Originally posted by: harsha..
I read a numerous posts saying that Aditya is obsessive. Yes, he is. And that's a good thing guys. He is NOT PSYCHOTIC, he is obsessive. And you should be. True love borders on obsession. There's a thin line between being obsessed and being psychotic and Aditya hasn't crossed over. Yet.
Hey Harsha, apart from being an amazing writer you've done a fab job putting down feelings about how love should be in to beautiful words 😊 Definitely Adi isn't psychotic & if people call him mad/obsessed for his behaviour I've just one question. Do they even know what true obsession is?? For ex, SRK in Darr could be termed as a stalker lover or an obsessed lover 😆😆 If Adi had done even 25% of what that obsessed lover did, he could be easily termed as that but hell no! Adi is just on a journey of knowing one's love & trynna make that person express feelings 😆
Why do I support him ? Well, lets just say that I am talking from personal experience. When one partner is unsure and undecided the other needs to step up.
Does it seem forceful at that moment ? Yes.
Is it necessary ? Absolutely. No doubt about that.
He is the kind of guy who can sustain a long distance relationship. Even if the relationship transcends time zones and you are thousands of miles away from the person.Why do I say this ? Because my partner is like him. Did I doubt his love for being mere obsession ? Yes, I did. Just like the whole fandom is doing Aditya's right now. 😆
I'm openly saying I don't find Adi wrong here & I've m mentioned it in a few posts back too. I found it weird at first but not disappointing but then I realized what love means to him now that he knows both their feelings for eo. Adi was like you say, stepping up to make Zoya relate to the obvious facts that she had already been in love with him even before he realised his own feelings & that he would prove it to her by any means. It's the need of the hour & I stand with him. If there isn't even an ounce of obsession in love, then there's no true love. Many of my friends whom I've seen who have been in long term relationships have stated that their partners are quite obsessed about them regarding few facts & I don't find anything wrong in it either. It's human nature & Adi was adamant for the required time too 😃
But, when I look back now, I realize that what he did was necessary. Absolutely required. And I am indebted to him for his 'obsession'.
Aditya Hooda is force of nature, who can do enough for both of them. When push comes to shove, you need to take drastic measures and that is what he is doing. The love of his life is getting married to someone else, how can you expect him to be RESPECTFUL ?
I wouldn't respect a guy who doesn't move mountains in such a situation and instead decides to be so-called RESPECTFUL. Screw respectful, life will give him thousands of chances to be mature and respectful, but this is definitely not one of them.
True that harsha. The drastic steps of not giving a darn to what others might think of his behaviour or whatever he just blurts out, even if it's in front of Zoya's to-be (NEVER 🤣) in-laws or her parents, Adi knows what he wants & what Zoya wants. Marriage is a huge step & he was scared that both of them, who has fallen for eo might loose their true love & realizing all this was a game of destiny so that Aditya & Zoya find love with eo was the high notch. He knew it's now or never because who knew Waseem could be such a pathetic dad to make his daughter get married to some random guy?
Even after so much of refusal about not being interested to get married, Zoya didn't have a say in her life atm. Waseem was just pressurising Zoya & Zoya just nodded her head in a yes & moved on to make her father happy. She herself couldn't fathom her own feelings & she was just going with the flow 😕 Poor Zoya..
True love is no matter what happens, you'll fight for your love. No matter how many obstacles you come across, you'll cross all those hurdles to reach that particular destination. Aditya wasn't immature to play with Zoya's feelings, not at all. He blo*** well knew Zoya loved him, perhaps more but never understood her own behaviour since 6 months. We also saw how she changed within that gap of the leap & how her mind was always preoccupied with Adi's thoughts. She always wanted him to be there for her, never thought she'd feel alone without him & that's why she even risked her life for Adi to return to India after creating such a massive khaand & getting almost arrested by the police LOL The limits she crossed were so precious, specially when she hasn't even understood she loved him & wanted him for a lifetime 😳
Definitely life is a long journey & there comes a time when being respectful matters the most but yeah, here he was trying to save Zoya literally. She was drowning in a puddle to never come out of it. Remember that dialogue Adi said to her? Arshad was merely a safe option for Zoya. Jaha pyaar nahi, waha khoneka koyi gham hi nahi hai? Isn't it what he interpreted? He knew that Zoya was being selective because of her fear of falling in love but he wanted to shout & say 'I'm there for you, no matter what happens & this is my promise to you, for the love I have for you' ❤️
Aditya is not afraid to proclaim his love for Zoya. How many guys actually stand up to their parents as strongly as Aditya does ? You need to give him points for not falling for any of the emotional nonsense like Papa Hooda's statement - I had no response for Waseem because you have done something shameful. What a load of crap !
The reason adults are not able to be 'adults' in India and marry the person of their choice is the societal pressure to conform to a standard. A preset paradigm. You have to be like this, this is what is expected. You step outside the circle and bamn - you are obsessive, unrespectful, immature and blah blah blah ...
Waseem as I stated above has come across as such a crap character. Before his so-called surprise dance (BS that was 🤓) when he walked up to Zoya, we all could witness tears in her eyes & here the idiot was questioning her about happiness 🤪There exists such parents in the society who are scared of this societal norms & wanna get their daughters married off to some guy they prefer because of what 'log kya kahenge?' 🤔 He's an effing big example.
