WHY IS IT CRINGE-WORTHY WATCHING PARI INTERACTING WITH.......??????

.........Who else? Ruhaan. Good afternoon girls !!!! I hope you have cooled down somewhat after yesterday's infamy. Work for 14 hrs had cooled me down somewhat, but the bitter taste remains.

I had this question for a long time. I was unable to put my finger on this till now. She is shown as a innocent bechari, crying, day-dreaming, girl, I never seemed to be able to warm up to her, but why do I cringe whenever I see her interacting with Ruhaan? The discomfort is as much to me, as if I am watching a vile guy with ulterior motives interacting with my favorite family member, friend or acquaintance. I kid you not😕I know I rubbed a few of you wrong by my veiled hostility towards her because of this reason😡. Let me try and explain.

First off, the question is do I have similar situations in this show that I can compare to? Yes, almost. We saw Arnav being in a friendship with her, but unconditional romantic love and Ruhaan's unwavering and deep love for Mishti. I did not cringe in either situations. So, then what is different in those situations?

# 1. Arnav-Pari: They are long time friends, know each other in and out. Arnav didn't hide under the facade of friendship and continue to have his romantic interest about Pari. He put out his feelings to her, directly, honestly and when the rejection came, he took it with utmost grace, turned off his romantic feelings, he didn't blabber to anybody about his romantic interest in Pari nor did he assume mutual feelings . Even Radhika who had known them together didn't suspect there was any romance from his side unlike the current situation. He didn't put her on the spot publicly or make her the bad guy who rejected him. He didn't create any misunderstandings, in other words, he respected and honored his friendship and he didn't let it roll in dirt and become something else. He didn't continue to foster his romantic thoughts about her without her permission ( he could have easily done this and nobody would have known even ). He let the relationship remain HONEST, friendship alone and NOT romantic when he didn't get her permission. Once the truth is out in the open, it is entirely up to both parties how they carry it forward, withdraw from the friendship or continue to be friends and well wishers. He chose the 2nd and she readily complied. This is why, Arnav's interaction with Pari doesn't make it cringe-worthy, there are no ULTERIOR MOTIVES and it is a PURE and straight-forward relationship.

# 2. Ruhaan, Mishti: Here we have a totally different scenario. Ruhaan loved Mishti with all his heart, but he didn't interfere with her life until he got a DEFINITE OK-A from her side. He could have tried to manipulate her physically or emotionally, but he never did. He could have blatantly supported Mishti during her fight with the Veer guy, could have played on that rift when she is vulnerable, but he remained neutral and decent, living in the shadows. He only cherished his feelings for her and remained in the background. He kept his feelings for her very close to heart, nobody knew a peep and still don't about his love for her, including Mishti till the jungle threat. Of course, that was a totally different matter which we won't go into. I know that people feel differently than me about Ruhaan, but if we don't go into the right or wrong of the situation, and only focus on " was he honest TO his relationship with Mishti" ? I think so. He stayed away from her, didn't even entertain her as a friend, because he is not JUST a friend to her BUT loves her. He stayed as a co-habitor in the house, but didn't even take one step to become something else without her permission. He didn't hide behind anything to continue to be something else, because he had really NO relationship with her, not a friend, not even a confidante before Mishti reciprocated her feelings to him. I know I am walking a fine line here, but let us see if this makes sense to any of you. Again a straight forward relationship- No relationship OR all loving relationship.

#3. Pari with BIL: This is cringe-worthy . There is no honesty in this relationship from Pari's side. It is NOT friendship from her side, but she is HIDING behind it. Not only is she hiding, she is fostering romantic feelings for her BIL/FRIEND WITHOUT his permission, totally discounting the fact that he may have an interest in somebody else. She is putting him on the spot and in fact, disturbing his life unnecessarily by spreading these tales to people around him and acting in a way that makes it obvious to other people of her interest in him. If he doesn't reciprocate, he could be the " mean, bad guy who lead her on and/or reciprocate to the innocent, bechari" which is AWFUL😡When the relationship termed as " friendship" which she invokes often has turned into something else, shouldn't she then let him know? Why is she dreading to let him know? Because she is afraid that it could be a resounding NO. Then she cannot engage with him. Doesn't he deserve a chance whether he wants to maintain any relationship with her, just like she did with Arnav, once she confesses her feelings ? She is choosing to live in the lala land instead. Is this bad? Probably not, if manages her emotions. But, she is outwardly portraying all of this to people around her, so they can see this blatantly. Then, why didn't Ruhaan catch on to this background noise? The only reason I can think of is that, currently he has the blinders on deeply in reciprocated love with Mishti, and too many hurdles to cross. She is not respectful of the relationship they have agreed upon and is taking MORE than he is willing to give. Not sure if I am making sense. A DISHONORABLE relationship, from the sissy's side assuming that she is something else😡👎🏼, while he thinks he is being a friend🤢

