandar actually wants Pallavi; he isn't exactly trying to get to know her.)

I agree, his intentions seem unclear and his actions are awfully disturbing. I can't put my finger on whether he's truly after Pallavi or whether he's after Raghav's estate, or whether he's got his eyes on something even bigger!

So, what would Raghav do if Pallavi treated him the way she treats Mandar? If she moved on from him, as she has the right to do - legal marriage notwithstanding, would he throw away his life to make her feel guilty? I hope not; that's not the kind of love that comforts and supports and cherishes.

I'm a little confused by what you mean here. Are you asking if Pallavi moved on from Raghav the way she has moved on from Mandaar? If so, then no, Raghav would not bat an eyelid. If Pallavi willingly and wholeheartedly shut him out of her life, closed that chapter, even threw out that book entirely, then he wouldn't object whatsoever.

Just to be clear though, Pallavi and Mandaar's marriage was hardly a marriage. He disappeared shortly after their vows only for his dead body to show up a week later.

At first, I thought that Raghav drove drunk to Deshmukh Niwas, taking the risk of crippling himself and becoming even more dependent on Pallavi, but it seems that he had his driver take him this time. Dare I hope that this is the first step towards Raghav acknowledging how his drinking affects Pallavi and others?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think this show has ever shown Raghav drinking and driving. In fact, that's something I truly appreciate about this show - they don't frown upon drinking all together, instead they portray drinking responsibly.

As for that special moment - Raghav said repeatedly that he didn't want to go to the awards ceremony (because he was mad at Pallavi), but he went only because Jaya promised him Pallavi. In other words, Raghav doesn't value the recognition of his talents by professionals, nor good publicity for his company; he used the event as an occasion for Pallavi to prove her fidelity. When she wasn't on time, he disrespected the award-givers by walking out; when Pallavi arrived late, he aired private grievances in public. She embarrassed him, so he embarrassed his hosts and her. If you truly love someone, shouldn't you cover her shortcomings in public?

You're right, he doesn't value the recognition of his talents by professionals nor good publicity for his company. Not because he's mad at Pallavi though, but because he truly never cared. He was willing to shut down an entire showroom instead of trying to figure out who was involved in the theft had Pallavi not advised him otherwise. Raghav has never cared for recognition or validation from his peers or his family. He knows his hard work will take him wherever he wants to go, the same way it has brought him and his empire to where they both stand today. Attending this award ceremony was more of his Amma's ploy than anything else - she thought it would act as a bridge between Raghav and Pallavi so she promised them each other and when that didn't materialize, everyone naturally had a sour reaction.

Remember when Milind didn't worry about embarrassment or losing money because Manasi cancelled her wedding? He just hugged her. That's love - you value a person, not what you lose on her account.

Indeed! Raghav's just the same, I assure you. He has much more money to spare on top of that, so I highly doubt he's counting his losses when it comes to his loved ones. He bore a massive 13 crore loss in order to get Pallavi the Nawab family order. He would send his mother money every month even though she wanted nothing to do with him. Believe me, he's not counting bills.

Meanwhile, Jaya seems to have completely forgotten her advice that Raghav and Pallavi should unite and punch their problem together. Now, she thinks it is her place to decide when a wife may or may not see her husband. If Jaya sincerely believes that Raghav is in no state to talk to anyone, even then she should step back and let him turn Pallavi away himself if he wants to. What is more important, Raghav's petulance or the fact that Pallavi came all the way to him? Never mind, Pallavi has come to her own home, so get out of the way, Jaya.

I can see that side of it, so fair point. Jaya pulled a bit of a VD stunt when you put it that way. The way I saw it was that she just doesn't want her son to spiral any further and she doesn't want any more toxicity in her house. Pallavi disappointed Amma too, so perhaps Jaya shut the door on her to show her own disappointment as a mother-in-law and not necessarily her son's heartbreak.

Moving on, yes, while it is more important that Pallavi came all the way to Raghav, I feel that there is a time and place limitation on almost everything in life. For example, when we try out for school sports teams, we have to show up for try-outs at a certain time. We can't show up afterwards and still expect a fair chance at showing our skills and being considered for selection. Likewise (and yes, I understand matters of the heart work very differently), Pallavi can't just show up when she has a minute to spare and expect the other party to be available at that same minute to hear her apology. In real life, we miss our chance sometimes and it sucks, it really, truly sucks!

