Turning the wheels-ep - Page 2

Originally posted by: Indira12

"The trauma child Shubhra have faced" -

We are talking about the trauma of a person who is not in the picture now, but fail to notice the trauma a person, a child at present is facing. How must Bondita have felt when there was constant utterance of Thakur, the person who gave her the most horrific incident of her life, how she must be pained remembering those flashbacks every time his name was taken? But it is not surprising cause if Ani can overlook it, some people can definitely do it.

"...And people complain why realistic TV shows aren't made anymore..." -

Public humiliation - well, Anirudh is an impulsive man, it's justified. Twice? Mistakes can occur twice. Thrice? That's not really a mistake then. Man 'learns' from his mistakes. If not, then the character is not realistic. The first point of the show not being realistic in it's character depiction.

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Anirudh's character is butchered because the same Anirudh who used to be aware of every single thing that caused pain to Bondita did not mind to think of her feelings every time discussions regarding Thakur took place. Anirudh who would always remember to check on her, that day SAW and STILL ignored her after Rani Sahiba left and Bon stood there, alone and pained.

(Please don't say Bon insulted Manorama, she needed to understand her and all cause Bon- firstly was not aware of her intentions and secondly, she did not insult, she confronted her for taking her cake)

Anirudh who would pride on Indian women handling both household and career has now started to trivialize cooking and household work, saying things like "Bondita ka har kadam sirf barrister babu banne ke taraf hana chahiye naki rasoi ke taraf". Again don't say she is a child, she does need to cook. Where was Anirudh that time when Kaka was teaching Bon to cook? Bon did not want to cook at the first place, she was forced to do that. Why didn't Anirudh objected? As far as I remember Anirudh instead taught her 'how to not sneeze while smelling kali-mirch' (Anirudh rather helped her in her learning process?) Why didn't he asked Bon to NOT make coffee for him every time she made him a coffee? Why didn't he objected when Bon made luchis ? Why did he instead ate them? Why didn't he objected or rather took an 'important step' like THIS the time Kaka started molding Bon into a kushal-grahini? This idea of being a perfect bahu did not come to Bon's mind naturally, it was induced from the beginning. Why was not a 'serious step' LIKE THIS taken that time? All of this could have been prevented now. How would have Anirudh helped Manorama in her mission if Bon really stopped cooking and did not bake the cake?

Anirudh himself gave a long explanation as to why one should not bring up internal matters in front of outsiders. Why does he preaches something else and does the exact opposite?

If all of this is not enough to show a high-principled guy like Anirudh getting butchered, I don't know what else is required.

Just quoting the points I would like to comment on.

The topic of mental health has gained importance only recently, however the cause of educating women for their own good and for the society as a whole has been a problem for the society as a whole even before colonial times and gained importance during that era.

Our society is still struggling with this problem of not letting women study because they don't deserve it, and I do not regret repeating this time and again that as long as lack of education keeps being used to put women down, we cannot state that a woman should have "freedom of choice" to study or not to study just because she likes it.

Also, yes mental health is important but only who can afford it.

As someone from Bengal whose grand-parental family escaped Bangladesh, my great-grandfather struggled with nightmares, homesickness, ego problems and frustrations till he died, because he had to leave his home and come to Kolkata. If the family would have chosen to remain there for his mental-health, what would have been the cost?? All of them butchered in the riots!!

Should Aniruddh have made Bondita his "wife" by caring about her feelings? Should he have pacified her by putting sindoor on her forehead and make her assume "she has won", by caring about her feelings? Should he have let her leave with her mother back into ignorance, illiteracy and poverty, by caring about her feelings?

Yes, mental health is important, but not when physiological needs are at stake.

And when anyone says that Aniruddh should care about Bondita's so-called feelings more that such an important cause, he/she is giving more importance to the ship / relationship / romance / whatever-you-wanna-call-it than to the cause this show is based on!!!

If you would like me to reference it, HM track is proof yet again that the cause has been more important than the relationship, when Rasiya Bai demanded all girls to be rescued and not just Bondita and Aniruddh obliged, so the projection was Aniruddh to be the promoter of the "cause" of rescuing prostitutes and not just Bondita's knight in shining armor.

He also built the bathroom for Bondita but not exclusively, he invited all village women to use it. Most importantly, he decided on educating Bondita when she displayed her intelligence and not because he was obliged as a husband to do so.

