Mental harassment done on Kavya

The Shah family is constantly taunting Kavya for no reason. Kavya is being tortured and mentally harassed by the Shah family just because Vanraj cheated on Anupama.

Kavya is being compared against Anupama which is very unfair. Anuapama and Kavya are 2 different individuals. Kavya is better than Anupama. Kavya is a modern woman when Anupama is just another kitchen maid.

The mental harassment inflicted on Kavya is making her turn bitter. The torture is making her turn into a vamp when she is not.

The makers of the show need to change the story line and project Kavya as a good person because Kavya is every modern woman in Mumbai, Delhi and Bengaluru when Anupama is nothing but every modern woman's nightmare.

Women across the world are fighting for privileges. It is not a woman's duty to cook or take care of her husband's family just because she was born a woman. Kavya represents those modern ideologies.

Whereas women like Anupama prevent such modernization from happening by focusing on household chores and family. They hold back women from evolving.

Anupama is a threat to women rights. As long as women who cook and take care of family are glorified, the society can never progress because cooking and taking care of family are not a woman's responsibility!

I would accept to most of what you say . Indeed the way they force Kavya to become a vamp is pretty much evident. But let’s accept the fact that both the people is ema are equally responsible for destroying the family . It’s not like Kavya never knew anupama was married .. she did all the while when she slept with another woman’s husband . Yes she’s educated and modern but that doesn’t give you the right to go about with an affair .... she could have handled things with a grace by being upfront but she chose the other way .. Of course Vanraj deserved it than both these women and the earlier his mother understands the better

Coming to anupama ... they are the woman of the previous generation . Sadly they are the woman struggling to get out of it and most them are an anupama not by choice but by tradition and culture which will not change overnight . Anupama is not going to be a threat but they are the real woman living in the threat. she is showing the real face of so many women out there . Of course at present the generation is changing , people are evolving ... but shahs and anupamas sadly exist in many homes .... of course not every one has an affair but all forms of shahs exist .

You really have an effed up definition of a modern ideology and a regressive ideology.

A modern ideology doesn't mean that you work in a office, a modern ideology is that its a woman's choice whether she wants to work in a office or want to become a housewife. Modern ideology is not running after a man and threatening him to marry you when he has in multiple possible ways shown disinterest in marrying you. You don't achieve modernization by working in an office, it has to be in your thinking, if she was modern, she would have kicked Vanraj out of her life after bearing so much direct and indirect insults from him, and please it is not love it is just obsession.

A woman doing household chores is not regressive and they can be equally modern, bcoz modernity comes from your thoughts. Anupamaa is more modern than Kavya bcoz she had guts to kick Vanraj out of her life despite so many obstacles, be it family pressure, be it taking charge of your own life, be it starting a career at the age of 43, be it accepting that her daughter in law doesn't need to sacrifice her dreams for family responsibilities, or be it not caring about how a society sees a divorcee. She has infact shown a way to women to exercise their rights who accept their husbands EMA just bcoz they do not have a source of income or they are afraid of what society will say. So Anupamaa isn't the threat she is a way shown to woman who are in such situations which are many in our country. Also Anupamaa works and still does household chores but willingly.

And don't forget it is the men like Vanraj who try to cut the wings of the women who expects them to only take care of their house.

Doing household chores does not prevent modernization, it is the freedom that is not given to women to choose is what a regressive thinking is.

And coming to comparison of Kavya and Anupamaa. Kavya has time and again humiliated the family, be it threatening to send them to jail or shouting on bapuji when she made sweet dish without even understanding that he was actually offering her made dish to God first. If I would have been part of a family where someone comes and threatens to send my family to jail on false accusations, Main jaake uski aarti nahi utarungi zindagi bhar. The comparisons made are not with respect to the household chores, but in respect to their behaviours. And anyways she is trying to seperate Vanraj from his family, then why does she bother if they accept her or not. That so called modern thinking woman Kavya didn't even stand by Nandini when her truth came that she cannot become a mother. Anupamaa was more modern in thoughts than Kavya in this situation also, she knows just giving birth to a kid is not everything. Society would be better if we do not have so called modern women like Kavya.

Only wrong decision that Anupamaa took was stay back at Shah house and that is going to mess her life more.

