What does Raghav think marriage is? (August 10 episode) - Page 2

Originally posted by: -abz-

Raghav lost it when he took their selfie and sent it to Mandaar. He made it even worse by keeping a tracker. A simple conversation could have avoided all this drama.Insecurity more than trust is nonsensical, it screams a lot more hurdle than health.

Pallavi lost it when she entered D niwaas. She has let people take her decisions, which is so not her character.

Love demands full and full trust. No insecurity is above that trust and here Pallavi confessed her love to him. For somebody who knows his wife loves him, his actions are childish.

And for a person who could smartly detect the culprit behind an accident, her actions are childish.

Bad writing I tell you.

Intesity, pain and angst go tangent above the head cause there is no healthy conversation here. I can't believe they ruined two great characters for high voltage drama. May the universe give them brains.

I agree with your every word from my heart but in today episode pallavi made a choice between mandar and raghav. After mandar got all required medical treatment for burn aayi told her to go to award but pallavi said "mandar ko aise kaise chod ke" . His own biological mother was there to take care of him but pallavi was volunteering to care of him. In this particular scene no emotional manipulation was done not even from VD. She herself in mind chose to take care of mandar well being in comparison to attending her husband party. So what this scene implies to a normal /neutral like who aren't solo stans

And on top of that writers made pallavi lie that there was no one to care of mandar at home when his own biological parents , aunt sister were present

This is seriously illogical writing and it gives away the fact that pallavi will always chose mandar over raghav even in life death situations

blame it only on writers for poor characterisation and silly dialogues

I won't comment on your post as both Raghav and Pallavi are wrong and right both but Pallavi is getting all the brickbats, all the bashing so a big THANK YOU for making this post.

This forum has become a Pallavi bashing zone off-late and for the first time in a while we have a Pallavi supporting post so thank you for that

Dude! You are a man? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

You know, I'm pretty surprised you actually pointed out all this. (I'm not being sarcastic here. My compliments really. Hardly do we see men accepting their gender's usually misguided love mantras... I totally blame Bollywood for this btw.)

But I have to disagree here.

I am a very strong and independent woman but I tell you this that if situations were reversed I would divorce my husband if he decides to stay with his ex on the pretext of nursing her back to health in a house full of people who had humiliated and used him as suited to their purpose.

I would never ever repeatedly go to a house, even if it's my in laws where people only insult me.

And I will be very very very hurt if my husband forgets such an important event where my success is being commemorated because he was busy mollycoddling his ex who by the way has a housefull of people including her parents to look after her. (Read here, I donot support Raghav's drunken act at all, but its his persona as shown in the show from first. He is impulsive and has a habit of drowning his sorrows in the bottle because he had never quite had any human being to share it with previously. Still, not supporting drinking. The man will have a circosis at this rate.)

And Vijay Deshmukh, may I take the liberty to remind you is a selfish self centred character who had always pretended to care for Pallavi only till she remained his son's widow. His intention of not letting her meet with her husband has nothing to do with her safety. He was just adding to the chasm between them just like his creepy son.

The tracker on the other hand would have been incredibly insulting had the intention been not trusting her. But I would definitely feel safe knowing I have someone on standbye if I am a notorious Kingpin's wife let alone with my creepy ex husband.

Marriage is a fine balance, an understanding between a couple. But its a two way highway my friend. Raghav understood his wife's need to take care of her family even if he didn't have to like it seriously but Pallavi is refusing to understand his insecurities (which are justified) and his pain (which is also justified).

The rest is all high voltage drama.

(The fainting track was ludicrous to be honest. No one connected two and two. People thinking she fell asleep, those idiot Deshmukhs not letting Raghav meet with Pallavi or take her home. Ridiculous! She is his wife, he can talk to her whenever he wants and definitely has the right to take her back home. Partners are legally their medical proxys too. No one has the right to say anything else. Period. End of story).

Anyways these were my two cents

No offence to anyone...