You too, Vijay. Let Pallavi bring her drunk husband in for the night. You have nothing to gain by leaving the Rosetta Stone of "I love you" rattling at your door.

Honestly! This man needs to quit it with his superiority complex! How his wife puts up with him is beyond me!

Hope this didn't bore you!

Originally posted by: d.padmini

@ I highly doubt she has realised the extent of the damage done...she was still in defensive mode..trying to justify herself and her missing from the event...not understanding the pain behind what Raghav's said..

She just saw he is angry for her not making to function on time..but she didn't understand the disappointment , the pain, the broken heart of raghav ..

Everyone keeps talking about raghav anger management issue...like seriously.. a man whose wife is busy nursing her ex .is not even supposed to get angry and show resentment...like really..

The point you highlighted I agree to that..... didn't want to bash her more so choose those limited words.

And coming to last part it's not managing anger issue it's more about being hurt and letting down which is coming out as frustration n anger.

Raghav isn't wrong in letting out what he is going through. And by doing he is adviced to know how to manage anger then same advice should be given to Pallavi and her so called Deshmukh's.

There are so many points I agree to. Raghav has been very immature. I love him but his take on this situation has been so poor. He was never the understanding types, he's always reckless especially when it comes to feelings. Love is too new for him and marriage is even a bigger mission for him. The truth is, he is clueless about how a marriage is meant to be.

Pallavi has always supported Raghav and when it's turn to support her, regardless of how silly her equation with that family is, he is acting up. A mature man will gauge the situation and once he finds out that her ex is evil, he will take all measures to make sure that his wife is safe. But Raghav is just a complete mess right now. It's his feelings over his duties as a husband.

Both of them are failing in their duties, I don't know who's failing more. Pallavi is clearly silly, I don't wish to discuss her take on the D's but she is genuine. There is not one fake bone in her and that is what Raghav loved about her. She also happens to be the same woman who overlooked Raghav's misdeeds and gave him a chance with his family even before his repentance started. Now it is the same quality that is irritating us because it's not directed towards Raghav, but if we see from an unbiased stance, this is Pallavi. And this is Raghav - reckless, impulsive and explosive. His brains are put to use in his business but he's always an emotional mess from the very beginning. That is why I am personally loving this track because their "I love you' has been debunked already by the tests thrown at them by time. It will polish them to be better partners and better lovers. Saying I love you came into the story only for it to be put to a grueling test, and I'm loving it because both of them are failing equally at it. Once they hit rock bottom, it's only up then onward.

One more thing - In a marriage, especially a new one which started off on the wrong foot, the hard work must be doubled, and both of them have not yet put in any specific efforts to make things work for them. Words are not enough. Right now, they're actually unknowingly working against each other and allowing outsiders to meddle into their lives. Is it that they have a point to prove to each other? Because in a marriage, you don't work towards proving a point but you work towards living harmoniously. If one partner is silly, the other one needs to have double brains. Balance it. But here, both of them are explosive 😆 Humare mein kehte hai na, beta, samajhdari se kaam lo, warna baat aur bigad jayegi. One of them has to do this. I wish it to be Raghav once he's done with his heartbreak.

Honestly it seems like people are highly inclined to forgive the ML if the ML is extremely visually attractive. I see the same thing with one of the ML in Pandya Store who is extremely abusive towards his wife but people just minimize it because they think he is attractive.

As for Pallavi and RR- I don't care for either of them. RR using a tracker and sending a selfie to Mandar was sick regardless of how people are defending it. If people can forgive him because he said sorry then they can forgive Pallavi for being at her in-laws for a few days. I understand that the pretext of that is to take care of Mandar but if I was Pallavi and I found that out then I would definitely need a few days away from my so-called loving husband.

With everything that RR has done to Pallavi in terms of the emotional abuse in the beginning of the series and then blackmailing her to marry him-this is not comparable at all. Yet, Pallavi has stood by him and even when all the evidence was pointing towards RR killing Mandar she still chose to believe RR.