Originally posted by: shiv8879

The Shah family is constantly taunting Kavya for no reason. Kavya is being tortured and mentally harassed by the Shah family just because Vanraj cheated on Anupama.

Kavya is being compared against Anupama which is very unfair. Anuapama and Kavya are 2 different individuals. Kavya is better than Anupama. Kavya is a modern woman when Anupama is just another kitchen maid.

The mental harassment inflicted on Kavya is making her turn bitter. The torture is making her turn into a vamp when she is not.

The makers of the show need to change the story line and project Kavya as a good person because Kavya is every modern woman in Mumbai, Delhi and Bengaluru when Anupama is nothing but every modern woman's nightmare.

Women across the world are fighting for privileges. It is not a woman's duty to cook or take care of her husband's family just because she was born a woman. Kavya represents those modern ideologies.

Whereas women like Anupama prevent such modernization from happening by focusing on household chores and family. They hold back women from evolving.

Anupama is a threat to women rights. As long as women who cook and take care of family are glorified, the society can never progress because cooking and taking care of family are not a woman's responsibility!

Agree they are forcing her to get insecure to the core level and become vamp… Bacho ka samjh aata hai that itne bade bache jo shaadi kar chuke hai ya jinke shaadi hone vale hai and jinke mom unke saath hai usse kuch nahi hua they can’t accept apne humumar jaise step mom…

But zabardasti ka comparison by dolly, baa and bapuji is not valid… Kavya kabhi bhi house wife ki tarah nahi the and working women’s maids and all rakhte hai… khud bhi toh sab akar thak ke Anupama ko order de rahe the toh sab negative kyu nahi hue aise… kavya hi kyu hue… jab itne jawan bache apne Maa ka nahi soch sakte ki abhi operation hua hai aur bapuji apne so called bete ka nahi soch sakte toh kavya toh sautan hai aur Anupama jaise maid pakar Kon khush nahi hoga…

And yes, Anupama jaise log hi society main conservative thinking paida kar rahe hai…. Mahan ban kar faltu ka…. Family ke pyaar ke naam pe… agar family kavya ko aise treat karege toh uska insecure aur possessive hona genuine hai… koi usse chance tak nahi dena chahta… aise toh Bollywood celebrities and all karte hai shaadi and all and sab ki families unke 2nd wife ko accept karte hai aur yeh toh ultra modern and cool shah family hai jahan ex wife aur current wife ikathe rehte hai,… toh yeh kyu nahi accept karte and usse chance dete… Aaj ke episode ke baad toh aisa feel hua ki Anupama hn responsible hai apne miseries ke liye… jo aurat apne sautan k liye coffee bana sakte hai and usse rest karne ko keh sakte hai after operation and 2 din shaadi ke baad hi voh society ko galat educate kar rahe hai ya kuch zyada hi…

Ab toh kavya ke liye sympathy aate hai not for Anupama…

What the crap you are talking about. Kavya is a vamp from day 1. If it was not for Anupama she would not even get married to Vanraj. She does not understand anything. she did not even stand by her own niece after hearing such a tragic fact. She is s disgrace to women kind. Clearly she is in it for money because if it was for love she would have moved out with her V.

Originally posted by: coolbakes_Jalad

I would accept to most of what you say . Indeed the way they force Kavya to become a vamp is pretty much evident. But let’s accept the fact that both the people is ema are equally responsible for destroying the family . It’s not like Kavya never knew anupama was married .. she did all the while when she slept with another woman’s husband . Yes she’s educated and modern but that doesn’t give you the right to go about with an affair .... she could have handled things with a grace by being upfront but she chose the other way .. Of course Vanraj deserved it than both these women and the earlier his mother understands the better

Coming to anupama ... they are the woman of the previous generation . Sadly they are the woman struggling to get out of it and most them are an anupama not by choice but by tradition and culture which will not change overnight . Anupama is not going to be a threat but they are the real woman living in the threat. she is showing the real face of so many women out there . Of course at present the generation is changing , people are evolving ... but shahs and anupamas sadly exist in many homes .... of course not every one has an affair but all forms of shahs exist .

I appreciate your points of view.

