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Originally posted by: AreYaar

Doesn’t it mean the same thing?😕 Her considering herself his daughter automatically means she considered him to be a father, no?

Koi technical distinction hai kya that I’m not getting? 🤔😂

Semantics mein caught up ho rahe hain sab 🤷‍♀️

This difference is clearly shown in the last two trust issue. In the CD issue, HS was wrong and he apologized for that. Has Mini forgiven him? No.

Babitha called her second woman and didn't even apologize. Does Mini keep any grudges? No.

I understand Mini's pain and I completely agree HS has faltered in maintaining their relationship. But the boundaries of their relationship can be decided only by Mini. She should first make it clear to him what she expects from him.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

For me these are two different things. Accepting him father would mean giving him equal place as Babitha in her life. Is she ready for that? Would she take any shit from him like she takes from Babitha ? No.

This difference is clearly shown in the last two trust issue. In the CD issue, HS was wrong and he apologized for that. Has Mini forgiven him? No.

Babitha called her second woman and didn't even apologize. Does Mini keep any grudges? No.

I understand Mini's pain and I completely agree HS has faltered in maintaining their relationship. But the boundaries of their relationship can be decided only by Mini. She should first make it clear to him what she expects from him.

I agree that Mini hasn’t given HS an equal space as Babita, but I also think that HS has to coax Mini to express her expectations.

She’s a kid....it’s harder for her to communicate her expectations when she is so hurt. Expecting her to set boundaries when she is hurt isn’t reasonable IMO. Instead of going gaga over song dedications from Babita, HS should be trying to figure out the sensitive delicate state of Mini’s mind.

Babita has 17 years of bonding ka advantage with Mini and the fact that her being an immature petulant person makes ppl forgive her bakwaas comments.

With HS, Mini was still building something when it got badly bruised by the CD incident. So it cannot be compared directly to the allowances she makes for Babita at this point. Babita is a constant mess to be managed. With HS, I get the sense that Mini wants an anchor.

But for HS to just sit back and chill thinking that one fine day Mini will text him what boundaries she wants to set🙄....I don’t think that is the right approach.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

I agree that Mini hasn’t given HS an equal space as Babita, but I also think that HS has to coax Mini to express her expectations.

She’s a kid....it’s harder for her to communicate her expectations when she is so hurt. Expecting her to set boundaries when she is hurt isn’t reasonable IMO. Instead of going gaga over song dedications from Babita, HS should be trying to figure out the sensitive delicate state of Mini’s mind.

Babita has 17 years of bonding ka advantage with Mini and the fact that her being an immature petulant person makes ppl forgive her bakwaas comments.

With HS, Mini was still building something when it got badly bruised by the CD incident. So it cannot be compared directly to the allowances she makes for Babita at this point. Babita is a constant mess to be managed. With HS, I get the sense that Mini wants an anchor.

But for HS to just sit back and chill thinking that one fine day Mini will text him what boundaries she wants to set🙄....I don’t think that is the right approach.

The truth is she never trusted him enough to share anything about herself. Their relationship had always been one sided where HS bared himself to her and she remained closed. Now why does she expects him to know everything and act like a father? If you want people to treat like a kid then behave like one. I understand with Babitha she has to be a mother so the facade. What's the need to pretend infront of HS who had always treated her like a kid? Unless she stops hiding behind a happy face , she can never have a true relationship in her life.

U know wat I feel just stop this crap tv series call patiala babes enough of noncence if any tell how is the way to stop this series as soon as possible

Originally posted by: Jiarao

I have different opinion about HS being love stuck but I am not saying he is doing right. He is clearly at fault here. Being an adult he should reach out to her. I also understand Mini's pain. But what I can't accept is her keeping grudges for something he clearly apologized from his heart. He was clearly ashamed of what he did and he accepted it. Why can't she accept his apology and move forward. ? One mistake from his side nullifies everything he has done so far?

The truth is she never trusted him enough to share anything about herself. Their relationship had always been one sided where HS bared himself to her and she remained closed. Now why does she expects him to know everything and act like a father? If you want people to treat like a kid then behave like one. I understand with Babitha she has to be a mother so the facade. What's the need to pretend infront of HS who had always treated her like a kid? Unless she stops hiding behind a happy face , she can never have a true relationship in her life.

