*Discussion Of The Week #6 Unmarried Women In Pakistani Dramas* - Page 3

On the other hand, when you’re unmarried and nobody wants you, you can feel depressed. So many lovely, decent, well mannered girls, and theyre not even putting off marriage because of career, are reaching 30 plus and want to marry but no one asks for them. They’re not being choosy, just nobody interested in them. They can feel like a failure, like what’s wrong with me?

Originally posted by: Ashley.Tisdale

What I have noticed is that the women from elite parts of the society are much more desperate to get married while the ones from middle class wanna work out and are still treated like a burden.

Being a working woman doesn't stop your family from thinking about your future. They want to see you settled down. This is their biggest worry . 🤓

Ironically most Pakistani A Listers are married before 30 and some have kids too. Like Mahira Khan, Ayeza Khan, Hira Mani, Sajal Aly, Urwa Hocans.

There are also the likes of: Saba Qamar , Mehwish Hayat , Ayesha Omar Neelam Muneer , and others who are still unmarried.😊

Honestly I love how these women balance their work and professional life so well and are still getting lead roles. In India, actresses don't get married until their career slows down coz they feel that early marriage will ruin their chances as a leading actress. Most of them are in love, but chose to wait and most times that even leads to breakups. The scenario across the border is much different.

Maybe it is because actresses in India are more free to consider live in relationships.🤓 So they delay marriage plans , I think society is changing even in India. Coz there are many examples of movie actresses who are married and still doing leading roles, like: Kareena, Deepika .

I truly feel the Pakistani Entertainment Industry should showcase how strong these women are, they have live examples of actresses who are handling everything and working full time as leading actresses. They should really bring forward this side instead of showing the "women are burdens etc" side. It would help impact society positively too.

There are dramas which highlight such topics too, but the main focus of dramas is bichari women. 😒

Originally posted by: Geraldin

On the other hand, when you’re unmarried and nobody wants you, you can feel depressed. So many lovely, decent, well mannered girls, and theyre not even putting off marriage because of career, are reaching 30 plus and want to marry but no one asks for them. They’re not being choosy, just nobody interested in them. They can feel like a failure, like what’s wrong with me?

It is natural. Everyone needs to feel appreciated and liked by others. In our society friendship between opposite sexes is forbidden. No live in relationships, no partying out, or having fun with friends till midnights. 😆 So what else can a woman think of beside work? Only marraige . 🤔

Guys think that women above 30 are old. So it becomes more difficult to get married after a certain age. 🤔 Here comes the importance of building a supporting system, from family members to friends.. a woman should think of living well .. In my case I stayed unmarried untill I was 36. I was busy working studying , writing poems, taking care of my brother's kids, traveling. Life was a beautifull journey.. untill the moment of truth came.

Originally posted by: awida

Being a working woman doesn't stop your family from thinking about your future. They want to see you settled down. This is their biggest worry .

There are also the likes of: Saba Qamar , Mehwish Hayat , Ayesha Omar Neelam Muneer , and others who are still unmarried.

Maybe it is because actresses in India are more free to consider live in relationships. So they delay marriage plans , I think society is changing even in India. Coz there are many examples of movie actresses who are married and still doing leading roles, like: Kareena, Deepika .

There are dramas which highlight such topics too, but the main focus of dramas is bichari women. 😒

Live in relationships aren't as common in India as you think they are. The only problem public figures face is going out on dates in the open coz someone will recognize them. So they have to meet secretly, which is generally at their homes or going to a different destination where no one recognises them.

Kareena, Deepika, Anushka are married and working, yes. But this is fairly recent, whereas I have been seeing a progressive trend across the border much earlier. Back in the early 2000s we had actresses like Shweta Tiwari and Smriti Irani who were married with kids and working, but for some reason marriage is looked upon.

The family's concern is understandable. But women being treated as a burden is wrong, specially if she is an earning member of the family and being a support system.

Ya so the unmarried actresses you've mentioned, do their fans treat them as a burden? Or keep on telling them to get married all the time? They still respect them right? Their quality of work hasn't been affected.

I mentioned married actresses specifically to show the contrast of what happens on screen vs real life. Ayeza, Hira, Mahira etc have supportive fans, they have never been told things like ghar pe baitho ab aur bacho ko sambhaalo etc. There is no discrimination. So why show unmarried women in negative light?

Both married and unmarried actresses are treated fairly, there is no discrimination and their quality of work is also great. So why not show something so progressive in real life?

Imo they shouldn't show unmarried women as burdens, that will help bring across a positive change in society.

Originally posted by: awida

🤣 I think for uneducated women at least.

My cousin feels proud that she had all her 4 daughters married at the age of 14.. acc to her this is a proof that they are the most sought after girls in the family.😆

I think many divorcees dread getting married again because of the society too. Coz it says that a woman has to live for her children now. She had been married once and it is enough for her.😳 same goes with widows.😔

It is sad that even educated ppl aren't able to break up from these norms. 😒 A woman has the right to live her life the way she wants. 😊

I always hear women saying that their biggest accomplishment is having kids rather than marriage, i know someone who was married to a man for 4 years but remained childless. Then she got married to another man and had a baby, after the baby they got divorced but she didnt care. She is satisfied living with her daughter at her aunts house.

I guess people want what they don’t have. If you’re single you want to be married, if you’re married you then want kids etc. until it’s ‘been there, done that’. What’s wrong is when others make you feel bad because you’re not doing what they expect you to do. If you’re unmarried and successful you could be happy, but stupid aunties will treat you like you’re a bechari. That narrow mindset needs to go.

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

Its disgusting how women judge other women. Aunties here are like oh yeh 30 ki hogayi hai why isnt she still married? Iski shadi ko itne saal hogaye why doesnt she have a kid? etc etc

Originally posted by: awida

🤣 I think for uneducated women at least.

My cousin feels proud that she had all her 4 daughters married at the age of 14.. acc to her this is a proof that they are the most sought after girls in the family.😆

I think many divorcees dread getting married again because of the society too. Coz it says that a woman has to live for her children now. She had been married once and it is enough for her.😳 same goes with widows.😔

It is sad that even educated ppl aren't able to break up from these norms. 😒 A woman has the right to live her life the way she wants. 😊

Originally posted by: Ashley.Tisdale

Both married and unmarried actresses are treated fairly, there is no discrimination and their quality of work is also great. So why not show something so progressive in real life?

Now I got you. And I agree. Drama viewers don't differantee between married and unmarried actresses. There is a huge fan following them. 😊But many married actresses disappeared from dramas after marriage.😒

Imo they shouldn't show unmarried women as burdens, that will help bring across a positive change in society.

I hope to see more progressive dramas in future. I liked watching dramas in which parents give their daughters freedom to learn, work and choose their husbands. In dramas like: Sabaat , Alif , Ehd E Wafa.. we saw parents who support their daughters to achieve their goals and dreams. 😃

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

I always hear women saying that their biggest accomplishment is having kids rather than marriage, i know someone who was married to a man for 4 years but remained childless. Then she got married to another man and had a baby, after the baby they got divorced but she didnt care. She is satisfied living with her daughter at her aunts house.

Yes. Having kids is almost the main reason behind women desire to get married. 😆 There are of course another reasons like: love, finding someone to grow old with, or even for show off.😳 There are also many couples who are happily married and don't want to have kids, mainly in the west.😃