Originally posted by: asmaanixx
Babita's situation with Ashok is completely different with HS'.
When she had sex with Ashok, she was under the illusion that whatever they shared was in fact a love filled relationship. She of course was at the tender age of eighteen when she got married so she didn't really have a lot of standards to go off of when it comes to long term relationships, love or marriage. She merely followed what she was told. However, even then she had told HS that Ashok never touched her unless she wanted it. So I don't see why the same wouldn't be applied to HS.
Sex isn't a "duty" that a woman needs to fulfill. We're not obligated to fulfill anyone's sexual desires other than our own. If this is the message that the writers left us with, then once again, I'm more disgusted than usual.
If that's the case, then there's no point in having these discussions now is there? We all might as well leave the forum and let it die out.
I agree. Ashok and Babita fell out of love after he left for London. I actually don't even think it was love to begin with. She was in a loveless marriage. Its another thing that she was delusional to think that there was still love left in her marriage.
The case with HS and Babita is different. They actually both do love each other a lot... unless writers all along wanted to tell us that it was all a facade and they never really loved each other, they just wanted "sex" or whatever, then I don't know what to say. I refuse to believe this again. Mini leaving would have impacted their life and they must have had fights too, but not to this extent. Again, its the narrative they want to push that Hanita's marriage was only intact because of Mini, which again is a bunch of crap. Remember NB's voiceover while Hanita were walking towards the mandap, we were as shocked even then.
I would like to think they reconciled their differences, esp. after Babita got pregnant. They had to have had a conversation with each other on this. They can't keep fighting. HS would never stress Babita when she's pregnant. I would like to think after Mini, both lost hope which affected their marital life... with Arya's news, both found hope and purpose in their life. Thats all. Sometimes, you need certain circumstances to happen to reevaluate your life. Doesn't mean they didn't love each other or that they were just having sex to fulfill marital duties or whatever. I don't see Babita and HS as a person who would ever do that. They have always had that emotional connect. NB/Lala explained that Babita's pregnancy news changed their life, both started staying really happy with each other. If you watch HS's phone calls, Arya's birth news, and those video recordings, he looks happy to me. He's talking about Babita as he's really proud of her as well.
Edited by LoveInAutumn26 - 5 years ago