Mental harassment done on Kavya - Page 2

Why is it Kavya's fault that she had an affair with Vanraj?

Didn't Vanraj know that he was married to Anupama?

Why is the family accepting of Vanraj's mistakes but not Kavya's ?

Life happens... Shit happens...

I agree that Vanraj and Kavya's affair was not right but what has happened has happened.

Why forgive only Vanraj and not Kavya ???

Sorry to say your thread make me laugh , which Anupama your watching

"discovery science" one ??? 🤣your saying the things which never happened in the show

from the day one they show kavya as selfish and obsessed girlfriend who want to marry a married men thats her only goal in the life

kavya getting her deserving karma which she totally deserve

and kavya aurat ke naam pe ek black mark han jo dusre ke ghar tod kar apna hi ghar banane ki soch rahe thi and well done she succeed also

and agar family didnt accept her for that kavya need to behave like human

yes for EMA
vanya need to be blamed equally atleast vanraj have some realization where kavya keep justifying that sinful act for that she deserve only chappals and gaali

Originally posted by: curious1

What the crap you are talking about. Kavya is a vamp from day 1. If it was not for Anupama she would not even get married to Vanraj. She does not understand anything. she did not even stand by her own niece after hearing such a tragic fact. She is s disgrace to women kind. Clearly she is in it for money because if it was for love she would have moved out with her V.

If I'm not wrong, it was Kavya who herself wanted to end what ever she had between her and Vanraj in the beginning right? But it was Vanraj who refused to let go just because he couldn't see her return back to Anirudh.

And no she was not the vamp since day 1, she was the same person who encouraged Anupama to take up the cooking teacher's job in school, she genuinely at that point wanted to Anupama to come out and be financially independent and stood up for her when that Ravanraj tried to coerce Anupama into giving up the opportunity.

Before the EMA was revealed everyone used to adore Kavya to a point that Pakhi wanted Kavya to pose as her mom for some competition in school because she felt presenting Anupama as her mom was just plain embarrassing or the time when Rakhi had come to visit the Shah's for Kinjal and Paritosh's proposed wedding where they made it seem like Kavya was a family member in place of Anupama. Till then Kavya was the best person on earth right?

Kavya as an individual is very different from Anupama however she wasn't a vamp since day 1 as you are trying to paint her.

Yes if it wasn't for Anupama then she wouldn't have gotten married at all, she would have ended up dead or in a mental asylum of some kind because of the emotional pain and torture she was subjected to over Vanraj's indecisiveness. Anupama should have just given Kavya a hundred reasons over why marrying Vanraj would have been the most stupidest thing to do. Yes Kavya got into an EMA, but she was not involved in it all alone, Vanraj was too, but only Kavya gets berated every other second for it in the most humiliating manner not Vanraj, especially by that Leela and Dolly. They don't hate Kavya because she is the other woman but rather because of how their family has now become a laughing stock within the society and that they can't boss and order her around like Anupama. And did you say she is in it for money? Whar kind of money does Vanraj have exactly???

Originally posted by: shiv8879

Why is it Kavya's fault that she had an affair with Vanraj?

Didn't Vanraj know that he was married to Anupama?

Why is the family accepting of Vanraj's mistakes but not Kavya's ?

Life happens... Shit happens...

I agree that Vanraj and Kavya's affair was not right but what has happened has happened.

Why forgive only Vanraj and not Kavya ???

That's what I was wondering too. If they can forgive Vanraj why not Kavya??? And what is the meaning of asking Anupama to stay behind even after her divorce?? Why hold on to her and keep her held back when she should be allowed to move on in life. This is like they just don't want Kavya to be happy and keep discriminating against her.