Originally posted by: Sunaina7

I agree with your every word from my heart but in today episode pallavi made a choice between mandar and raghav. After mandar got all required medical treatment for burn aayi told her to go to award but pallavi said "mandar ko aise kaise chod ke" . His own biological mother was there to take care of him but pallavi was volunteering to care of him. In this particular scene no emotional manipulation was done not even from VD. She herself in mind chose to take care of mandar well being in comparison to attending her husband party. So what this scene implies to a normal /neutral like who aren't solo stans

And on top of that writers made pallavi lie that there was no one to care of mandar at home when his own biological parents , aunt sister were present

This is seriously illogical writing and it gives away the fact that pallavi will always chose mandar over raghav even in life death situations

blame it only on writers for poor characterisation and silly dialogues

I completely agree with every words of yours. Pallavi consciously choose Mandar over Raghav even when it wasn't needed.

She didn't even feel guilty of missing the award function. Afterwards she realised the extent of damage when Raghav gave reality check.

N how come no one was there at home??!...... Mandar's parents were at home. If Vijay Deshmukh can sell sarees on footpath under harsh sunlight then he can definitely pick a doctor on scooty all by himself. The reason given by Pallavi definitely sounded lame.

Originally posted by: Innocentlove96

I completely agree with every words of yours. Pallavi consciously choose Mandar over Raghav even when it wasn't needed.

She didn't even feel guilty of missing the award function. Afterwards she realised the extent of damage when Raghav gave reality check.

N how come no one was there at home??!...... Mandar's parents were at home. If Vijay Deshmukh can sell sarees on footpath under harsh sunlight then he can definitely pick a doctor on scooty all by himself. The reason given by Pallavi definitely sounded lame.

@ I highly doubt she has realised the extent of the damage done...she was still in defensive mode..trying to justify herself and her missing from the event...not understanding the pain behind what Raghav's said..

She just saw he is angry for her not making to function on time..but she didn't understand the disappointment , the pain, the broken heart of raghav ..

Everyone keeps talking about raghav anger management issue...like seriously.. a man whose wife is busy nursing her ex .is not even supposed to get angry and show resentment...like really..

Originally posted by: BrhannadaArmour

Thanks for your replies and reactions. I stand by what I wrote, so let's agree to disagree.

Coincidentally, another show that I follow (Sundara Manamadhe Bharali, in Marathi) has shown similar incidents over the past few episodes. Latika's father has taken her home to punish her husband Abhimanyu, and at a ceremony to honour Latika, Abhimanyu is humiliated by a group of vigilantes who smear black on his face for "returning" his wife. Latika goes to Abhimanyu's house to comfort him, and his mother refuses to let her past the door unless she has come to stay. While the two families argue over who is to blame, Latika quietly persists in asking to see Abhimanyu, but she leaves when Abhimanyu's brother comes home drunk. Then Latika and Abhimanyu keep trying to call each other at the same time, so they both get busy signals. They finally talk on the phone, then meet in person; Abhimanyu wants to make it a real marriage and Latika wants only friendship, but they agree to work together to apprehend the people who hired the vigilantes.

I think this is a good example that Mehndi Hai Rachnewali should follow. First, fix the pace. If the awards ceremony is important to Raghav, let's hear his cheerleaders talking about it for a couple of weeks before it happens, while other events unfold. Give Raghav a valid reason to feel humiliated on his wife's account, and let him trust her anyway because he loves her that much. Write subplots for the supporting characters that give them convincing motivations to stand in Pallavi's way; they shouldn't just do it because it's their role to obstruct the leads. Portray the drunk character with humanity, not maudlin theatrics. Don't let Raghav and Pallavi succumb to tricks and misunderstandings when there's so much more drama in their real differences of values. And don't subscribe to gender stereotypes; the man can compromise and the woman can be trusted with her ex.