Now to my famous disclaimer: I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist, I am just trying to analyze why the whole sissy thing disgusts and repulses me, other than the obvious " I don't like her and that sisters shouldn't engage with BILs, Ruhaan only loves Mishti". This is no means factual, or backed by anything. This has been on the back of my mind for a few weeks now, I was restless as to why I can't put a finger on my thoughts. I have still some aspect of this I am not clear on. Anyway girls, let me know your thoughts. Fire away, I may or may not have answers or explanations, as I still have some hazy areas to think about ! 😃Any other explanations are welcome. Who knows what might give me some more clarity ! I know this will be festering on my mind till my brain gets to the bottom of it😲

Pari has misinterpreted everything Ruhaan has done so far.. Ruhaan cares about her, he’s guided her, helped her with work, given her advice, when she hurt her ankle he applied balm to it...but that’s what friends do and I actually see a brotherly kind of affection from his side..it’s wrong of pari to assume he is in love with her..because she’s not even thinking that he may be interested in someone else. He hasn’t shown her any romantic gestures at all. And she shouldn’t burden him with her romantic feelings when he has none for her..but then looking at it from her point of view and radhikas point of view ,.they knew that mishty hated him ...and only recently started being friendly toward him,.so they are not thinking of mishaan being on a romantic level at all....because they had witnessed mishaans fights..It's highly irritating for us viewers to watch pari basically come between mishaan and burden them with her unwanted unneeded and distasteful romantic feelings for ruhaan...because we know he’s her future brother in law. But I suppose from her point of view , she’s fallen in love with him, she knows he’s single and she hasn’t seen any other woman he’s involved with so she wants to try and get her man. and it’s quite ridiculous..because mishty and pari are supposed to be very close ..they are blood sisters so mishty should have told pari about her and ruhaan .because in real lIfe...if you are close to your sister , you share a bedroom with her ,.you will tell her everything that happens in your life..and the problem is that these writers are forcing this pari mishty ruhaan triangle onto us ..that we do not want ,.because it’s coming across as distasteful and disgusting ...I hope they stop it. I really don’t want ruhaan to come to know about Paris feelings ..he doesn’t deserve to be burdened by it. I hope veer bursts Paris bubble soon and she comes back down to earth..

I agree with your points Mili.

I was wondering the same today. Why did I not mind Ruhaan's one sided love. Why does Pari's one sided love makes me uncomfortable?

If I think about Ruhaan, I feel he never ever drooled, stared at her blatantly. He never tried to befriend her. Never tried to make her uncomfortable. He didn't let Mishti wonder for even a moment, that he might be interested in her. He never initiated a conversation unless it was important. He never even called her by her given name. Whatever dreaming he did, it was in his room. He mostly remained silent in her presence. I remember, his joy when she thanks him for the first time. His head was bowed down, she had come to his room with pari to thank him for taking care of Ansh. As soon as she thanks, the way he lifts his head & that expression on his face, I can't even describe it.

About Pari, I don't mind a scene like Ruhaan asking her about the situation at the party. It was a simple one.

She started making me uncomfortable with the drooling, swaying, swooning blatantly. Arey! Aisa kya hai apne that you think, the guy without even trying to be around you is in love with you. She is overconfident. She is simply putting Ruhaan in a difficult situation. He doesn't even notice her half of the time. Didn't even wait, when she asked him to. Didn't acknowledge her, when he comes home with Mishti after breakup. Doesn't talk to pari unless she initiates the convo. Kuch toh signal samjho? Kab tak will you turn a blind eye. When will you come out of rosy, dreamland?

She blabbers about Ruhaan infront of everyone. Ruhaan, Mishti love eachother, but they never accidentally blabber. How does she? Please, confirm from the guy, too.