Aniruddh has proven again he cares more about his commitment to Bondita than his attraction to Manorama's cause when he decided to check her coat first, he displays pain and tears at the thought of Bon leaving him when she goes to Dalhousie, so obviously he is attached to her, but his cause is more important, and so it should be!!!

Also I ask, abolishment of child-marriage is a great cause, so why so much backlash on it, if romance doesn't have more priority than the message of the show?

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

Just quoting the points I would like to comment on.

The topic of mental health has gained importance only recently, however the cause of educating women for their own good and for the society as a whole has been a problem for the society as a whole even before colonial times and gained importance during that era.

Our society is still struggling with this problem of not letting women study because they don't deserve it, and I do not regret repeating this time and again that as long as lack of education keeps being used to put women down, we cannot state that a woman should have "freedom of choice" to study or not to study just because she likes it.

Also, yes mental health is important but only who can afford it.

As someone from Bengal whose grand-parental family escaped Bangladesh, my great-grandfather struggled with nightmares, homesickness, ego problems and frustrations till he died, because he had to leave his home and come to Kolkata. If the family would have chosen to remain there for his mental-health, what would have been the cost?? All of them butchered in the riots!!

Should Aniruddh have made Bondita his "wife" by caring about her feelings? Should he have pacified her by putting sindoor on her forehead and make her assume "she has won", by caring about her feelings? Should he have let her leave with her mother back into ignorance, illiteracy and poverty, by caring about her feelings?

Yes, mental health is important, but not when physiological needs are at stake.

And when anyone says that Aniruddh should care about Bondita's so-called feelings more that such an important cause, he/she is giving more importance to the ship / relationship / romance / whatever-you-wanna-call-it than to the cause this show is based on!!!

If you would like me to reference it, HM track is proof yet again that the cause has been more important than the relationship, when Rasiya Bai demanded all girls to be rescued and not just Bondita and Aniruddh obliged, so the projection was Aniruddh to be the promoter of the "cause" of rescuing prostitutes and not just Bondita's knight in shining armor.

He also built the bathroom for Bondita but not exclusively, he invited all village women to use it. Most importantly, he decided on educating Bondita when she displayed her intelligence and not because he was obliged as a husband to do so.

Aniruddh has proven again he cares more about his commitment to Bondita than his attraction to Manorama's cause when he decided to check her coat first, he displays pain and tears at the thought of Bon leaving him when she goes to Dalhousie, so obviously he is attached to her, but his cause is more important, and so it should be!!!

Also I ask, abolishment of child-marriage is a great cause, so why so much backlash on it, if romance doesn't have more priority than the message of the show?

The topic of mental health has gained importance recently - does that mean we should neglect it? If we talk about the show, Anirudh tries to make the people of his village understand the importance of educating girls but they don't. There was a time when woman education gained 'recent' importance, was it nice that some people overlooked it then? Every time a cause gets an importance, we should follow it rather than grumping over the fact that it is recent.

If mental health has gained recent importance, not much years have passed that women education too got the importance. The difference of years in-between them is insignificant, Anirudh is a progressive guy who got to understand importance of education at a time when it was not so much a priority. How can the progressive guy not understand the value of mental health when it was not so much of a priority, too?

But I can't really blame the audience. The show does not considers taking the issue of mental health into account and that too of a child. It's okay if they don't. But showing emotional abuse of a child and THEN not giving any justification to it can land the show in trouble if child rights wing and mental health wing gets to know about it. Just like the other SSP show.

"...Should Aniruddh have made Bondita his "wife" by caring about her feelings? Should he have pacified her by putting sindoor on her forehead and make her assume "she has won", by caring about her feelings? Should he have let her leave with her mother back into ignorance, illiteracy and poverty, by caring about her feelings?..."

Why do you think we need that? Why not think in a proper logical manner?

Anirudh should have made Bondita understand. Bon did not resort to those actions suddenly. The insecurity to lose out on a relationship she values the most made her do things which normally she wouldn't have. That does not mean Ani should have acceded to her requests. No, not at all. He should have explained why their relationship is a different one, why it is inappropriate for her age to have a marriage but that does not mean that changes their relationship, that their relation will be the same - just an assurance was needed. If Bon still did not understand then all of this would have made some sense. But Ani did not do so.

And as I have mentioned in the previous post too, makers deliberately showed Ani not doing so. Cause if Ani did it, they needed to show Bon not understanding or paying heed to it so that Ani's way of bringing Bon to track by a second marriage gets justified - which could have brought inconsistency in the script because it was the same Bon who agreed to Ani in the FIRST PLACE after he explained her about the cake fiasco and accepted a foreign accusation too.