Why does Raghav need to be humiliated on his wife's account at all? Where does trust even come in picture here? Raghav is hurt because of Pallavi's actions. Can a man in love not feel hurt because of the person he loves? He does not expect some grand gestures of love from her. He only expected her presence, her support, his family includes Pallavi and he wanted that family with him. Don't we all expect that on our special days?

it's only human to feel what Raghav's feeling.

Yes, it was wrong of him to get drunk and create a scene but he has been shown to drown his sorrows in alcohol so..nothing new there.

P.S.- And don't subscribe to gender stereotypes; the man can compromise and the woman can be trusted with her ex- Never did and never will. Both men and women have feeling that can be hurt, everything doesn't have to relate to gender.

Originally posted by: d.padmini

@ I highly doubt she has realised the extent of the damage done...she was still in defensive mode..trying to justify herself and her missing from the event...not understanding the pain behind what Raghav's said..

She just saw he is angry for her not making to function on time..but she didn't understand the disappointment , the pain, the broken heart of raghav ..

Everyone keeps talking about raghav anger management issue...like seriously.. a man whose wife is busy nursing her ex .is not even supposed to get angry and show resentment...like really..

Yeah right. Also instead of saying sorry she was giving excuses and was even lying ki gharme koi nahi tha when in reality everybody were there and acting like Mandaar is dying jab ki uska to sirf haat hi jala tha pura body toh nahi. I cannot relate to this Pallavi anymore as she was never this insensitive. When aai asked her to go she was still saying wo mandaar ka kya and all. Also she was not even trying jab VD ne darwaaza band kia. Why was she silent while her baba saying shit about Raghav? After all this it looks like we won't even get proper apology from her and she will get away as now Aai is going to be injured and all these will be forgotten.

Amazed to see 14likes on the post. Anyway won't waste my time explaining how 'relationship' and 'trust' works because when Your partner's hurt is not even considered because of a stupid promise then yeah that's definitely love😆 and also when you sleep on your ex's lap (Raghav didn't knew she was unconscious neither she said the next day or willing to know what happened just lashed at him hearing her Mauka 'trust you see'. And I do believe Choosing to live with your Ex 24*7 nursing him to a point that you forget to even call your partner shall Definitely be understood by your current partner or else he is toxic. TOTALLY UNDERSTAND. 🤣

Raghav is a Toxic emotional abuser and definitely doesn't deserve Pallavi. Pallavi deserves her family and Mandar. Raghav please divorce her and stop 'abusing' her by saying you love her when you do.

What does Raghav think marriage is...

Definitely not shacking up with your ex.. The whys and hows are just noise.

Originally posted by: -abz-

Raghav lost it when he took their selfie and sent it to Mandaar. He made it even worse by keeping a tracker. A simple conversation could have avoided all this drama.Insecurity more than trust is nonsensical, it screams a lot more hurdle than health.

Pallavi lost it when she entered D niwaas. She has let people take her decisions, which is so not her character.

Love demands full and full trust. No insecurity is above that trust and here Pallavi confessed her love to him. For somebody who knows his wife loves him, his actions are childish.

And for a person who could smartly detect the culprit behind an accident, her actions are childish.

Bad writing I tell you.

Intesity, pain and angst go tangent above the head cause there is no healthy conversation here. I can't believe they ruined two great characters for high voltage drama. May the universe give them brains.

Yes sending pic to mandar was childish act by raghav but it was also done by him because he had extremely faith & confidence on pallavi's promises that she wouldn't ever leave him whatever mandar does creepy acts with them. So raghav confidently wanted to prove it mandar to send pics . But simple conversation won't ever be convinced pallavi to stop to go to mandar & d family. Eventually raghav disclosed to pallavi about challenge & desmukh family's not allowing him to meet with her. But what result has been come? Did she give a deep thought or value on these 2 most important issues. No. So if even there would be a normal conversation at initial times between raghvi as usual pallavi made stop raghav to give the list of promises & excused mental & health issue of mandar hence mandar acted like this.