Pallavis biggest fault is her "mahanta". It is annoying to see her always think that what she is doing is right even when people older then her are trying to show her the light. In terms of helping Mandar, I still think it comes from a place of obligation to the trashy D fam which is just unfortunate. We know she is a character that had centered her entire lives around that horrible family despite how horribly they treated her.

It'll take a bit of time before she can finally see a life without them and can finally live for herself! I really am begging the makers to have at least 1 track where Pallavi finishes her Kathak training!

But in short, I hate both of them most of the time. Yet I still hold out hope that the makers can redeem their characters and I can have at least one ITV show that I can confidently recommend to other people.

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

There are so many points I agree to. Raghav has been very immature. I love him but his take on this situation has been so poor. He was never the understanding types, he's always reckless especially when it comes to feelings. Love is too new for him and marriage is even a bigger mission for him. The truth is, he is clueless about how a marriage is meant to be.

Pallavi has always supported Raghav and when it's turn to support her, regardless of how silly her equation with that family is, he is acting up. A mature man will gauge the situation and once he finds out that her ex is evil, he will take all measures to make sure that his wife is safe. But Raghav is just a complete mess right now. It's his feelings over his duties as a husband.

Both of them are failing in their duties, I don't know who's failing more. Pallavi is clearly silly, I don't wish to discuss her take on the D's but she is genuine. There is not one fake bone in her and that is what Raghav loved about her. She also happens to be the same woman who overlooked Raghav's misdeeds and gave him a chance with his family even before his repentance started. Now it is the same quality that is irritating us because it's not directed towards Raghav, but if we see from an unbiased stance, this is Pallavi. And this is Raghav - reckless, impulsive and explosive. His brains are put to use in his business but he's always an emotional mess from the very beginning. That is why I am personally loving this track because their "I love you' has been debunked already by the tests thrown at them by time. It will polish them to be better partners and better lovers. Saying I love you came into the story only for it to be put to a grueling test, and I'm loving it because both of them are failing equally at it. Once they hit rock bottom, it's only up then onward.

One more thing - In a marriage, especially a new one which started off on the wrong foot, the hard work must be doubled, and both of them have not yet put in any specific efforts to make things work for them. Words are not enough. Right now, they're actually unknowingly working against each other and allowing outsiders to meddle into their lives. Is it that they have a point to prove to each other? Because in a marriage, you don't work towards proving a point but you work towards living harmoniously. If one partner is silly, the other one needs to have double brains. Balance it. But here, both of them are explosive 😆 Humare mein kehte hai na, beta, samajhdari se kaam lo, warna baat aur bigad jayegi. One of them has to do this. I wish it to be Raghav once he's done with his heartbreak.

Probably the most well written response in this entire thread.

I really agree with the bold! Someone has said something similar before (it might have been you but I don't rememnber), and basically if Pallavi was any different to how she is now then she would never have forgiven RR and would never have fallen in love with him.

Remember when a day after their forced marriage she had RR comb her hair and was super playful about it? Yeah if she can be that cordial to RR after the forced marriage she can be the same to the D fam who have at the least, sheltered her for 2 years and on some instances have showed her love.

To be fair I don't think D fam actually loves Pallavi but to Pallavi their affection meant the world so of course she will do anything for them. Granted that is also the thing I get irritated about.

I cannot agree with you.

Raghav is not wrong in expecting Pallavi to put him above Mandaar. The tracker was placed for her safety, Raghav does not trust Mandaar and we have seen what happened, she went missing the entire day and did not have the presence of mind to text or call her husband or mother in law. She comes back wearing the chudiyas Mandaar gifted her. What does that say about Pallavi? Either she is clueless or completely dumb in the relationship department.

Pallavi decides to move in with the Deshmukhs without consulting Raghav. How would she like it if Raghav moved in with his ex without discussing it with Pallavi?

A marriage means a united team of two working together to make their unit stronger. We have not seen this from Pallavi. Raghav does trust her otherwise he would not be wanting her still. I do not think Raghav is the kind of man that would go bull dozing his way into the Deshmukh house and demand Pallavi to come with him if he truly believed his wife was in love with her ex-husband. He has asked Pallavi before and she has told Raghav she will never put anyone above him. Yet she does that, time and time again.