Caring for 'feelings' and caring for the 'mental health' is different. As a medical student, I know the effects it can cause, especially on teens of this age (The point of not being a really realistic TV show). Just as written earlier too, this behaviour of teens is normal. But does that mean parents should abide by their demands? No. But that too doesn't mean that they should adopt an new child to bring the older child in track. That's the difference between taking care of feelings and mental peace.

I brought the HM track into view because you said people wanted to see romance. That was the context of it that if people really wanted romance they wouldn't have heaped praises on the track. But if you choose to take it as an example that the 'cause has been more important than the relationship', well IT IS and I don't have a problem with that. But the track did not played with the mental health of a child and that's where lies the difference. The track had another larger picture too - the harsh-reality of a kotha and the side-effects of child-trafficking, how the women of a kotha are treated and snatched the freedom to live a life of their own. This track showed polygamy, but did not find it necessary to show the ills of polygamy and that why it is not a good idea, no justification, nothing. Leave alone that, as I said, it did not even find it necessary to put up a disclaimer when polygamy was shown and when words like badi-patni and choti-patni were used for a child. Again, this too could have made the show land in trouble. This again makes it QUITE different from the HM track.

Did I said anything against child marriage in my reply? Let alone that, did I even put up any views on 'abolishment of child-marriage'? No. I don't know from where exactly you faced backlash on asking for the abolishment of child marriage. People, here in IF, have at the most expressed their opinion as to how will Anirudh raise Bondita up if the tag dissolves? Cause that tag was needed for the society, how will they manage now will be a thing to watch. This is not termed as a backlash on child marriage annulment.

The term 'romance' that you mentioned in your post was not on the context on child-marriage. It was on the 'context of the ongoing track' on which people have expressed their displeasure. Expressing discontent or resentment with 'THIS' track does not mean people want romance.

If romance was really the 'need', why choose this show? There are hundreds of show running on that. Would not have chosen this show where the FL is underage. If chosen that means there lies a purpose under it.

Also, if we are talking about the importance of women education, what is the point of getting educated if we support a show that glorifies polygamy, public humiliation of woman and emotional abuse of a child? What is the point of living in the 21st century as an 'educated woman' if we don't find anything wrong with this track?

I think you should again read what exactly your lines were and on which I commented. There are problems in the track, but even you choose to ignore it, you can, it's your choice. But saying lines that other people wanted romance is not a very good thing to do in my opinion.

Originally posted by: Indira12

Did I said anything against child marriage in my reply? Let alone that, did I even put up any views on 'abolishment of child-marriage'? No. I don't know from where exactly you faced backlash on asking for the abolishment of child marriage. People, here in IF, have at the most expressed their opinion as to how will Anirudh raise Bondita up if the tag dissolves? Cause that tag was needed for the society, how will they manage now will be a thing to watch. This is not termed as a backlash on child marriage annulment.

The term 'romance' that you mentioned in your post was not on the context on child-marriage. It was on the 'context of the ongoing track' on which people have expressed their displeasure. Expressing discontent or resentment with 'THIS' track does not mean people want romance.

If romance was really the 'need', why choose this show? There are hundreds of show running on that. Would not have chosen this show where the FL is underage. If chosen that means there lies a purpose under it.

And now you said it! The various posts made against the introduced track of child marriage abolishment by going to an extent of going borderline abusive were the reason I wrote the original post. Why exactly are they objecting to this track?

If you were not a part of it, it was not targeted against you, and there was no reason for you to be triggered by it!!

But tell me something, why else would someone be posting against a track of child marriage nullification if the purpose is not to ship the couple over supporting the noble cause?

Especially when they can always remarry as adults?

And just because a series showcases polygamy, does it mean it glorifies it? All we got to see because of polygamy was Bondita suffering and everyone abandoning her (Even KSG who spoke about splitting the week! Sumati's abandonment was rigged, but what about everyone else?)

How is it glorification?

The only message a sensible person would take from it is not to be so weak that the husband gets encouraged to practice polygamy. How exactly is it motivating men to remarry and encouraging polygamy? Did we ever see a potential love track develop between ManoRuddh, except both supporting each other's motives?

Aniruddh already mentioned he fought the social evil of Sati by doing another social evil of child-marriage. He is ashamed of marrying a child but he had no other option to save her life.