Agreed what Kavya did was wrong but the Shah family isn't right either.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Kavya used to be tolerable before now her very presence irks. She knew Vanraj was married yet pursued him (as shown in the scenes when the pesky intern that she was kept texting and calling Vanraj). She herself was married yet that didn’t stop her. If both parties were in loveless marriages, they could have ended their relationships with their respective spouses and got married to each other. Cheating on the spouse is morally wrong and that is what both Kavya and Vanraj did. Unpardonable offense.
Kavya did not respect Anupama’s position as wife or mother or daughter in law but expects Anupama to accord Kavya special privileges because she is now Vanraj’s new wife. What is Kavya’s obsession with trying to constantly belittle Anupama and hurt her? Kavya showed off her mangalsutra to Anupama when Kavya full well knew that had it not been for Anupama, Vanraj would not have married her, Kavya.
Kavya seems to have some sort of mental issue, her undue obsession with Anupama is not normal. Her intent to destroy the Shah parivar is also evil. No one needs to force Kavya to be a vamp, Kavya is by nature malicious, selfish and self serving. I hope she gets mud rubbed all over her face soon.
Also dislike that the writers keep referring to Kavya as Kinjal’s saas though that train seems to have abated a bit. Idiotic that Kavya is referred to as Kinjal’s mother in law when Anupama is well and alive and Toshu’s biological, living breathing mom.

Don't you think that too was Vanraj's own fault? From what I saw and understood Kavya had already separated from Anirudh, it was Vanraj that kept delaying everything after promising to end his marriage and whar not. He was the one who lead her on and kept her hanging there so don't blame her alone.

@red and how do you think she got to this point??? She is Vanraj's lover however she is never his priority but always ends up coming last. Yes for Vanraj his family is important but shouldn't he have thought about that before pursuing a relationship with Kavya himself? If he is incapable of giving enough attention to both then why did he make Kavya his girlfriend at all??? And stop making it look like it's all her fault, if she is malicious then what is Vanraj?? It's so easy to blame the woman and ignore the man's actions in an EMA.

I was going to dismiss this post as a troll, but I get your point too.

The thing is, Indian TV is still progressing in terms of mindset.

The idea of a divorced woman not immediately hopping on to a new love interest and only trying to gain independence on her own is something the audience is still not used to, but is trying to accept on a positive note.

Let us let this show depict that only and leave it at that, no more expectations!

A woman like Kavya who just because of being educated, undermined a housewife, will not go down well with people. They will not learn about educating their daughters, rather will feel offended that housewives were insulted.

Hence the makers are showing Kavya as villain to depict Anupamaa as a hero.

Even I am a person like Kavya, minus the paranoid obsession for a spineless man like Vanraj. I think that howsoever vital, a housewife's job is still menial and a woman needs a career to have an identity.

Note how Anupamaa truly became confident after she began earning and even her meager salary was her prized possession. If being a housewife was the entire essence of womanhood, why would she be so passionate about her job and dance classes??

But as I said again, out TV is still very regressive. The idea of two leads with conflicting interest to coexist and still justify their own standing is still a long way to go. For now we have to settle with Kavya being the black and Anupamaa being the white!

Here's to hoping for better times on TV soon!!

I think its not about comparision between anu and kavya or housewife v career women

Kavya "demands" respect.....which she needs to understand that she has to gain. But her constant rude comments and evil intentions to throw the family out...dont really think she is being harassed in any way. Kavya knowingly pursued EMA with a married man....yes it's her and vanraj's fault. But which self respecting women would force a guy to marry her like Kavya did?

Harrassment is what Kavya did with Anu and Shah family in my opinion

Originally posted by: gopi2929

I think its not about comparision between anu and kavya or housewife v career women

Kavya "demands" respect.....which she needs to understand that she has to gain. But her constant rude comments and evil intentions to throw the family out...dont really think she is being harassed in any way. Kavya knowingly pursued EMA with a married man....yes it's her and vanraj's fault. But which self respecting women would force a guy to marry her like Kavya did?