As for that drugged stupor and holding on to Mandaar’s hand, how was Raghav to know what had transpired? Any man or woman would be shaken to see his/her spouse muttering for another not to leave her/him and clinging on to his/her arm as if for dear life.

Pallavi not showing up to the award ceremony was plain wrong. Raghav rightly asked her, why didn’t she use her phone to call, there were others present at the Deshmukh house, why the need for her to miss her husband’s great day and cater to her ex? She even admits she forgot. That was the last straw. If you care for someone deeply, how do you forget? How CAN you forget?

As for Raghav walking out after the awards, we do not know whether the organizers were embarrassed or not, the event might have been over. He was humiliated and embarrassed by Pallavi not showing up as promised. When she shows up finally, it is but natural for him to ask her questions. He is her husband, for god’s sake, and she better have answers ready when she constantly puts a loser ex over her current husband. She did not have answers and angered/hurt Raghav more.

As for the drunk scene in the pre-cap, yes, the guy is hurt, humiliated, feels betrayed and made a fool of, if Raghav wants to get drunk and make a scene, let him. Pallavi did not come running out, she is a grown woman, what if the sanki crazed man holds the keys, walk out from another door or leave the next day. She owes them, the Deshmukhs, nothing. She needs to get back to her house and family. She is not responsible for Mandaar’s well being. Making a foolish promise that she will be with her ex until he recovers is extremely idiotic. What if he never recovers, she is going to throw Raghav away for good? Or is Raghav supposed to wait for her love-lorn and trusting that every decision of his wife is wise, even if it takes Mandaar till he is 80 or 90 years to finally recover? Pallavi will live with her ex until then according to her promise to the evil old man?

Raghav should place an ultimatum before his wife - it is me or the promise you made to that evil man, your father, you choose. Nothing to do with trust or love, it is common sense to want your wife to be with you instead of indefinitely with her ex.

I really enjoyed reading all of Viewpoint's thoughts. Yes, both Raghav and Pallavi are new to the married lifestyle. However, I am trying to abide by the rule of not posting just to agree or thank someone, so ...

jakkula.sirisha wrote:

“Second thing raghu never drives being drunk he always takes driver or farhad with him when he is drink if u wanted you can check old episodes”

masin wrote:

“Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think this show has ever shown Raghav drinking and driving. In fact, that's something I truly appreciate about this show - they don't frown upon drinking all together, instead they portray drinking responsibly.”

Yes, jakkula.sirisha, we can both check old episodes if we want to make claims of fact, and since you invited my rebuttal, masin, here are some facts that may change your mind.

February 18 episode:

Raghav was driving drunk with Anjali standing up through the car roof holding her drink, just before he rear-ended Pallavi and they met for the first time. Raghav was uninhibited enough to accost Pallavi with a misogynistic sneer that women can't drive, and then pour his drink all over Pallavi's textiles and drop his lighter on them.

April 6 episode:

Raghav held an uncorked bottle in front of Pallavi outside his empty car; he then drove faster than the men who had Pallavi at gunpoint, but we didn't actually see him drink or act inebriated.

April 24 episode:

Raghav was drunk and still drinking as he got out of the driver's side of his car to see the graffiti on Kirti's house, and he was drinking heavily earlier at home. He drove himself home after that.

July 1 and 2 episodes:

Raghav was drunk when he came home after a visit to the shed where he kept the car from Mandar's accident, and he dismissed his driver - keeping his car - as soon as he got to the remote shed, implying that he drove himself home while drinking. He found Jaya and Pallavi also quite drunk, and Pallavi had done something risky that she wouldn't do while sober.

I wouldn't mind if the show portrayed Raghav's excessive drinking as an obstacle to mutual respect in his marriage (as when he ruined Pallavi's cake and threw money at her for it) or as a risk to his safety and good behaviour (as when Farhad assumed that Raghav got drunk at the old age home, and Raghav said he stopped drinking as soon as Jaya told him not to embarrass her for two days). I don't like that the creative team has Raghav getting drunk as our cue to feel sorry for him, and his household just patiently puts him to bed and acts like everything's fine the next day.