1st Oct Discussion - Ajao Saray - Page 34

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Damnn reading ya'all's parent's or own experience with the in-laws just made me so sad 😭.

My family was different. I have never lived in a joint family, also never lived with grandparents for a longer period of time. We would only visit them during festivals and vacations. My parents were living on their own separately before us kids were born, but I do remember stories of what other relatives have told me that when my mom first came to my dad's house after they got married, my grandmother didn't treat my mom very nicely. She only lived with the in-laws for 1 year or so, but it was pretty bad. My dad took a stand and decided to leave the house and live separately. However, my mom never badmouthed my grandma in front of us. We found out about this lot later too because over time everything was "fine", and my grandma started behaving normally with my mom.

However, when I think about how my grandma must have treated my mother, even though I didn't see it with my own eyes, it makes my blood boil. There were certain things going on in our family and these things were brought up later on, me and my siblings fought and told off our grandma for treating our mom badly. She didn't have anything to say to us 😳. This is why I don't understand Mini not even faulting her grandparents for how they treated her mom 🤔.

Ufh, I'm glad your dad took a firm stand about this. In many ways it also comes down to what kind of spouse we have. If it's a loving and supporting one, then it gets a little easier to navigate through all the complications. But if the spouse is also no good, then you're in hell from both sides.

But I agree with you on the part about Minnie. In my family, I have seen how my grandpa treated my mom and have many times told him off myself. Even now when he's gone, though I love him, I haven't forgotten all the things he put my through. Right now, Minnie is coming off as being too absorbed in her grandparent's takleef and ignoring Babes'. If she just talked to her mother calmly and told her that while she hasn't forgotten the way they treated her, she would still like to take care of them because they are grandparents and they're at that age where they need someone to take care of them. She doesn't Babita to be burdened with their responsibility and is hence taking it up herself. Babita could have reacted to it however she wants but at least the matter would have been addressed.

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

😆 Insaaniyat.

HS ko biwi mil gai. Beti mil gai.

Ibb Dadu - dadi bhi milenge.

Parivaar Pura ho raha hai uska.

Siyape hi siyape hai. Ek din HS Haveli chhodke nikal lega.

When writers said abhi toh shuruaat hai. They meant that Babita will again start from scratch and go thru those 17 years. 🥳 Hum log yeh message samaj nahi paye. 😉

NOOOOOO Yeh emanicapation kaise hua phir??? 😭

On a serious note, I hope this is just a temporary fix and they don't live at the haveli permanently. I mean Hanita ka toh hogaya phir romance shomance, time spend karna and all that jazzz 🤔

Ashnoor is the most popular of the trio. She gets 100k likes for a single post. So much higher than Anirudh and Paridhi combined.

I was just wondering, could her popularity be the reason that Mini gets max screen space and that she is never proven wrong?

I could be totally wrong but I have seen popularity affecting the writing so was just trying to figure out consistent imbalance in character growth.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

NOOOOOO Yeh emanicapation kaise hua phir??? 😭

On a serious note, I hope this is just a temporary fix and they don't live at the haveli permanently. I mean Hanita ka toh hogaya phir romance shomance, time spend karna and all that jazzz 🤔

Forget the romance.

Why should HS have them in his day to day life. Kya lagte hai uske? Humanity ke naam pe he should bring all of abandoned Patiala’s oldies then.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Ufh, I'm glad your dad took a firm stand about this. In many ways it also comes down to what kind of spouse we have. If it's a loving and supporting one, then it gets a little easier to navigate through all the complications. But if the spouse is also no good, then you're in hell from both sides.

But I agree with you on the part about Minnie. In my family, I have seen how my grandpa treated my mom and have many times told him off myself. Even now when he's gone, though I love him, I haven't forgotten all the things he put my through. Right now, Minnie is coming off as being too absorbed in her grandparent's takleef and ignoring Babes'. If she just talked to her mother calmly and told her that while she hasn't forgotten the way they treated her, she would still like to take care of them because they are grandparents and they're at that age where they need someone to take care of them. She doesn't Babita to be burdened with their responsibility and is hence taking it up herself. Babita could have reacted to it however she wants but at least the matter would have been addressed.

