Do women secretly love Kabir Singh and Christian Grey - Page 5

Originally posted by: Thug-Leader

I think it has all to do with how much people are obsessed with another one and what society thinks of.

Men or women alike, tend to ignore the bad habits of someone they love/desire. It is the social pressure which makes some men act tough while make women act suppressed.

I can garuntee if society wasn't putting pressure on men, most of them would have forgiven their women for cheating like Rustom did, while most of the women who forgive their men would have left them still their would be a sizable number of women, who despite being powerful enough socially, still keep would have kept their husband while harassing the other women in their life because of the obsession with the said men.

Having lived in Meghalaya, one thing I am certain, men or women, given social power, cheat on their partners and suppress the socially weaker gender.

Here in our state, the three main tribes: Khasi, Jaintia and Garo, women have more authority, so most of the men are reduced to baby giving tool, children don't respect their father, women go around with other men and have multiple marriages and divorces. Not everyone, their are families with values and happy couples like in patriarch societies, but most of them in the town side it is true.

Witnessed only one case where a wife cheated her husband and she ran away with another man leaving her husband and children behind. Rest all cases are the men who have been bad so I don't think Kabir Singh is even 1% of what these men are. Women cheating is nothing new but never seen the husband who keeps tolerating it while when this happens, so many people sympathize with the man and tell him to get remarried while rarely the woman is asked to do so. Infact she is blamed. My own aunt was left by her husband a she couldn't have a kid. After 20 years of marriage, he left a note saying I don't love you anymore and married another woman and again he did not have any kid. She tells me that she has forgiven him long back but never anyone told her to marry again.

May be “YES” untill you have a personal experince with that type of guy in real.

It need not be a slap or sex or kiss.

Once you get treated like the girl, than I am sure the answer to the TM question is “NO”

Originally posted by: ThunderLight

Maybe u are right. If Kabir and Christian were played by Shady looking actors who usually play Villains, the response could have been very different.

Also, it’s not the person who is enjoying watching / reading is the one going through it.

It’s as simple as watching MR bean going through all sorts of disasters which we enjoy but if they happen to us, we will cry a lot.

Originally posted by: roni_berna

I have witnessed this happen atleats 5 times since I was a kid. Two married woman had husbands who used to cheat on them while the wife was in the house and when the women told them, they blamed the women but did not even bother to confront their husband. Few years back, a man was openly cheating on his wife and she started starving her kids and praying her husband comes back. He did but still keeps cheating on her and they live like a happily married couple. Another couple/s have abusive husbands wherein one man beats his wife after 30 years of marriage while the other husband bangs his wife's head on the cylinder. They both love their husband and act as if nothing has happened.

Originally posted by: Deadinside

I hope, you havent seen it all on crime petrol or other shows because they make it a little exaggerative for views trp. Otherwise, I completely agree with everything.

No no. Crime patrol used to give me nightmares so I stopped watching it.

Originally posted by: LifeOLicious

You are right it is a combination of genes, environment (social conditioning), tradition etc. historians for sure don’t know why patriarchy thrived. There are theories but nothing concrete.

I think that women are not confusing. They are just like men- they have preferences, desires, wants & needs. Since forever women’s needs & desires were whatever their men needed. It worked for survival. But now women do not need to rely on men for survival so they are voicing their needs & desires. There is no formula for wooing a girl anymore. You just have to know the girl you are wooing & figure out her needs & desires & adjust. Women have been doing this forever. The difference is alpha & violent men ruled the world while alpha & violent women were forced into submission. Maybe they can now find each other & be violent with each other & one can be sub sometimes & another can dominate. That’s cool. But no forcing. It all goes down to consent. Women are still evolving. So are men. We are all trying to get past our ancient survival instincts which we do not need as much anymore in the civilized world.

Just my personal thoughts here.

Originally posted by: Kara_R

Ladies, let's be honest. The line is as thin as the guys's looks... Hot rich guy or ugly troll. Flattered acceptance or repulsed rejection is based on this...

This !! Along with the fact that many women love Alpha bad boys.

Originally posted by: Kara_R

Ladies, let's be honest. The line is as thin as the guys's looks... Hot rich guy or ugly troll. Flattered acceptance or repulsed rejection is based on this...

Correct. I've seen so many girls call men creeps just for asking them out or admitting they are attracted to them. They are disgusted if an ugly guy thinks he has a chance with them. If it's a hot guy, then it's flattering.

The same behavior gets a different response based on how good looking, rich or powerful the man is.

Originally posted by: regnow

Correct. I've seen so many girls call men creeps just for asking them out or admitting they are attracted to them. They are disgusted if an ugly guy thinks he has a chance with them. If it's a hot guy, then it's flattering.

The same behavior gets a different response based on how good looking, rich or powerful the man is.

So true! I'm sick of society telling us that looks don't matter... The ugly truth is that the scale is tipped, at least in the beginning of the association. People's psychology is such that good looking people garner more good will and trust than someone who got hit by an ugly stick!

Originally posted by: reddy123456

This !! Along with the fact that many women love Alpha bad boys.

Bad boys with a heart of gold... Which ONLY happens when the bad boy actually develop true feelings... But seriously, how often does that happen in real life???!!!

I personally love quiet, nerdy types. Someone who is 110% smarter than me, and can rationalize my every neurosis 😛