Anupama's idea of a good mother - Page 2

Originally posted by: Disha2712

Rakhi is correct form her point of view. She wants to protect Kinjal and don't want to see Kinjal in a similar situation as Anupama.

But what Rakhi said about Anupama and her dependence on Vanraj was wrong.

I don't understand why everyone still despise Anupama and making her feel that she is wrong in some way or the other. I thought after the confrontation and after everyone will get to know about Vanraj's affair they will support Anupama and will become her strength in tough situations. But here she is the one who is still supporting everyone, understanding everyone's feelings and yet nobody (except some) understand her feelings, nobody is standing up for Anupama or helping her fight in these bad games played by Vanraj. Even Rakhi could have supported her but she also thinks that it's because of Anupama's blind trust on Vanraj all this happened.

Neither the kids (except Samar) , nor Baa understand her feelings. She is the one whose cheated upon by her husband when she trusted him blindly for 25 years. They don't feel her sorrow or sadness that they should at least give her some time to be strong and at least for some time not make her feel miserable by talking about Vanraj but they are busy showing their own sorrows of being away form their son, or father...indirectly making Anupmaa the reason of their sadness.

Exactly, that should have happened. But when it didnt happen, Anupama should have stepped up and speak for herself. When your grown up kids are acting ungrateful, regardless of the situation that need to be fixed first. She has to make them realize the severity of the situation here. Its not just a kids play here.

And I think from day one, I did not like Anupama in favor of Kinjal and Toshu. And I thought after getting close to Kinjal, how can she still let her life be ruined. She knows what her life would be in this family. Its fine that she is ok with it ()but she could have at least talked to Kinjal and Toshu about their lifetyle and their expectations.

And after the exposure and all their mess, would she marry Pakhi with a boy who supports EMA? She knew Toshu was supporting his dad and how he behaved with her to let go and forget about it. Anupama is always shown to be caring so why not towards Kinjal and tell her that Toshu is not right. And she should make sure Toshu is mature enough before letting him get married.

Crystal clear truth been said! While we do collectively disagree on Rakhi having certain opinions post the revelation about Anupama's troubled marriage, Anu cannot really justify being a good mother to mollycoddling grown up kids and trying to shelter them even when they are wrong.

Kinjal has expressed her view on the Anupama situation directly or indirectly a lot of times in front of her mother and she's seen how much Toshu idolises his dad. What guarantee is there to secure her daughter's future in this house in that case? Thinking about Kinjal's and Toshu's love right now and getting them married should not cause agony going forward, especially when Toshu does not even have a stable income or proof that he can support his family and Kinjal in the storm the Shah family has to face since their previous sole breadwinner Vanraj is now living in a different house! Basically, Toshu has by no account proved he is ready to deal with such a situation in Rakhi or the audience's eyes.

Sweety has been manipulated and soon she'll move into the mansion of convienence without thinking twice and fall on her face as her whims and fancies will not be adhered to. She is way beyond Anupama's care and love, and will not pay heed to her mother or the family now that she has incorrectly assumed that her Dad and his *colleague* will continue to shower her with gifts and what-nots. Let her crash when she does and this time, just hope Anu allows her to live this experience rather than taking her in with open arms and without question.

Dolly and Baa are such perfect mothers, I tell you! The kind where if their son and/or brother commit a crime, they'd excuse it but when Rakhi asks Dolly if she would want their daughter's family members to turn out like this and allow it, she looks highly uncomfortable. You cannot label her a bad mother for being practical on this front.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

See anupama is thinking from her own angle and rakhi is thinking from own angle

If we think from rakhi pov then her fear and her worry about daughter is right

And if think from anupama pov that she is not also wrong because no mother will think negative thought about her children

Rakhi may think that paritosh will cheat kinjal just like vanraj but anupama cannot think such way that her son will cheat kinjal just like vanraj

. To anupama and rakhi apni apni jagah sahi hain

I think instead of blamimg each other and both rakhi and anupama should under stand mother feeling of each other

It is ok rakhi dont want to marry kinjal but ek maa ke naate dono anupama aur rakhi ek doosre ko samajh to sakte hain

But Toshu was clearly supporting his dad's EMA and wanted his mom to get over it (even though that story was made up but still he didnt feel for his mom). Wouldnt Anupama notice his cold behavior about this matter. From that point, she should think about some girl's life that he will spoil with this immaturity. She cant think evil of him but this is defiitely immature.

I mean him and the so called little Pakhi calling Samar loser. I mean we have seen Anupama giving it out when she has to then why not here. This was so wrong. She chose to take the insults for herself but here those guys were making fun of Samar who had even heard them and she didnt say anything.

Agreed cent percent!
Toshu baby is as far as i know still unemployed

Toshu baby doesnt pay his own mom much respect.

Rather than immediately filing for a divorce and cutting off ties with him, Anupama is still wearing that mangalsutra.

A family who is supporting the cheating husband, undermining a mother and a wife, children who are overtly dependent on their parents for their splurges and who fail to see their own wrong. How can any mother allow her daughter to marry into such a family?! The only sane ppl in this story is Samar, Anirudhh, the dadaji and Rakhi.

Like wth is going on? Vanraj is the father and as part of alimony he shd still be providing for their needs smh. All in that family are jobless how is that house running💀 and they wanna bring Kinjal into that? Love is imp but so is financial stability.

Originally posted by: Disha2712

Rakhi is correct form her point of view. She wants to protect Kinjal and don't want to see Kinjal in a similar situation as Anupama.

But what Rakhi said about Anupama and her dependence on Vanraj was wrong.

I don't understand why everyone still despise Anupama and making her feel that she is wrong in some way or the other. I thought after the confrontation and after everyone will get to know about Vanraj's affair they will support Anupama and will become her strength in tough situations. But here she is the one who is still supporting everyone, understanding everyone's feelings and yet nobody (except some) understand her feelings, nobody is standing up for Anupama or helping her fight in these bad games played by Vanraj. Even Rakhi could have supported her but she also thinks that it's because of Anupama's blind trust on Vanraj all this happened.

Neither the kids (except Samar) , nor Baa understand her feelings. She is the one whose cheated upon by her husband when she trusted him blindly for 25 years. They don't feel her sorrow or sadness that they should at least give her some time to be strong and at least for some time not make her feel miserable by talking about Vanraj but they are busy showing their own sorrows of being away form their son, or father...indirectly making Anupmaa the reason of their sadness.

Another good point! She doesn’t teach her own children to not disrespect anyone like that much less their own brother! Mahaanta is just not giving out long mahaan dialogues. She shd start realising that...