She said to Arnav, she can't help it that she doesn't love him. Please pass on the same courtesy to Ruhaan. Atleast, ask the guy before spreading nonsense about him. Like you said, why is she dreading to confess her feelings? She is so overconfident about Ruhaan reciprocating her love, then why the dread? She is blatantly disregarding & being inconsiderate that, the guy might be in a relationship with someone else. (May be, I am being mean)

When you are confident that someone loves you, there's no need of hesitation. See the Ruhaan, Mishti situation. They didn't even tell eachother that they like( ILY bolna toh door ki baat hai) They just know that they love eachother & there is not an ounce of need to verbalise their love. Verbalisation is overrated ( Atleast, in this case)

Arnav ke bare me kya bolun. What a character graph. Being boyish & careless to such a mature & understanding person. Not a mean bone. He has taken it in a very dignified way.

I don't know whether I am making any sense or not. Please correct me if I am wrong.

Originally posted by: mili9

Hi MILi❤️

.........Who else? Ruhaan. Good afternoon girls !!!! I hope you have cooled down somewhat after yesterday's infamy. Work for 14 hrs had cooled me down somewhat, but the bitter taste remains.

I had this question for a long time. I was unable to put my finger on this till now. She is shown as a innocent bechari, crying, day-dreaming, girl, I never seemed to be able to warm up to her, but why do I cringe whenever I see her interacting with Ruhaan? The discomfort is as much to me, as if I am watching a vile guy with ulterior motives interacting with my favorite family member, friend or acquaintance. I kid you not😕I know I rubbed a few of you wrong by my veiled hostility towards her because of this reason😡. Let me try and explain.

Same can't feel for Her 😮

First off, the question is do I have similar situations in this show that I can compare to? Yes, almost. We saw Arnav being in a friendship with her, but unconditional romantic love and Ruhaan's unwavering and deep love for Mishti. I did not cringe in either situations. So, then what is different in those situations?

# 1. Arnav-Pari: They are long time friends, know each other in and out. Arnav didn't hide under the facade of friendship and continue to have his romantic interest about Pari. He put out his feelings to her, directly, honestly and when the rejection came, he took it with utmost grace, turned off his romantic feelings, he didn't blabber to anybody about his romantic interest in Pari nor did he assume mutual feelings . Even Radhika who had known them together didn't suspect there was any romance from his side unlike the current situation. He didn't put her on the spot publicly or make her the bad guy who rejected him. He didn't create any misunderstandings, in other words, he respected and honored his friendship and he didn't let it roll in dirt and become something else. He didn't continue to foster his romantic thoughts about her without her permission ( he could have easily done this and nobody would have known even ). He let the relationship remain HONEST, friendship alone and NOT romantic when he didn't get her permission. Once the truth is out in the open, it is entirely up to both parties how they carry it forward, withdraw from the friendship or continue to be friends and well wishers. He chose the 2nd and she readily complied. This is why, Arnav's interaction with Pari doesn't make it cringe-worthy, there are no ULTERIOR MOTIVES and it is a PURE and straight-forward relationship.

Arnav Turned out Such Beautiful Character 👍🏼

# 2. Ruhaan, Mishti: Here we have a totally different scenario. Ruhaan loved Mishti with all his heart, but he didn't interfere with her life until he got a DEFINITE OK-A from her side. He could have tried to manipulate her physically or emotionally, but he never did. He could have blatantly supported Mishti during her fight with the Veer guy, could have played on that rift when she is vulnerable, but he remained neutral and decent, living in the shadows. He only cherished his feelings for her and remained in the background. He kept his feelings for her very close to heart, nobody knew a peep and still don't about his love for her, including Mishti till the jungle threat. Of course, that was a totally different matter which we won't go into. I know that people feel differently than me about Ruhaan, but if we don't go into the right or wrong of the situation, and only focus on " was he honest TO his relationship with Mishti" ? I think so. He stayed away from her, didn't even entertain her as a friend, because he is not JUST a friend to her BUT loves her. He stayed as a co-habitor in the house, but didn't even take one step to become something else without her permission. He didn't hide behind anything to continue to be something else, because he had really NO relationship with her, not a friend, not even a confidante before Mishti reciprocated her feelings to him. I know I am walking a fine line here, but let us see if this makes sense to any of you. Again a straight forward relationship- No relationship OR all loving relationship.