Similarly, he regretting marrying Manorama and hurt Bondita but this was also an instance of the social evil of suppression of women post marriage and illiteracy by introducing polygamy.

If you want me to be blunt about the mentality I am talking about, here goes,

The "ship" gang will be thankful for the social evil of child-marriage, just because it brought the leads together, but will detest the social evil of polygamy just because it is separating the leads? (And it includes those who say that why couldn't they have shown it to be abolished after Bondita became an adult, how convenient?)

So how do you conclude what their priority is??? Isn't it hope of an eventual romance?

Also, if you are not the one who thinks like above in bold, it is not targeted against you.

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

And now you said it! The various posts made against the introduced track of child marriage abolishment by going to an extent of going borderline abusive were the reason I wrote the original post. Why exactly are they objecting to this track?

If you were not a part of it, it was not targeted against you, and there was no reason for you to be triggered by it!!

But tell me something, why else would someone be posting against a track of child marriage nullification if the purpose is not to ship the couple over supporting the noble cause?

Especially when they can always remarry as adults?

And just because a series showcases polygamy, does it mean it glorifies it? All we got to see because of polygamy was Bondita suffering and everyone abandoning her (Even KSG who spoke about splitting the week! Sumati's abandonment was rigged, but what about everyone else?)

How is it glorification?

The only message a sensible person would take from it is not to be so weak that the husband gets encouraged to practice polygamy. How exactly is it motivating men to remarry and encouraging polygamy? Did we ever see a potential love track develop between ManoRuddh, except both supporting each other's motives?

Aniruddh already mentioned he fought the social evil of Sati by doing another social evil of child-marriage. He is ashamed of marrying a child but he had no other option to save her life.

Similarly, he regretting marrying Manorama and hurt Bondita but this was also an instance of the social evil of suppression of women post marriage and illiteracy by introducing polygamy.

If you want me to be blunt about the mentality I am talking about, here goes,

The "ship" gang will be thankful for the social evil of child-marriage, just because it brought the leads together, but will detest the social evil of polygamy just because it is separating the leads? (And it includes those who say that why couldn't they have shown it to be abolished after Bondita became an adult, how convenient?)

So how do you conclude what their priority is??? Isn't it hope of an eventual romance?

Also, if you are not the one who thinks like above in bold, it is not targeted against you.

guys manorama ne jo doalgoues aaj diye voh marriage annulment ko kaise support karega, jo aaj usne kaha voh bonidta pehle se jaanti hai she was prasiing anirudh as if preseting his case before barrister bondita that she does not do tark ,only anirudh realises bon worth and her inner qualities and appeciates her wholeheartedly for her selflessness,loyalty and intelligence

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

And now you said it! The various posts made against the introduced track of child marriage abolishment by going to an extent of going borderline abusive were the reason I wrote the original post. Why exactly are they objecting to this track?

If you were not a part of it, it was not targeted against you, and there was no reason for you to be triggered by it!!

But tell me something, why else would someone be posting against a track of child marriage nullification if the purpose is not to ship the couple over supporting the noble cause?

Especially when they can always remarry as adults?

And just because a series showcases polygamy, does it mean it glorifies it? All we got to see because of polygamy was Bondita suffering and everyone abandoning her (Even KSG who spoke about splitting the week! Sumati's abandonment was rigged, but what about everyone else?)

How is it glorification?

The only message a sensible person would take from it is not to be so weak that the husband gets encouraged to practice polygamy. How exactly is it motivating men to remarry and encouraging polygamy? Did we ever see a potential love track develop between ManoRuddh, except both supporting each other's motives?

Aniruddh already mentioned he fought the social evil of Sati by doing another social evil of child-marriage. He is ashamed of marrying a child but he had no other option to save her life.

Similarly, he regretting marrying Manorama and hurt Bondita but this was also an instance of the social evil of suppression of women post marriage and illiteracy by introducing polygamy.

If you want me to be blunt about the mentality I am talking about, here goes,

The "ship" gang will be thankful for the social evil of child-marriage, just because it brought the leads together, but will detest the social evil of polygamy just because it is separating the leads? (And it includes those who say that why couldn't they have shown it to be abolished after Bondita became an adult, how convenient?)

So how do you conclude what their priority is??? Isn't it hope of an eventual romance?

Also, if you are not the one who thinks like above in bold, it is not targeted against you.

