The Curse of Being A Strong Woman - Page 2

P.S -- just in case: this post is only in response to the thread title and not on this drama itself which I only occasionally watch now.

@fruitytoasty -- the title of this thread is interesting and made me think of this particular jdrama's episode which made me re-think about what strength means. this woman was an ex-wrestler. so she is physically strong and also super dominating. anyway, while she presents this strong front to others, her quiet and meek husband of 10 years is actually leaving her...

here was the conversation:

husband: you are all about being proper and strong. I am a weak person which is why I was so attracted to you. however, for all these 10 years, we have been living together, I have always felt like suffocating. no matter what I touch in this house, there's no warmth. you can't live your life by being proper and strong all the time.
wife: a weak person can't protect the family.
husband: why can't we do it together? in the end, you never even once put faith in me.

her husband leaves her (no ema there) because he had no idea how much she needed him or felt valued ... and in the end of the ep, a neighbour advises her this: "becoming strong enough in order not to get defeated by anyone, I ended up in a deserted land with no person to believe in. admit your weakness, ease your shoulders and keep on living by borrowing strength from everyone around you. if you do that, you won't end up in a deserted land. it is difficult to admit your own weakness but if you really want to become strong, that's where you have to start."

anyway, that drama episode really made me ponder on what being strong meant. it takes courage to borrow strength from others and that is not a weakness. that is also strength. it takes courage to admit we can't do it all and that is not a weakness. that is also strength. if we insist on keep it all inside and not open up, then we don't allow people to come close to us. so in a way, we become cursed by trying to be strong. yes, there will be circumstances when there's no one there to offer support and so we are forced to do it alone. however, if we keep being in that habit by doing it all ourselves, then we do become cursed. by admitting we need help and borrowing strength from others, then we can break the flip side/negative of being too strong and not be cursed.

They have made Mauli character too as a shameless woman

If she has any self respect she will go away from that house ..or atleast she will stop begging Kunal for his love

Its the harsh reality of the society or people that they tend to the ones who are extremely sensitive or show them as extremely sensitive and weak. ppl try to understand them better, give more attention, give more love and care. they handle them very carefully in the simplest of the simple situations too. but

the ppl who are strong and face things on their own are often taken for granted. they wish and believe that the stronger ones will handle anything that cums their way. the ppl often forget that even the stronger ones are vulnerable and hurt. they overlook the pain of these ppl.