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"There's no way to be a perfect mother but there are million ways to be a good one".
RKC has managed to show three types of mothers to the viewers.
Satrupa got to bear her children by choice, Sudha gave birth out of venegance towards the man and his family that betrayed her. Third mother Madhu received that priceless gift of being a mother by destiny!!
Pagli pandithyan didn't experience the pain of childbirth in case of Anami but she had the blessed privilege to taste the challenges ,experience the joy and satisfaction of bringing up a child. Adoption is not a sacrifice or something extraordinary it just shows the person is ready to love and embrace a person who's not blood related. Relationships cannot be defined or limited to blood alone. I believe not everyone has the ability to take such a decision,it doesn't make them any smaller or less compassionate than someone who's adopted. It's all about accepting people as they are without putting people into categories or pedestals based on individual opinions .
A mother hears a child's pain even if the child is far and a mother reads a child's mind even if the child is silent. Pagli pandithayan could have treated Anami differently but she was attuned to her child's feelings.
Pagli pandithayan was able to read anami's pain every year on the day called birthday. She read her mind over the phone, just by Anami's voice she could understand her child's turmoil . She did what Satrupa couldn't manage to do all these days. The mother by blood has been going about her business treating Anami not as a daughter but as her property something she has Haq to by blood. Is blood everything? Her confident smirk when the DNA test became positive, to Anami that smirk will be read as she's a matlabi mathaji, using her for her own benefits! But is the benefit more for herself or for someone else? Anami is on that journey of knowing her birth mother.
I don't know if the motherly instinct is absent in her or is it something she has buried underneath her tough personality to avoid getting attached to Anami or is that unexplainable guilt? Satrupa has been quiet a good mother to Vatsalya but when it comes to Anami's it's a different story,she's been unable to be a mother to her abandoned child.
If she was really bothered about her past deeds, if she felt guilty about her selfish act of giving off the girl child then her heart should have read Anami's pain. There was no acknowledgement of her daughter's emotions. She was in her selfish hypocritical bubble daring to question Dadaji forgetting that when one finger was raised against Dadaji the other four was pointing towards herself. If Baldev is acting thick headed despite proofs Satrupa is also acting thick headed, ignoring her daughter's feelings and neglecting her rights as a person to be who she wants to be. Satrupa is selfish for her own reasons. She thinks she's supposed to be understood and acknowledged without any explanation from her side. At the moment Neither Baldev nor Satrupa can claim to be the better parent here!! There's no doubt nor is there a question of who deserves to be called Anami's mother!!
Satrupa is a complex person I guess her relationship with Baldev, Lal mahal and her history with Baldev's past changed her into a very cynical but strong woman. She's not here to justify her acts to Anami but she's here to make her fit to be called heir of Royal steel. Satrupa's sole aim is that her blood takes over the reigns in the next generation. She has been scarred and feels insecure after the revelation of Narottam Sudha existence!! Her insecurities are masked under nonchalance and unemotional approach towards life.I doubt she's thinking about what if Anami was the one in place of vatsalya. That decision of keeping vatsalya must have got to do with the Narottam angle and not the beta will be waaris not beti alone.
Sudha the mother who brought her child into the world with the sole aim of using him as a pawn for her venegance against Baldev and the family that took away her rights. We see her ignorant or rather insensitive to her child's need for love and acceptance. She's encouraged him to self inflict himself, the moment she sees he's deviating from her set path of hate and bitterness she pulls him back into the twisted maze of lies and deceit. One needs to think if she would have continued in this path had Narottam questioned her? Prodded her? If she had a person around her to show she's wrong than a person who silently agrees to all that she says and does. She's a mother too but so unlike the other two!!
If Anyone needs to be called matlabi it's Sudha!!
These three women show mothers are humans they're imperfect but they're bonded to their kids. Some bonds are healthy while some are destructive but let's not raise them to a pedastal! They're after all humans too.
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