You got it all wrong! Where exactly can you find me getting triggered? Read what you write.

First you ask.

"Also I ask, abolishment of child-marriage is a great cause, so why so much backlash on it, if romance doesn't have more priority than the message of the show?"

Then when I say on it,

"And now you said it!"

You ask, I reply. And then you say that I must be triggered that's why I said on it.

Let me get it this straight. When all of the logics I posted relating to 'want of romance' failed to convince you, you brought out the topic of child marriage in your second reply. Which got me to comment on that.

I will again repeat what I said -

The term 'romance' that you mentioned in your post was NOT ON THE CONTEXT of child-marriage. It was on the 'context of the ongoing track' on which people have expressed their displeasure. Expressing discontent or resentment with 'THIS' track does not mean people want romance.

"But tell me something, why else would someone be posting against a track of child marriage nullification if the purpose is not to ship the couple over supporting the noble cause?

Especially when they can always remarry as adults?..."

Now if I really tell it to you wouldn't you again say I got triggered and hence spoke on it? Still I chose to ignore it and say.

I am NOT in support of people who are against the abolishment of child marriage. I never supported them in any of my previous replies. Reiterating once again what I said -

People, here in IF, have at the most expressed their opinion as to how will Anirudh raise Bondita up if the tag dissolves? Cause that tag was needed for the society, how will they manage now will be a thing to watch.

I support these people. I talked about these people. NOT people who are against annulment of child-marriage. So why do I need to clarify the latter's stand when I myself do not support them?

I don't get which part of it looks triggering or which part seems to show my support to those people against child-marriage abolishment

"...The various posts made against the introduced track of child marriage abolishment by going to an extent of going borderline abusive were the reason I wrote the original post. Why exactly are they objecting to this track?"

You read your original post? Your original post mentioned about finding no fault in the ONGOING track. Not in the child-marriage annulment track cause the track has not yet started. For the faults some of us find in THIS ONGOING track does not mean we do not support child-marriage abolishment track. Both of them are separate, how are you relating them?

I have presented the problems in the track in my posts. It's up to you you find it as a fault or not.

But showing discontent with the ONGOING TRACK does not mean we want romance. Again, don't mix it up with the child-marriage annulment track cause firstly it is NOT THE ONGOING track and is yet to come and secondly disagreeing to this track does not mean disagreeing to the child marriage abolishment track too.

"How is it glorification? How exactly is it motivating men to remarry and encouraging polygamy?..."

That I have said. The very fact of Anirudh succeeding in his plan showed that it was the only way that had the ability to bring Bondita on track when in reality there were other options too.

You remember why there was a disclaimer going on when the marriage of Anirudh-Bondita was happening? Cause it's illegal now and if a disclaimer isn't given, it seems as an encouragement.

The same reason why there was a need for a disclaimer during Ani-Mano marriage too.

"....not to be so weak that the husband gets encouraged to practice polygamy...."

That husbands should definitely marry for the second time when the wife goes against him, cause jealousy and reverse psychology can make wives understand what normal explanation cannot.

I have already said that I cannot force you to look at those as faults. It's up to you. But that does not mean the person who is looking at those as faults is someone who wants romance.

Originally posted by: Indira12

Rimi ❤️

Thank You 🤗 🤗❤️

Exactly! Mai pata nahi kitni bar bol chuki hu ke we didn't sign up this show for romance aur phir bhar bhar ke shows hai uske upar, chahti to vahi na dekhti, iss ke saath attach kyun hoti.

I think some people have created an imaginary world in their head where they hear only what they WANT to hear and then come up alleging the ones having a different opinion. They can't understand sarcasm or criticization. But that's not the problem. If the other person is trying to respect and understand your opinion, you should do that too. But no, a strict NO NO for that.

Let alone respecting the opinion of others, some people come and start telling me the crux of the show, its storyline, what it preaches, etc etc. 🤪 We can't really help if someone has the notion of love and bonding limited only to ROMANCE.

Aisa lagta hai ke sirf vahi log women empowerment ke liye dekhte hai, hume to bas waaris chahiye. ☺️🤣

So proud of you girl you have my heart ❤️ abhi abhi yeh dekha. So all we wanted was romance seriously that’s why we started watching a show whose lead is a kid🤦‍♀️. I am amused at how people can judge/ accuse at their convenience without asking or even trying to understand the other persons/ peoples thinking/ perceptions. Astounding it is to be alleged for wanting to see a child romancing an adult I am at a loss of words. Blaming/ taking digs is the easy way out I guess then trying to make efforts of understanding the other persons point of view.