Who said she’s holding grudges? 😕

Being hurt is very different from holding grudges....a grudge is a negative feeling....she doesn’t hold negative feelings towards HS.....what she feels is hurt and neglect.

Him apologizing only fixes one part of the situation, not the whole. He apologized for doubting her, not for saying to her that she doesn’t consider him her father. And she being a kid finds it harder to ask him to clarify that. When she didn’t ask him to clarify the CD thing first cuz of her hurt, she won’t ask him this first either. As a kid, her hurt is worse.

Lol so many kids act older than their age....the onus is on the adults to navigate that and help the child with their confused behavior if they want to be a part of the child’s life. Warna everyone is free to stay in their bubbles 🤷‍♀️.....why bother.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

I have different opinion about HS being love stuck but I am not saying he is doing right. He is clearly at fault here. Being an adult he should reach out to her. I also understand Mini's pain. But what I can't accept is her keeping grudges for something he clearly apologized from his heart. He was clearly ashamed of what he did and he accepted it. Why can't she accept his apology and move forward. ? One mistake from his side nullifies everything he has done so far?

The truth is she never trusted him enough to share anything about herself. Their relationship had always been one sided where HS bared himself to her and she remained closed. Now why does she expects him to know everything and act like a father? If you want people to treat like a kid then behave like one. I understand with Babitha she has to be a mother so the facade. What's the need to pretend infront of HS who had always treated her like a kid? Unless she stops hiding behind a happy face , she can never have a true relationship in her life.

Sorry to butt in like this. If you mind, just ignore my point.

@bold: Who did she break down to regarding Ashok's drug case? Who did she go to for every single problem related to her mother?

Remember HS' player and coach analogy? She can help Babes but coach can't step in place of the player? Why would HS randomly give that piece of wisdom without Minnie needing it?

Even after the audio recording issue, she talked to HS (though late). She didn't go to her mother. When she wanted to apologise she spoke with him and opened up about her hurt.

Regarding the Manmeet case. Regarding the admission issue. Regarding the karate competition. Every single step of the way she turned to her Hanuman uncle for guidance.

@undeline: But it's not a grudge. She still defends HS every chance she gets. She's hurt. He didn't trust her with a frigging CD when she trusted him literally with murder. One apology can not dispel that fear or the hurt. She's scared of it being repeated.

Originally posted by: tk2015

@bold: Who did she break down to regarding Ashok's drug case? Who did she go to for every single problem related to her mother?

What a coincidence cuz I just rewatched this scene yesterday and it’s so fresh in my mind....the way she broke down and told HS to keep Ashok in jail and not let him out at all...give him punishment. And the way HS responded saying ki haan jail mein daal dunga......the amount of TRUST between them hits you hard in that scene....the way he coaxes her into expressing her pain and she just lets go and crumbles into his arms. It was beautifully portrayed. These two just make my heart full

@AY - Waiting to hear your thoughts on today's episode. HS & Minnie finally talk to one another.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

What a coincidence cuz I just rewatched this scene yesterday and it’s so fresh in my mind....the way she broke down and told HS to keep Ashok in jail and not let him out at all...give him punishment. And the way HS responded saying ki haan jail mein daal dunga......the amount of TRUST between them hits you hard in that scene....the way he coaxes her into expressing her pain and she just lets go and crumbles into his arms. It was beautifully portrayed. These two just make my heart full

Hannie were beautiful by themselves, but even Babita stepped back and understood that Minnie needs HS. She figured that her daughter will open up to HS more than her and she gave space to them both.

It was such a beautiful episode. It felt like HS was peeling back layers of emotions that probably even Minnie had forgotten about. The feelings and hurt this child had hidden all came to the surface just because she was in the presence of her Hanuman uncle.

When Minnie lost the fight to her grief, pain, hurt and humiliation, HS was hurt and cried right with her. He looked so broken because his Veer Balika was hurting. His brave girl.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

@AY - Waiting to hear your thoughts on today's episode. HS & Minnie finally talk to one another.

Looking forward to watching the scene, and hope to post my take later in the evening. Abhi toh I’m stuck at work. Lol