Harrassment is what Kavya did with Anu and Shah family in my opinion

well if you think about it from Kavya's perspective, Vanraj even after having an EMA with Kavya still managed to retain his family to an extent, but Kavya?? She literally lost everything, so her only hope is getting married to Vanraj. And coming to self respect, here's the thing when it comes to intense emotions or when you hit rock bottom and you have no one to help you out self respect literally takes a backseat.

She is not being rude because she loves to be rude, it's just how she normally reacts to situations when she feels she is being treated unfairly. She may be tactless when it comes to handling relationships but that doesn't mean she doesn't want any of them. There was a time when she and Pakhi used to be really close and Pakhi chose her over Anupama, did she ever harbour any ill feelings towards her, or any of Vanraj's family members back then? No she didn't.

The only reason she is targeting them today is because they did the same to her first. I get it they don't like her and blame her alone for breaking apart Vanraj and Anupama's marriage since she is the easy scapegoat here. Fact of the matter is, it was always Vanraj who never valued Anupama, his family that used to treat her like a doormat and take her for granted, the only reason they are complaining and crying is because they can no longer force or boss around Anupama, in short treat her like crap like they used to earlier and hence they are venting out their frustration on Kavya who sort of became a trigger for Anupama giving up her sacrificial nature of coming in second. Vanraj's lack of respect for Anupama is what actually broke apart their marriage, Kavya was just one of the factors, if it were not Kavya then Vanraj would have an EMA with some other woman lying to them and giving them a sob story about how he is in a loveless marriage and that he wants to divorce their wife and what not, isn't that what he told Kavya too??

Overall, Vanraj and Anupama have already divorced while the former married Kavya, what on earth are they going to achieve by antagonising Kavya at this point? Do they want Vanraj to have another divorce?? Or do they actually think that this would bring Anupama and Vanraj back together?? Anupama clearly wouldn't want to get back so at least for the sake of the family's peace they can at least try to accept the fact that she is Varaj's legally wedded wife and not intentionally taunt her every now and then.

Originally posted by: Rein123

Don't you think that too was Vanraj's own fault? From what I saw and understood Kavya had already separated from Anirudh, it was Vanraj that kept delaying everything after promising to end his marriage and whar not. He was the one who lead her on and kept her hanging there so don't blame her alone.

@red and how do you think she got to this point??? She is Vanraj's lover however she is never his priority but always ends up coming last. Yes for Vanraj his family is important but shouldn't he have thought about that before pursuing a relationship with Kavya himself? If he is incapable of giving enough attention to both then why did he make Kavya his girlfriend at all??? And stop making it look like it's all her fault, if she is malicious then what is Vanraj?? It's so easy to blame the woman and ignore the man's actions in an EMA.

You got me wrong. Let me start from the bottom up. I am not ignoring Vanraj’s actions at all, neither am I blaming Kavya for the affair with respect to Anupama - all that blame is to to be laid solely and squarely on Vanraj’s head. Kavya had no obligation or commitment to Anupama, Vanraj did. He is the cheater and for that he needs brickbats. Just because he is a man, he is getting no quarter. A cheater is a cheater regardless of gender and Vanraj is to be despised.

Kavya is also to blame but for her treatment of her husband, Anirudh. Both Vanraj and Kavya are morally wrong and are to be held accountable for the way they treated their respective spouses.

Kavya, of course, was more of a sleaze because she would frequently visit the Shah household and had a fake friendship going with Anupama, for that Kavya deserves to be called out. Vanraj showed no such fakeness with Anirudh. Small mercies, there.

You ask why did Vanraj make Kavya his girlfriend? Let us ask instead - Kavya is an intelligent woman, why did she choose a loser like Vanraj? She made the bed that she lays on. Kavya has known Vanraj for 9 years and has seen his attachment to his Ba and Bapuji and his kids. It is not new to her, so why did she stay in that illicit relationship if she has issues with his family? Any other woman with half a wit would have dumped the man.

