Originally posted by: Sense9
I feel like I have to keep putting a disclaimer in all my posts that I don't support all of Kuhu's actions but I understand where she is coming from. π
Isn't it funny that in some cultures you can actually enjoy a show about a serial killer's backstory and motivations, no questions asked, but here we have to give a disclaimer for enjoying the journey of a young woman's human fallibility? #justanobservation
Okay, so I have to rant about Mishti's dialogues in today's episode. She's trying to tell Kuhu, everything worked out for you -- your husband loves you, your sasural loves you and now you're having a second wedding -- so my mistake (of stealing your papers) which doesn't count anyway because I didn't have bad intentions is totally cancelled out. Now be happy and get on board with my special day because I have it so much harder than you -- my mother-in-law openly hated me, she plotted to keep Abir and me apart and now I am entering that household. Why don't you stop complaining about your Karan Johar movie of a life and start sympathising with my real-life daily-soap?
But um, Mishti? Kuhu wasn't handed this KJo-directed life -- she started with exactly the same odds that you did -- in fact worse because she didn't even have Kunal's love and support -- and she worked and loved selflessly through some dark times to earn what she has in her sasural today. Plus, that love you're so proud of? The one that you're fighting for everyday, the one that makes everythine else seem irrelevant? Yeah, you wouldn't have that if Kuhu hadn't fought on your behalf and broken the communication barrier that you and Abir had so deftly constructed with your NishMish attacks and your impulsive, life-shattering truth revelations (still waiting for her to apologise to Kunal for this, btw). So maybe take a step back and understand that other people have real problems, and just because they were able solve them in a way that you wouldn't have chosen doesn't mean they got lucky. It may mean that *gasp* you were wrong/have something to learn.
Mishti is entirely missing Kuhu's point which is this: if you hadn't meddled in my affairs, and stolen my papers, Kunal and I would have quietly sorted out our problems and either privately called off the divorce or gone through with it. Today would have been all about you and Abir, and everyone would have gotten their happy ending, but that wasn't enough for you. You just had to drag my problems into the open and drag and the entire family through an unnecessarily traumatic experience and for what? Because you couldn't resist the urge to be the great saviour? As usual, our family cannot wait to smooth everything over and pretend like this never happened, but I am so done with you not facing consequences for your actions just because everyone is too scared of drama. You wanted to make today about me? Great! I'm totally on board and I will do everything in my power to pull focus. You messed up and I am DONE being complicit in this mission to protect you from the repercussions.
Mishti needs to understand that people are allowed to be angry with her for things she did, even if she didn't mean to hurt them. Impact over intention, or in simpler terms. "sorry doesn't make a dead man alive" π BM and BP have seriously failed her in this department. They taught her to cope with people's anger by universally dismissing it as pettiness and immaturity, and believing herself above it all. That is why Mishti hasn't been able to build real relationships with any of the other members of the Maheshwari household (or even, I would argue, BP and BM themselves). In trying to compensate for her feelings of abandonment, and affirm that she was loved, BM and BP gave her the impression that she could do no wrong and she ended up with a sense of superiority rather than genuine self-worth. As a result, she's also left with a crippling fear that she'll be abandoned again if she does't live up to their image of her. It coule ba a genuinely compelling arc; I just wish the show would address it properly.
Edited by Samanalyse - 4 years ago
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