1st Oct Discussion - Ajao Saray - Page 30

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Given her anger, I don't really know what to expect from her. But what HS said was true. She can't get what she wants via violence or being angry all the time. She needs to learn how to approach things calmly. I get that all her buttons were being pressed and she lost it, but she can't get violent. It'll only do her more harm in the end. As we saw, her violent approach did nothing to Khatri. He laughed it off as if it was nothing because those few punches were painless given the pleasure he got from riling her up.

Naeem Bi is HS' mother but Babita has her own equation with her. She has her own rishta that's stands independent of HS and I think that's the most important thing for her. It's not a zabardasti ka rishta that was thrown upon her when she married HS. Whatever it is, however it is, it's all on her.

Yes and I am hoping through her dealings with NB, Babita will also learn to let go of her grudges against the Khuranas. Neither NB nor HS will put any pressure on her in terms of how to maintain relations with NB. I love that HS keeps that independent and gives her her space.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Yes, and Babita too has to learn this. You cannot fly off the handle all the time. The thing is, she had shown a lot of creativity when it came to handling difficult workers at the factory. There was no one there to guide her or hold her hand. She had to fight it out and use tactics as and when required. The reason it was "easier" was because it was a new world for her so essentially a blank slate.

On the personal front, she cannot think that clearly because her judgement is clouded by the memories of her past. Once she can learn to stop letting them bother her and really look around, she will be able to really do right by herself and those around her too.

Babita has to un-learn a lot of things she learnt in her childhood. The years that go into shaping a child's mentality were when she was about to be married or married.

It'll be a very very difficult path, but Babita has that underlying aag, the passion, the strength and the intelligence to make it work and let go of her social conditioning.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Yes, give her ALL THE LOVE!! She deserves it and needs to be showered with it even more now. I don't expect Minnie to go and cuddle her or kiss her to tell her she loves her. Only HS can do it, and yes his words would be a much-needed balm for her heartache. Just like Minnie need to hear what she meant to him, NB knows but can do with that dose right now.

Yes, we spent most of yesterday complaining about tracks and today they managed to make us feel so strongly about this. I am still surprised by my own reaction. I knew this topic and scene would come back, yet when I watched the episode something inside me just exploded.

For me, it was as if something inside me was getting twisted into knots. Things just got very complicated and twisted, very fast and that threw me off a lot. Thankfully, it's gotten a bit calm now but I won't be surprised if I have another outburst.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Loll, bahar jaa kar apni Naeem Bi ke ghar hi jayegi. 😆 But dunno if he'll send her out given the recent issue with her place at the Haveli. 🤔

No, he can't get emotional about that. That's part of his learning curve as a father, when to be affectionate and when to be strict. If not, he wouldn't have tried to stop her, but I think the fact that he let her go today may have something to do with him not wanting to upset the apple cart after the reconciliation as well as some of his unresolved issues around haq and responsibilities as her father.

They both have to be secure enough in that he can send her out temporarily as a punishment and still not have to worry about her insecurities around being without a home. They need to get to that point.

Originally posted by: tk2015

I hate that you had to go through something so bad. But I truly applaud you and can I just say people like you and some others on this forum are an inspiration to stand up to injustice of whatever form.

Thank you dear. I hope you never have to go through anything bad but just know that whatever situation life throws at you, the final say belongs only to you.

Originally posted by: divyadaya13

i think if we had knwn each other personally. We would have been great friends. I have always been a fan of strong woman. Hats off to you for being so courageous and being an example to other women👏

Well, I am glad to meet other strong women like you on this forum, thanks to PB. 🤗

I am not really trying to be an example, but if it's in my hands then I don't want to ever have to see another woman feel like I did when I had no one to support me. The least I can do is offer them that because I truly know their mental state at that point in time.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

The same thing is happening with my Chachaji. He's being heavily pressurized to get married but he has absolutely no interest in it atm. Yes, he has a good job, but his hours aren't stable and he doesn't have a place of his own. He can't afford to think of marriage and all the complications that come along with it. People just don't realize that things aren't the same anymore. We can't get married at 17 or 18 and expect things to just fall into place. Nowadays, it's the opposite. We want to be stable and secure for ourselves first, only then can we think about someone else. If we can't be a strong pillar for ourself, then how can we be one for our partner?

I know you must already be doing this, but please vocally stand by him. Let him know you're there for him. That verbalising of support goes a long way.

Also, I completely agree. If I can't handle myself, mentally, emotionally or financially, how can I be expected to deal with another completely separate and different human being + their family? Let me learn who I am first.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Just like the way Imarti taught HS. Even he had said that sometimes she had to adopt naram or garam approaches to deal with people accordingly.

Exactly! Aise hi nahin Imarti legend hai!

Imarti Imarti thi.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Loll, just watch any random episode on YT and skip to the end. You'll know what I'm talking about. 😆

Just the title itself doesn't sound too appealing. LOL!

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I don't want her to choose between HS or her grandparents. The equation isn't fair in a lot of ways. I would prefer if it was between HS and Ashok, but given everything that happened, is there really a choice to be made?

You never know. I have a feeling, based on Khatri's words, that she will have to choose between HS and her grandparents, and by extension, Ashok too.