Originally posted by: Rohil.ban12

Agree they are forcing her to get insecure to the core level and become vamp… Bacho ka samjh aata hai that itne bade bache jo shaadi kar chuke hai ya jinke shaadi hone vale hai and jinke mom unke saath hai usse kuch nahi hua they can’t accept apne humumar jaise step mom…

But zabardasti ka comparison by dolly, baa and bapuji is not valid… Kavya kabhi bhi house wife ki tarah nahi the and working women’s maids and all rakhte hai… khud bhi toh sab akar thak ke Anupama ko order de rahe the toh sab negative kyu nahi hue aise… kavya hi kyu hue… jab itne jawan bache apne Maa ka nahi soch sakte ki abhi operation hua hai aur bapuji apne so called bete ka nahi soch sakte toh kavya toh sautan hai aur Anupama jaise maid pakar Kon khush nahi hoga…

And yes, Anupama jaise log hi society main conservative thinking paida kar rahe hai…. Mahan ban kar faltu ka…. Family ke pyaar ke naam pe… agar family kavya ko aise treat karege toh uska insecure aur possessive hona genuine hai… koi usse chance tak nahi dena chahta… aise toh Bollywood celebrities and all karte hai shaadi and all and sab ki families unke 2nd wife ko accept karte hai aur yeh toh ultra modern and cool shah family hai jahan ex wife aur current wife ikathe rehte hai,… toh yeh kyu nahi accept karte and usse chance dete… Aaj ke episode ke baad toh aisa feel hua ki Anupama hn responsible hai apne miseries ke liye… jo aurat apne sautan k liye coffee bana sakte hai and usse rest karne ko keh sakte hai after operation and 2 din shaadi ke baad hi voh society ko galat educate kar rahe hai ya kuch zyada hi…

Ab toh kavya ke liye sympathy aate hai not for Anupama…

Thank you! All your points are valid.

Channel and television show makers need to now make shows that teaches people to change their thought process and not encourage the existing narrow mindedness in the society.

My issue with Kavya and van is the cheating and EMA

If van and Kav had walked out and ended legally before having a relationship I would probably have sympathy for the way fam is acting with her

Kav does not want to share van with even his children ..now that is too much. Because he still does care for the children and it should be joint decision about him spending time with his children and parents

Issue with kav is she did not stand for her niece when she needed her

Life is about choices. At every stage we happen to have multiple options and what we choose defines who we are. Kavya from the beginning knew Vanraj was a married man and she too was a married woman and chose to have an EMA.

At every stage both had exit options but persisted and blatantly lied about everything to everyone.

Anupama right from the time she discovered the EMA has been consistent she cannot forgive Vanraj and Kavya. Yet she chose she does not want to part in bitterness.

Kavya seems obsessed with vanraj and the manner she got married and the happenings thereafter show she is brainless or chooses to use it only to play games.

Dolly was right when she said one does not get accepted by sheer marriage one has to earn ones way into peoples hearts and eyes by our actions. People wont trust, respect , care or love you just because you demand it.

You become worthy of all of the above by your action it should be selfless and can evolve into quid pro quo. As of now Kavya is in an Eye for an Eye mode and she is demeaning herself

Kavya used to be tolerable before now her very presence irks. She knew Vanraj was married yet pursued him (as shown in the scenes when the pesky intern that she was kept texting and calling Vanraj). She herself was married yet that didn’t stop her. If both parties were in loveless marriages, they could have ended their relationships with their respective spouses and got married to each other. Cheating on the spouse is morally wrong and that is what both Kavya and Vanraj did. Unpardonable offense.
Kavya did not respect Anupama’s position as wife or mother or daughter in law but expects Anupama to accord Kavya special privileges because she is now Vanraj’s new wife. What is Kavya’s obsession with trying to constantly belittle Anupama and hurt her? Kavya showed off her mangalsutra to Anupama when Kavya full well knew that had it not been for Anupama, Vanraj would not have married her, Kavya.
Kavya seems to have some sort of mental issue, her undue obsession with Anupama is not normal. Her intent to destroy the Shah parivar is also evil. No one needs to force Kavya to be a vamp, Kavya is by nature malicious, selfish and self serving. I hope she gets mud rubbed all over her face soon.
Also dislike that the writers keep referring to Kavya as Kinjal’s saas though that train seems to have abated a bit. Idiotic that Kavya is referred to as Kinjal’s mother in law when Anupama is well and alive and Toshu’s biological, living breathing mom.