Originally posted by: Itsmesabah

So proud of you girl you have my heart ❤️ abhi abhi yeh dekha. So all we wanted was romance seriously that’s why we started watching a show whose lead is a kid🤦‍♀️. I am amused at how people can judge/ accuse at their convenience without asking or even trying to understand the other persons/ peoples thinking/ perceptions. Astounding it is to be alleged for wanting to see a child romancing an adult I am at a loss of words. Blaming is the easy way out I guess then trying to make efforts of understanding the other persons point of view.

Sabah, thank you ❤️ 🤗

Yes you said it absolutely right. To blame someone is an easy way out. Child romancing an adult - there has been a lot of instances where we Rudhita-loving people has been thought of in this way. What's important is that instead of accusing, we should try to understand a different viewpoint too. The basic and most essential step of having a healthy world around us! ❤️

Originally posted by: Indira12

Anirudh made a haste because of 'exam deadline'? Which exam are you talking about? Cause after the wedding the only exam that Bon gave was the one topping which she got the opportunity to welcome the Viceroy. If that is the exam you have mentioned, well, there was a lot of time for that and Bon herself studied for it some two-three days back. Can't Anirudh made 'her sit and understand' all these days instead of bringing a sautan to make her jealous? It's pointless to say that he failed in making her understand or Bon was ziddi to not understand. If that was the case, Bon would not have agreed to Ani in the FIRST place when he explained to her about the cake fiasco. The girl, without having any idea of Mano's mission, admitted to an accusation that was never hers, because obviously, her patibabu made her understood. The same girl would be adamant enough to not pay heed to him asking for study is too much inconsistency too take. Looks like Bon's character is continuously being swapped as per the convenience to accede to the demand of the script of portraying Ani completely right.

"The trauma child Shubhra have faced" -

We are talking about the trauma of a person who is not in the picture now, but fail to notice the trauma a person, a child at present is facing. How must Bondita have felt when there was constant utterance of Thakur, the person who gave her the most horrific incident of her life, how she must be pained remembering those flashbacks every time his name was taken? But it is not surprising cause if Ani can overlook it, some people can definitely do it.

"...And people complain why realistic TV shows aren't made anymore..." -

Public humiliation - well, Anirudh is an impulsive man, it's justified. Twice? Mistakes can occur twice. Thrice? That's not really a mistake then. Man 'learns' from his mistakes. If not, then the character is not realistic. The first point of the show not being realistic in it's character depiction.

Young teens lack the ability to judge between right and wrong. They need guidance. Every teen must have been distracted from his/her studies at some point in his/her life. But does that mean parents should start adopting a new child to bring the older child in track? The second point of not being a realistic TV show.

(Please don't argue over whether Ani has a real marriage or not. Even in Thursday's episode Manorama clearly points it in the car out that Ani married her in front of everyone. Now Ani considering it false does not make it a fake marriage. He does not have the right to make fun of a sacred thread.)

All this time the show has been responsible enough to not use derogatory dialogues with a child or show anything that comes out as disturbing. And even if it did, it had put a DISCLAIMER claiming those to be just a fiction and that they are strictly against it. Where was the disclaimer when Ani was marrying for the second time? Cause if child marriage is illegal in the present day, polygamy falls under it too. If child marriage can have a disclaimer, why not polygamy? Where was the disclaimer of emotional abuse when Bon fell unconscious, unable to take the shock? That was a mental trauma and it needs disclaimer too. Where was the disclaimer when dialogues such has "Ya to tum hostel jaogi ya phir Manorama ko meri 'choti patni' ka darja dogi", "Wo badi patni mujhse jalti hai kyunki Anirudh ne mujhse shaadi ki hai" used for a child? Where was the disclaimer when a child was made to decorate the nuptial bedroom of her husband for his second marriage? This makes it the third point of why this show is a NON-REALISTIC TV show.

Nothing wrong with the track - Truly!

Anirudh's character is butchered because the same Anirudh who used to be aware of every single thing that caused pain to Bondita did not mind to think of her feelings every time discussions regarding Thakur took place. Anirudh who would always remember to check on her, that day SAW and STILL ignored her after Rani Sahiba left and Bon stood there, alone and pained.