If Vanraj delayed giving their relationship a name, Kavya’s issue should be with Vanraj, not with Anupama. It is not Anupama’s fault. That woman was herself kept in the dark for nine years and should be acting nasty with Kavya but you don’t see Anupama doing that.

Anupama should have serious issues with Kavya for disrupting her marriage and stealing her husband and acting so obsessively even when Anupama was still married to Vanraj. But Anupama is not that way with Kavya. Anupama promised Kavya to get her Vanraj, Anupama has assuaged Kavya’s insecurities and has just been plain nice to her so far. Why is that? That is because Anupama’s nature is that of a good person. Kavya is basically not a nice person. She is a conniving spoilt brat of a woman.

Is Vanraj the cause of Anupama’s niceness? Definitely not. Why then is Kavya’s maliciousness excused as the fault of Vanraj?

How an individual reacts to a situation reveals their innate character, and Kavya’s character is selfish, self serving and full of malice.

Originally posted by: Rein123

well if you think about it from Kavya's perspective, Vanraj even after having an EMA with Kavya still managed to retain his family to an extent, but Kavya?? She literally lost everything, so her only hope is getting married to Vanraj. And coming to self respect, here's the thing when it comes to intense emotions or when you hit rock bottom and you have no one to help you out self respect literally takes a backseat.

She is not being rude because she loves to be rude, it's just how she normally reacts to situations when she feels she is being treated unfairly. She may be tactless when it comes to handling relationships but that doesn't mean she doesn't want any of them. There was a time when she and Pakhi used to be really close and Pakhi chose her over Anupama, did she ever harbour any ill feelings towards her, or any of Vanraj's family members back then? No she didn't.

The only reason she is targeting them today is because they did the same to her first. I get it they don't like her and blame her alone for breaking apart Vanraj and Anupama's marriage since she is the easy scapegoat here. Fact of the matter is, it was always Vanraj who never valued Anupama, his family that used to treat her like a doormat and take her for granted, the only reason they are complaining and crying is because they can no longer force or boss around Anupama, in short treat her like crap like they used to earlier and hence they are venting out their frustration on Kavya who sort of became a trigger for Anupama giving up her sacrificial nature of coming in second. Vanraj's lack of respect for Anupama is what actually broke apart their marriage, Kavya was just one of the factors, if it were not Kavya then Vanraj would have an EMA with some other woman lying to them and giving them a sob story about how he is in a loveless marriage and that he wants to divorce their wife and what not, isn't that what he told Kavya too??

Overall, Vanraj and Anupama have already divorced while the former married Kavya, what on earth are they going to achieve by antagonising Kavya at this point? Do they want Vanraj to have another divorce?? Or do they actually think that this would bring Anupama and Vanraj back together?? Anupama clearly wouldn't want to get back so at least for the sake of the family's peace they can at least try to accept the fact that she is Varaj's legally wedded wife and not intentionally taunt her every now and then.

Kavya had nothing to lose to begin with - she only had Anirudh whom she left of her own volition. The Shah family was not hers even though the Pakhi might have been enamored with Kavya. An intelligent person would realize that she has played her part in breaking up the family and the family is not going to welcome her with open arms.

Kavya literally forcing Vanraj to marry her does not sit well either. Why would a woman with any self worth do that? Even then her focus is only on Anupama, showing off her mangalsutra, asking Anupama to do her mehendi, is the woman unhinged to even expect the ex-wife whom she has wronged to do this for her, when she is marrying the man that cheated on the said ex-wife? Why does Kavya constantly try to belittle Anupama?

If Kavya has insecurities, she needs to sort that out with Vanraj or with a therapist, not hound Anupama constantly with her immature bakwas. Whatever Kavya’s problems, those are not excuses for her bad behavior towards the rest of the family, especially towards Anupama. It should actually be the other way around, Anupama should be slighting and belittling Kavya. But no, it is only Kavya with this single minded goal to reduce Anupama to nothing and strip her of everything.