What his daughter wants, how to make her life be filled with happiness doesn't matter to him as long as his daughter dances like a puppet to his tunes & shakes jer head as a robot. It's as if he asks her to jump in to a well next day, she'll not be proven as an obedient daughter if she didn't do so 😡 To hell with such sick mentalities.. 🤬🤬
Even with Pooja, Aditya's love never wavered. Yes, his definition was love was flawed as he equated friendship with love. But, he was the best of the best friend you could ever imagine. In his flawed way, he did complete justice to 'love' - by being her best friend.
True that. Aditya is one such guy who could make a great best friend & as a best friend, he was supportive of Pooja which pooja has also admired a lot. He was definitely not understanding love but yeah, at that point of time even Pooja knew though Adi was not what she wanted him to be (Ahem.. She knew she married him knowing who he is & why was she expecting him to change? Geez... 😕 ) but Adi has changed with a complete 360 angle & that's why he's precious 😃He is one gem of a person. He is passionate about things - be it his career or his beliefs. He doesn't give a rat's ass to what the society thinks about him. Papa Hooda wanted him to be a lawyer, but he loved flying and he chose being a pilot. How many of us actually do what we want to ? Ninety percent of us don't even have the courage to make our own career choices. Forget love !In many situations, I believe I have behaved like Adi. Perhaps that's why I can easily relate 😊 Hell, I've voiced out my opinion publicly & has gotten scolded too LOL Stubborn me 😆 I've this perception that; we live once & after few years we die thus life isn't forever. With the time left, we shouldn't think of what others think of us or what the society is pressurising us to do. It's our life. If we aren't doing anything wrong & not harming anyone, why would anyone become a barricade? Why does it matter so much about what the society thinks? Why get scared of people? That passionate factor is what I find admirable about Adi. He's one of a kind. He knows how to fight for his right, his love & even let go of things if they aren't meant to be, for ex how he made Zoya free from his bond yesterday. Geez, I had tears in my eyes. Harshad is a fantabulous actor with so much potential to move viewers even with a slight movement of one tear drop 👏😊He is ready to endure humiliation and sacrifice his ego for love. It is easier to stand for yourself and your dignity than exposing your vulnerable side and laying it all out for the other person. He has the goddamn courage to offer his heart on a platter to Zoya - to crush or accept. Whatever she feels like. In my eyes the guy is the very definition of confidence.
I love your choice of words Harsha; "He has the goddamn courage to offer his heart on a platter to Zoya - to crush or accept. That righteously sounds like Aditya Hooda. He's a darling & he's proving it every now & then. He's vulnerable when it comes to Zoya & what I like the mlst about him is he isn't afraid to cry. He's a man but not egoistic when it's the matter of love, not backwards & neither cares about others perception about him 😊
I replayed what he said at the very end of the episode multiple times - Main fannah ho jaonga par tumhe dobara galti nhi karne donga.
After being insulted publicly by Waseem and Arshad, he still stood tall on his belief that Zoya and him are meant for each other. No one - nor his parents, nor Zoya's parents, nor Zoya herself can deter this guy. Such passion is rare !
Ofc, he knew they were meant to be & he wanted to just make her accept her feelings, that's it. That's what he was trynna do all along. Facing the wrath of both sides of parents was obvious because only he could understand his feelings truthfully. He was the husband who faced betrayal, a wrath & then revived with new found love within his heart & finally wanted his girl to understand her own feelings too. He realized Zoya was always there for him through the trauma they faced & they could always pour their hearts out to eo, just like he explained to his parents.
Aditya Hooda is passionate, not unhinged. Yes, he might come on strongly but that's just what he is. It's his innate nature. There were many posts saying that he should back off - why the hell should he do that ? What kind of a person you are if you back off and stop trying for the love of your life. He BELIEVES that Zoya and him are soulmates. And by believe I mean firmly believe.Also, he has so many instances backing up his believes. The CVs have shown Zoya's character to be in love with him. So, why should he back off ? Like that would be plain stupid.
I'm not against the posts which said he should back off because it's their personal opinion 😆 Different people, different experiences & different view points. Also from different countries, thus ideas change LOL 😆 It might be Adi & Zoya as the end game but I never went along with the words as if 'Ok Adi's acting unlike himself but let's let it go because AdiYa are end game'. Hell NO 🤪 Why would I? Has Aditya's character promised to be that way till the end of the show? No right? If they straightaway showed some cliche romance, will the audience be satisfied? Good for those who watch goofy romances LMAO 😆
Matured thoughts & matured belief of Adi kept me hooked to the moving storyline, thus I watched it all along & I'm glad of what happened at the end. Adi backed off in a decent way & wanted Zoya's happiness only. Isn't that true love? 😳
I don't know what kind of a person you are if you backoff from something you feel deep inside your heart - be it your career or your life. And Zoya for him is his LIFE.
Darn this! Exactly harsha, if you back off from someone you love or something you're passionate about, then your heart wasn't there at the first place. Sometimes people tend to repel due to future consequences but that's because of the fear. But Adi is a sheer example of standing for the truth & getting himself & Zoya, his love out of their past memories & heal along with her.
Disclaimer : These are totally my personal views. No offense intended.
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