(Please don't say Bon insulted Manorama, she needed to understand her and all cause Bon- firstly was not aware of her intentions and secondly, she did not insult, she confronted her for taking her cake)

Anirudh who would pride on Indian women handling both household and career has now started to trivialize cooking and household work, saying things like "Bondita ka har kadam sirf barrister babu banne ke taraf hana chahiye naki rasoi ke taraf". Again don't say she is a child, she does need to cook. Where was Anirudh that time when Kaka was teaching Bon to cook? Bon did not want to cook at the first place, she was forced to do that. Why didn't Anirudh objected? As far as I remember Anirudh instead taught her 'how to not sneeze while smelling kali-mirch' (Anirudh rather helped her in her learning process?) Why didn't he asked Bon to NOT make coffee for him every time she made him a coffee? Why didn't he objected when Bon made luchis ? Why did he instead ate them? Why didn't he objected or rather took an 'important step' like THIS the time Kaka started molding Bon into a kushal-grahini? This idea of being a perfect bahu did not come to Bon's mind naturally, it was induced from the beginning. Why was not a 'serious step' LIKE THIS taken that time? All of this could have been prevented now. How would have Anirudh helped Manorama in her mission if Bon really stopped cooking and did not bake the cake?

Anirudh himself gave a long explanation as to why one should not bring up internal matters in front of outsiders. Why does he preaches something else and does the exact opposite?

If all of this is not enough to show a high-principled guy like Anirudh getting butchered, I don't know what else is required.

There are tons of incorrect behaviour of Anirudh the past few days and it's really impossible to point every one of them in a single post. But it's saddening to see that these needs to be pointed out in a post when it is very much visible in the episodes. Shows how much obsessed people are in calling Anirudh a human that it makes them forget that Bon is a human too, with feelings and pain. The love for the character of ARC is so high in the air that the disgrace to women, emotional abuse of a child and polygamy gets no notice.

(The ill-effects of polygamy is not really shown in this track, rather it is glorified with the glorification of Anirudh, that he has done the exact right thing and his success projected makes it look like there was really NO other way to bring Bondita towards studies. Anirudh freely and happily roams around with two wives, there is no disclaimer going on and everything is portrayed as nice and easy)

A fancy word like 'reverse psychology' is used but a basic concept of mental health and emotional trauma is disregarded.

Reverse psychology' so that Bondita, every time she tried to help Mano, denied doing so because of the position Mano held in her life. The girl who made another girl escape Hira Mandi when she herself had no way to escape now questions herself before helping Mano in the smallest of thing. A selfess girl being made a self-conscious girl who thinks twice before praising and helping others? Cause jealousy 'reverse psychology'. But it doesn't really matters because all we need to be is good in studies, good personality and good morals can go for a toss! 👍🏼

Tell me, if all people wanted was romance why did the trps shoot up during the HM track? Cause I don't remember seeing romance during the HM track. Why was there heaps of praises, be it during the bed-wetting track, HM track or the menstruation track? Why did people made so numerous appreciation posts here on IF every time a strong episode was shown (for instance the molestation episode)? Why did people cheered on when Anirudh-Bondita managed to overcome a trouble and brought a small, yet significant change in the society?

It's disheartening to see that pointing out the flaws in an improper track, want of a bit of logic in a track, want of justification to humiliation and abuse, want of strong tracks is touted as want of romance, romance and romance.

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

I had predicted Manorama will die, it was evident in her dialogues ever since she had been introduced. So I was not worried of any long term love triangles springing up. But the way people have reacted to the track has been just horrible and nothing less.

But I have been pretty sad on how this track has been received by the viewers who had their top priority for Rudhita's romance track to remain plausible.

Except for Aniruddh's haste and not being able to sit down and talk to Bondita, which too was because of the exam deadline, I found nothing wrong with the track.

It was also pathetic to see those objecting to child marriage being abolished just because it nullified Rudhita's marriage and chances of romance and went to the extent of commenting that even Aniruddh is illegitimate because he was a product of Binoy-Shubra's child marriage. They don't think of the trauma child Shubra must have faced when she consummated her marriage and gave birth to Aniruddh.

In present day it would have been rape and yes a person like Ani would have been an illegitimate child, and the law was made to stop this from happening in future.

Abolishment of child marriage was a landmark decision and it was done to nullify marriage of couples who are still children and stop future such marriages, not confer all Indian marriages as illegal.

But no, all we need is Romance.

