Posted it on Lakshmi's thread.. Just wanted to have my thoughts on everything put here.. on this one as well..
I was not planning to be much active due to some work, but will drop a quick reply. I have no issues with Virat not coming out to Sai about Patralekha as of now, just as soon as they are still reeling in the whole ousting part and Sai staying here temporarily. Also he cannot come out and say oh this marriage is not a deal when he does not even know if Sai really wants it the other way. I did not like him not clarifying it after the whole Ladakh issue fight, but right now I get him..
I am also fine with him not coming clear with his feelings for her.. I dont want him to.. Because I always was in the favour of him clarifying "his heart is with someone else" part first because any girl and every girl deserves it.. The whole issue cannot be kept open ended, with romantic gestures here and there for them to move forward in life.. Its not fair on both of them, since Sai would always feel guilty and in turn Virat will as well.
The first thing that they need to do as a couple is communicate, communicate about how betrayed the husband in him felt when he was not told about the whole Devkit marriage, the hurt that he felt as a brother and how cheated he felt to see her getting his sister married , to the man whose status was not clear to him, the man, he assured he would be re-investing about. How cheated he felt when he thought every moment shared between them during Holi was a sham. The wife should tell him how she lost her trust on him after being thrown out and denied with food yet again , when he called her his family just a few days back. Yes she was wrong in going ahead with the secret marriage, and she deserved every bit of anger from him, but not the treatment. She deserved silent-treatment, she deserved screams but not that..That is like snatching away her respect from her.. She should tell him how hurtful the words like gold digger and mental are for her. How traumatic it is to stay in the same house and go through the same set of taunts yet again, even after its proven that they were wrong and she ultimately had her heart in the right place. I dont think romantic gestures are needed from any of the two without clarifying these things atm.
Coming to the episode, about Virat's behaviour. I have three issues there. Just the other day, someone mentioned why Virat did not say anything to Pakhi when she called him names, during the whole I have invited someone announcement and I have mentioned it there that Patralekha doesnt get things in her head and there is no point wasting your time in answering her back. Its like crashing your head on a wall and he stopped Sai as well. But then this logic in bold can work at some places and CANNOT work at all the places. Entering the room without knocking, when he knows its not right and Sai also hates it and since he is trying to make Sai comfortable is the situation where this logic in bold cannot work. IF someone you dont like and dont interact much because of his/her dumbness has a habit of entering your room announced at late night hours, that person needs to be told and told everytime he/she does it. DOnt bang your head on the wall need not be applied there.
Coming to the second issue, that woman is someone you love.You probably were about to confess your love to her. Another woman who you told off, in absence of your wife and had asked her to not compare herself with your wife, after barging in your room unannounced calls your wife Khudgarz , just after that same khudgarz wife lovingly explained to the ex of yours (who anyway is very bitter towards your wife all the time), the importance of parents and broke down for the absence of hers in life. And you stood there softly explaining her that , that's not the case. She looks at you and tells your wife , I know how to care of my "kareebi" log and gets away with it. If you stopped your wife/ corrected her from the 'bitter' statement she made on the lady who barges in your room anytime/every time unannounced, you need to stop the bitter word used on your wife as well. Or go with the theory ," two can handle each other " in both the cases..
You see Sai gets the abuses from Patralekha because of him and a smart and emotional man like him should know by now, since Patralekha has been very vocal about her feelings for him and Sai both. So at times you need to stop her from abusing her.. I dislike when so many of us call these argument as cat fights two ladies have for a man, shameful to call it so.. No these are not cat fights .. These fights are a result of mistake this man made unintentionally and the least he could do is own it and stop his friend from abusing his wife. These arguments are because his wife is defending herself against the abuses hurled at her by his ex. Sai saying main khudgarz nahi hun doesnt give the weightage at all, I mean I can say I am not selfish, but then when someone else says it for me that has some value some weightage right? That was not her fight to fight. DOnt bang your head on the wall need not be applied there as well, when Sai is being called names by his ex.
Now coming to the third issue I had with him, "Tum ro kyu rahi ho". Sai understood it when she has not even seen Patralekha confessing her love to him and the man who witnessed it all, who pleaded her to stay away from him , is clueless to why Patralekha was crying . I am not saying Patralekha is right there, but he was insensitive tiny winy bit.. He cannot act so clueless all the time about Patralekha, now that things are pretty clear, remember she let the doctors believe she is his wife.
I believe he had let Sai fight her fights in the beginning and now he choses to evade any discussions on the abuse she faces at his house, because of his non confrontational attitude and it comes under let Sai fight her fights.. Can work now , but not always.
About his confession, well he cannot even assure her of his love, when he could not assure us. The first mistake from her after him confessing it to himself that he loves her, he threw her out. He has to make amendments and he is doing it rightly, he is taking the right steps.. But confession does not work here for obvious reasons..at least for me it doesnt. In love , you get angry, you scream , you give silent treatment but you dont turn inhuman.
Maybe I am expecting a lot out of ITV, but this is my expectation from a Virat who I fell in love with, who I started to watch this show for. I have not seen the original versions and when I got to know Virat would be throwing Sai out , late at night without giving her food and her essentials , I actually wanted the CVs to not tread that path. I remember discussing with Lakshmi that , it would be great if Sai is asked to leave by others and he stays there mum not stopping her. That would have been digestible and I would still stand with Virat for the betrayal he faced in the hands of his wife and family.. He is an officer and he knows even a criminal gets to speak his side of the story in the court of law, but he was turned into an inhuman man. And that's where my anger towards him comes from. And in Ghum world its not been many days since that incident, to just forget it as something that is a part of ITV.. His redemption is still in process and is not complete and over. Baaki like I mentioned in Nja's post I liked the 200th episode .
Edited by asmi_joya - 4 years ago
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