1st Oct Discussion - Ajao Saray - Page 32

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I don't want her to choose between HS or her grandparents. The equation isn't fair in a lot of ways. I would prefer if it was between HS and Ashok, but given everything that happened, is there really a choice to be made?

a choice will not be fair, and there is actually no choice to be made. mini has made a choice in her heart which only needs to be voiced with conviction to put all fears and insecurities to rest, but mini needs a realisation.

she needs to understand and realise that her grandparents are not what she thinks of them. babita has indeed been the bigger person always taking care of them, even after the divorce and now after her marriage.

mini needs to see things without a lens and realise that she had to beg the khuranas to come to the sangeet, her dadu broke all relations when she removed her surname, that the khuranas only maintained a cordial relation with babita becuse of mini. they are not as good or helpless as mini thinks of them.

mini needs to understand that babita & HS are not responsible for khuranas and that ashok/ lovely should care for them. she needs to understand that she has to maintain her own relation with her grandparents without expecting babita to maintain any relation with khuranas. khuranas are mini's blood relations, not babitas.

babita's not wanting mini to meet khuranas is not right, but taking them in her home is not right either. even if NB's homes is sold, they can move to another rented house in the same area if they want to stay close to mini, but to move into the haveli is inappropriate.

though we donot get such scenes, but with ex-in laws moving in it would certainly hamper Hanita's married life. babita will become responsible for the oldies and them being around at all times would make make it awkward for Hanita. Imagine the selfie scene with khuranas sitting on the sofa, or looking down from the first floor. 🤔

Originally posted by: shruti_luvs_msk

Yeah a bit. today i felt he should have stopped mini from leaving. personally, my dad would never let me just rush out with in a car/ scooty when i am angry fearing that i would hurt myself or someone else or get in an accident.

i just felt he should have taken mini inside and in the house she could vent out in her room or anywhere in the house.

and instead of telling babita that mini does not know how to talk to her babes, he should talk to mini about this and make her understand that even in anger some limits need to be maintained when talking to parents. i know in reality we all tend to say things we dont mean when angry but that does not mean that as a father HS cannot talk to her on this.

Today I really felt like he was holding back. The previous HS would not have let her go like that or would have made her tell him what was wrong. Perhaps the fact that she refused to match his countdown or listen to him for the first time ever also reminded him that she didn't think of him as her father or that he may not have that right. Something's going on in his mind for sure.

And I agree, he needs to train her to not just keep her cool but also not to cross our limits, especially when talking to parents. I too think he shouldn't have let her drive off, not until she cooled down. He is well aware of how out of control she can get in anger.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Yeah and part of that is also about Babita learning not to be so bothered by Minnie's tantrums all the time. Things can't always go her way.

I would love to see that.

Only if writers do that.

Originally posted by: divyadaya13

my hubby being a good man also helped me balance negativity too. It has been 6 yrs he passed away but he is with me each and every moment.

Your dad values relationship thats why he never differentiated with his kids and treats everyone equally and takes a stand when required.

Mini and babes are lucky to find a man like hs.

Oh it's lovely to hear that he was a good man and how he helped you, and I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

I would love to see that.

Only if writers do that.

They will, you will see. And the day this happens, Minnie will start respecting her as a mother and understand her limits and boundaries as the child in the relationship. Babita gave her a good dose of this once upon a time when she didn't wake her up or make her breakfast. Her reaction? Throw a tantrum and go to university hungry. These are the things that need to be curbed and we need HS for that.

I have a small doubt that, Babita kab patni dharm nibhayi?

When mini told Babita to patni dharm nibhane ke chakkar me Sab kuch Bhool Rahi hai,

Really I am like 🤔 ye kab hogaya aur kaise.

Sorry to say, newly married couple ki koi Lakshan hi nahi hai Babita me

How mini ignored Hs I didn’t like it yaar

Originally posted by: Indulatha

I have a small doubt that, Babita kab patni dharm nibhayi?

When mini told Babita to patni dharm nibhane ke chakkar me Sab kuch Bhool Rahi hai,

Really I am like 🤔 ye kab hogaya aur kaise.

Sorry to say, newly married couple ki koi Lakshan hi nahi hai Babita me

How mini ignored Hs I didn’t like it yaar

HS ki zindagi ab pendulum ki tarah ban gayi hai. Kabhi maa ignore karti hai to kabhi beti. Ab kya kar sakte hain? 😆

Originally posted by: inlieu

Yes, and Babita also needs to stand up for herself where Minnie is concerned, because Minnie will not always be right and she doesn't always have to agree with or follow what Minnie says. She has to learn to make her own decisions, and I hope that day comes soon.

I agree. I think she has basically started believing that Minnie knows more so she must be right. She has always doubted herself but Minnie makes it worse by accusing her of not caring about Khuranas who never treated her that great. It’s a little sad when humanity comes face to face with logic. Humanity says help ppl weaker than you. Logic says you will just end up becoming a part of the problem. Give a man a fish you feed him for a day, teach the man how to fish he won’t go hungry again. How is moving the oldies from one house to another any solution. It’s not like they are an Ex-DIL’s responsibility.

Babita should just make Biji a % partner in patiala babes catering. Anyway she loves making ladoos. She can teach and supervise the other ladies. On top taking them for doctor visits shouldn’t be a problem between Minnie, her and HS.

I am kind of sad after watching today’s episode. Don’t know what to say, just shocked from few dialogues... 😭

Damnn reading ya'all's parent's or own experience with the in-laws just made me so sad 😭.

My family was different. I have never lived in a joint family, also never lived with grandparents for a longer period of time. We would only visit them during festivals and vacations. My parents were living on their own separately before us kids were born, but I do remember stories of what other relatives have told me that when my mom first came to my dad's house after they got married, my grandmother didn't treat my mom very nicely. She only lived with the in-laws for 1 year or so, but it was pretty bad. My dad took a stand and decided to leave the house and live separately. However, my mom never badmouthed my grandma in front of us. We found out about this lot later too because over time everything was "fine", and my grandma started behaving normally with my mom.

However, when I think about how my grandma must have treated my mother, even though I didn't see it with my own eyes, it makes my blood boil. There were certain things going on in our family and these things were brought up later on, me and my siblings fought and told off our grandma for treating our mom badly. She didn't have anything to say to us 😳. This is why I don't understand Mini not even faulting her grandparents for how they treated her mom 🤔.