Reminds me of the web series Panchayat where people already having more that two kids got offended when the slogan of "Do bacche hai meethi kheer usse zyada hai bawaseer" (Two kids are sweet pudding, more than that are piles)

Youth taking their exams for granted these days will never understand the struggles women have had to face to get educated in the past.

Aniruddh's character is tagged as butchered just because he used passive aggression to coax a child into studying and got naturally attracted to a woman. And people complain why realistic TV shows aren't made anymore

This kind of viewership is exactly why channels start a show with a social message and after 50 episodes max, it's romance romance romance.

And you are accusing us of expecting romance😅....... Sorry , I am speechless regarding your thoughts and baseless judgements about us 😏😏

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

I had predicted Manorama will die, it was evident in her dialogues ever since she had been introduced. So I was not worried of any long term love triangles springing up. But the way people have reacted to the track has been just horrible and nothing less.

But I have been pretty sad on how this track has been received by the viewers who had their top priority for Rudhita's romance track to remain plausible.

Except for Aniruddh's haste and not being able to sit down and talk to Bondita, which too was because of the exam deadline, I found nothing wrong with the track.

It was also pathetic to see those objecting to child marriage being abolished just because it nullified Rudhita's marriage and chances of romance and went to the extent of commenting that even Aniruddh is illegitimate because he was a product of Binoy-Shubra's child marriage. They don't think of the trauma child Shubra must have faced when she consummated her marriage and gave birth to Aniruddh.

In present day it would have been rape and yes a person like Ani would have been an illegitimate child, and the law was made to stop this from happening in future.

Abolishment of child marriage was a landmark decision and it was done to nullify marriage of couples who are still children and stop future such marriages, not confer all Indian marriages as illegal.

But no, all we need is Romance.

Reminds me of the web series Panchayat where people already having more that two kids got offended when the slogan of "Do bacche hai meethi kheer usse zyada hai bawaseer" (Two kids are sweet pudding, more than that are piles)

Youth taking their exams for granted these days will never understand the struggles women have had to face to get educated in the past.

Aniruddh's character is tagged as butchered just because he used passive aggression to coax a child into studying and got naturally attracted to a woman. And people complain why realistic TV shows aren't made anymore

This kind of viewership is exactly why channels start a show with a social message and after 50 episodes max, it's romance romance romance.

Under line 1: No yaar...i think 99% of fandom doesn't require romance...that's wrong also..if they show romance we clearly object it...

Red : it's ok if he is not able to sit down and talk some sense to her...and exams? Which exams..? Just on the day of anniversary she topped and which exam deadline is near..?

And you don't find any wrong in this track?? Like seriously (keep aside his marriage ) is it right to humiliate her before everyone be it anniversary day or be it post marriage rituals or be it holi...is it right to make her jealous saying words like...mano ke saath kaler kana ka swaad badega... All are right for u??

Intentions jo koi bhi ho..hamare parents bhi dand dethe he agar hum raaste batak rahi he tho...iska matlab e nahi ki...vo log hume sabke saamne humiliate kare aur bole tumhareliye karraha hu...vo esa bilkul nahi karthe..balki...koi aur tarikese samjadethe ya dand dethe...

Yahi problem hame nahi romance expectations...

Strike: you again got it wrong here...they said it bcz if any law comes it will be thereafter any child marriage happens it's not valid...but esa koi law nahi hosaktha ki past me jo bhi ho..vo bhi nullyfy hojay...bcz ok..Ruditha tho tike..but esa couple socho child marriage hua aur after puberty she has a child..and now child is 3-4 years...and now this law came..and nullyfy that marrriage...so, now what about that child?..how he will be considered legal?...this is the example to say we can't nullify the old and already done marriages...but can nullify future ones...

Blue: Oh passive aggressions are ok with good I tentions?? Here bonditha is strong...so she was ok..but what happens if she attempted suicide on the day of shaadi..? Who is respy for it..? Harbaar aggressive hona aur realisation ke baad tandese samjhana e kaha ki charector he..aur attraction to a human...tike manletha hu..he misconcepted his attraction to love of life...

Hello friend I think you have to understand the exact point what loyal fans expect...

See if romance only we require...how can we accept HM track..they are not near also...he is somewhere...she is somewhere...

And bed wetting track...is there any touch also?? No na..but that was appreciated...

Mensuration track: how we praised him for the way he explained her about it..

All these don't have any romance but we'll appreciated...bcz it is all done in a right way without humilating any one..