This is ideal scenario. Fir Khuranas kaha jate?

Aur Babita ko stupid kese prove karte.

Galat hai yo. You talk logic. And you make lot of sense. Yo na ho sakta.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Thanks for saying this. I absolutely adore NB-Babita's dynamic. I don't know where this is coming from but I have never noticed Babita misbehave with NB. I thought she was always good to NB. She seeks NB's advise and actually listens to them as well. Unlike Beeji, NB is the mother that Babita never got when she married Ashok and when her own mom died, and she doesn't even share this relationship with NB because of HS. Her relationship with NB is her own. Babita can share whatever she wants to with NB, and not feel judged for it. Yes, sometimes Babita hasn't understood NB's advise but I don't think Babita has ever been rude to her. Also, absolutely love how NB daant karke Babita ko samjhati hai and Babita never takes it to heart. I loved how in yesterday's epi Babita was telling HS that she wanted to make NB happy unke beta/bahu ke khatirdari karke. I loved how Babita was thinking about NB's happiness.

HS of course shares a closer bond with NB... she's his mother after all. But I absolutely love NB-Babita's relationship too. I want NB to give Babita all the love that the she deserves from a MIL ❤️ .

The only time I can think of is when Naeem Bi scolded her for not sharing the same room with HS and Babes was about to walk away from her. But other than that, I can't remember much else. 🤔

That being said, I think it's only with Naeem Bi that she had been this open with her emotions. If she doesn't like what she says or can't understand it fully, Naeem Bi knows. Then there's the matter of Babita sharing her confusions, or seeking advice like a daughter does with a mother. I doubt she did any of this dil khol ke with Beeji.

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

Forget the romance.

Why should HS have them in his day to day life. Kya lagte hai uske? Humanity ke naam pe he should bring all of abandoned Patiala’s oldies then.

If Babita is feeling so sorry for them, then she could have said that she'll continue to take their responsibility, especially while Minnie's exams are going on. But ghar par lekar aane ki kya zaroorat hai? 🤔

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

The only time I can think of is when Naeem scolded her for not sharing the same room with HS and Babes was about to walk away from her. But other than that, I can't remember much else. 🤔

That being said, I think it's only with Naeem Bi that she had been this open with her emotions. If she doesn't like what she says or can't understand it fully, Naeem Bi knows. Then there's the matter of Babita sharing her confusions, or seeking advice like a daughter does with a mother. I doubt she did any of this dil khol ke with Beeji.

NB gets through Babita more than even Mini does. Since day 1.

I also don’t remember Babita ever disrespecting NB. She would never do that. She listens to everything that NB says.

When Ruksar told her aapse bahot kuch sikhna hai. She pointed towards NB and said mein Khud sikh rahi hoon apne bado se and then looked at Mini - aur apne chhoto se bhi.

NB sure has her utmost respect as a wise elder lady. The only elder that she learns from.

I love their interactions. All of them. The ones on NB’s terrace have been my favorite.

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

This is ideal scenario. Fir Khuranas kaha jate?

Aur Babita ko stupid kese prove karte.

Galat hai yo. You talk logic. And you make lot of sense. Yo na ho sakta.

LMAO, logic se koi allergy hai kya? 🤣

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

If Babita is feeling so sorry for them, then she could have said that she'll continue to take their responsibility, especially while Minnie's exams are going on. But ghar par lekar aane ki kya zaroorat hai? 🤔

HS has already put bringing them in Haveli as a solution in her head yesterday. He dismissed her other suggestions. That’s going to be on her mind the most.

And knowing Babita, apne se decision lene ka confidence usmein kaha se hai. Aaya bhi tha to Mini ke outburst ke baad, it’s shaken. Self doubt again.

Situations affect your decisions and past 2 days will have impression on her mind. She won’t disregard HS and Mini while taking the decision.