#3. Pari with BIL: This is cringe-worthy . There is no honesty in this relationship from Pari's side. It is NOT friendship from her side, but she is HIDING behind it. Not only is she hiding, she is fostering romantic feelings for her BIL/FRIEND WITHOUT his permission, totally discounting the fact that he may have an interest in somebody else. She is putting him on the spot and in fact, disturbing his life unnecessarily by spreading these tales to people around him and acting in a way that makes it obvious to other people of her interest in him. If he doesn't reciprocate, he could be the " mean, bad guy who lead her on and/or reciprocate to the innocent, bechari" which is AWFUL😡When the relationship termed as " friendship" which she invokes often has turned into something else, shouldn't she then let him know? Why is she dreading to let him know? Because she is afraid that it could be a resounding NO. Then she cannot engage with him. Doesn't he deserve a chance whether he wants to maintain any relationship with her, just like she did with Arnav, once she confesses her feelings ? She is choosing to live in the lala land instead. Is this bad? Probably not, if manages her emotions. But, she is outwardly portraying all of this to people around her, so they can see this blatantly. Then, why didn't Ruhaan catch on to this background noise? The only reason I can think of is that, currently he has the blinders on deeply in reciprocated love with Mishti, and too many hurdles to cross. She is not respectful of the relationship they have agreed upon and is taking MORE than he is willing to give. Not sure if I am making sense. A DISHONORABLE relationship, from the sissy's side assuming that she is something else😡👎🏼, while he thinks he is being a friend🤢

Now to my famous disclaimer: I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist, I am just trying to analyze why the whole sissy thing disgusts and repulses me, other than the obvious " I don't like her and that sisters shouldn't engage with BILs, Ruhaan only loves Mishti". This is no means factual, or backed by anything. This has been on the back of my mind for a few weeks now, I was restless as to why I can't put a finger on my thoughts. I have still some aspect of this I am not clear on. Anyway girls, let me know your thoughts. Fire away, I may or may not have answers or explanations, as I still have some hazy areas to think about ! 😃Any other explanations are welcome. Who knows what might give me some more clarity ! I know this will be festering on my mind till my brain gets to the bottom of it😲

Main thing (I feel) -Aftraid of Rejection + Entire Surround People Support Her by Her Alone presentation 🤪(Hope on By With All (Family) Ruhaan too later OK that It's His Fortune too Be the Member in Family reg His Orphan status) 🤔🤪 You know I Don't liked at 1st That BG given to Ruhaan 😎 Cvs giving all filmy Things based on 😵

For this angle Made Ruhaan too oblivious towards wats going on - Just One clear observation + Confrontation Btn Them Sort out delusion no matter how much he was occupied in his own Can sense Her odd+Extra behavior towards him 😲🤪 ..

Not Seen Father Feel From Ishaan 😲who Beside Her 😮Discounting him From Perfect Family

Not given account to -Arnav Feelings -who Heartbroken -asking him Convey Her feelings for Friendship sake

Not Acknowledging Brotherly Love +Friendship from Ruhaan -Proceeding wit Her own 🤪

She too fortunate For Having This Men In Life in Their Own Relations/ Affections 👍🏼but Missing to Feel/Sense in Her Own Delusional 🤪🤢

Originally posted by: Indira1211

Pari has misinterpreted everything Ruhaan has done so far.. Ruhaan cares about her, he’s guided her, helped her with work, given her advice, when she hurt her ankle he applied balm to it...but that’s what friends do and I actually see a brotherly kind of affection from his side..it’s wrong of pari to assume he is in love with her..because she’s not even thinking that he may be interested in someone else. He hasn’t shown her any romantic gestures at all. And she shouldn’t burden him with her romantic feelings when he has none for her..but then looking at it from her point of view and radhikas point of view ,.they knew that mishty hated him ...and only recently started being friendly toward him,.so they are not thinking of mishaan being on a romantic level at all....because they had witnessed mishaans fights..It's highly irritating for us viewers to watch pari basically come between mishaan and burden them with her unwanted unneeded and distasteful romantic feelings for ruhaan...because we know he’s her future brother in law. But I suppose from her point of view , she’s fallen in love with him, she knows he’s single and she hasn’t seen any other woman he’s involved with so she wants to try and get her man. and it’s quite ridiculous..because mishty and pari are supposed to be very close ..they are blood sisters so mishty should have told pari about her and ruhaan .because in real lIfe...if you are close to your sister , you share a bedroom with her ,.you will tell her everything that happens in your life..and the problem is that these writers are forcing this pari mishty ruhaan triangle onto us ..that we do not want ,.because it’s coming across as distasteful and disgusting ...I hope they stop it. I really don’t want ruhaan to come to know about Paris feelings ..he doesn’t deserve to be burdened by it. I hope veer bursts Paris bubble soon and she comes back down to earth..

Ruhaan said he loves someone..How can Pari think that he is single and so sure that someone is her🤔

I have to agree with all the points you've made here. But I've been one of the people who thought the hatred and annoyance people have developed for Pari was unfair, but this post of yours does make sense... And explains why Pari's feelings is affecting people more than it should have!

Yes, Arnav and Ruhaan have been one sided lovers, and Arnav is still being one but accepted it with grace. But what was respectable about them was the factor that they either kept it an open knowledge for everyone to know or just hid it as a secret in their hearts and tried to maintain distance, most importantly without starting rumours that their love is mutual without the involved person's consent.

Pari is like neither she wants to confess and confirm it sooner with Ruhaan, nor keeps it a secret to herself. Especially revealing this to Arnav and saying it's obvious that Ruhaan also feels for her and continue to live with that half baked assumption, is really annoying...

Ruhaan is the involved person here, doesn't he have a say in this? He is totally oblivious of all this, and he's just being a casual friend. Even if he hugs her or something, which can be considered as a gesture of love, he's always made it look like it's clear friendship from his side. There was no extra signal, at all... Anyone with open eyes would have caught that. But Pari is just too ignorant, and likes to live in her la la land...

Let the guy know, and give him an opportunity to express what he wants, why the assumption without his consent. Isn't it like a snatch of his rights to refuse/reject her love ? It's definitely annoying big time....

Pari has just misunderstood what all ruhaan did for her to be out of love for her. She is tooooooooo optimistic that since she fell in love with him and he cares for her, supports her, guides her, she thinks he loves her😡. From Ruhaan's side it is just pure friendship not anything else. He cares a little more now since he has the addl responsibility of being called a BIL very soon.

Since she ASSUMES he loves her, whoever he speaks about, she is putting herself in that whoever. For eg, when ruhaan said the person you are in love with is lucky, she thought he was talking about himself. When he applied balm out of a clear friendship gesture, she thought it was out of love and started drooling. When he said he is in love with a girl but she hasn't confessed it yet, she thought he is talking about her. She basically forgot that there are millions of other girls in the world other than her when it comes to to ruhaan. To add to the irony, radhika joined gang Pari and it is even more frustrating how she also is ASSUMING things just like Pari is.

For us as viewers, it is definitely cringe worthy for we know for sure that Mishaan are together. But she as a character isn't aware of this development. Whatever ruhaan does she mistakes it for his love for her whereas he has never had any romantic feelings for her.

I agree, drooling is too horrible to bear, but it would be interesting to see how she would deal with her discomfort when she gets to know of Mishaan and when they are together having their bit of choti moti romance in front of the family once it is official. It definitely isn't going to be easy. I hope they don't show the family melting down for the bechari and mishti feeling guilty for her sister is sad.

Originally posted by: sweetzzz

Pari has just misunderstood what all ruhaan did for her to put of love for her. She is tooooooooo optimistic that since she fell in love with him and he cares for her, supports her, guides her, she thinks he loves her😡. From Ruhaan's side it is just pure friendship not anything else. He cares a little more now since he has the addl responsibility of being called a BIL very soon.

For us as viewers, it is definitely cringe worthy for we know for sure that Mishaan are together. But she as a character isn't aware of this development. Whatever ruhaan does she mistakes it for his love for her whereas he has never had any romantic feelings for her.

I agree, drooling is too horrible to bear, but it would be interesting to see how she would deal with her discomfort when she gets to know of Mishaan and when they are together having their bit of choti moti romance in front of the family once it is official. It definitely isn't going to be easy. I hope they don't show the family melting down for the bechari and mishti feeling guilty for her sister is sad.

I hope Mauli's entry would clear all the confusions not doubling it

Originally posted by: pranurosid

I hope Mauli's entry would clear all the confusions not doubling it

I hope so. It purely depends on how mauli is shown. Whether in dreams or if she is coming alive, don't kill me, but like in ekta serials where people are shown to be dead and they come back whenever story demands😆mana tollywood movies lo kuda chala famous plot🤣

Originally posted by: sweetzzz

I hope so. It purely depends on how mauli is shown. Whether in dreams or if she is coming alive, don't kill me, but like in ekta serials where people are shown to be dead and they come back whenever story demands😆mana tollywood movies lo kuda chala famous plot🤣

No she will be coming in dreams only😆