What if you had a life partner like Maya? - Page 9

Originally posted by: kavsy

Has it been proved that she is the one? You don't have any right to accuse a person without any evidence.

Originally posted by: S.Stephy

I'm wondering what if Arjun had the abusive past, the mental illness and is trying to control Maya whilst portraying the image of best husband to the world? And what if Maya is the one isolated from her loved ones and is so done with this marriage that she would hurt herself to get out of it? Would we expect Maya to stay put, just give some more love and if you truly love him, try and cure him. I wouldn't expect it of Maya and the same way I don't expect it of Arjun either.

Dealing with a mental illness isn't that easy. It's not as simple as give some love and be understanding, then things will work out. I can get where Arjun is coming from because he didn't choose this. One can maybe expect Arjun to take some initiative to treat Maya if he fully knew about Maya's condition from the beginning and if has the upper-hand in the situation. But Maya's issues weren't something that was told to him or explained to him but unleashed onto him in an unexpected way, affecting his life. That's too much for any normal person to handle.

IMO, Arjun has his faults and he did make his mistakes in the marriage but not being able to handle Maya's illness or wanting an out in this marriage are not his faults.

Originally posted by: kavsy

First of all, it is the woman who stays at her husband's place after marriage. So it would be Maya who would be staying with her husband. A woman would not go for an immediate divorce. She would try to mend her husband especially if he is mentally ill. Whether Arjun agrees or not, Maya would go to the doctor and tell his problems and get the medicines for him. She would add medicines in such a way that Arjun would not even be able to make out. If there are cctv cameras, she would use her neighbor's stove and add that tablet into the milk and make him drink. When Arjun drinks it, he would feel the changes within him. There are many ways to deal with the situations. I don't know how much Arjun has used his brains.

Originally posted by: CaptiveFreedom

<font face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="3">A woman can handle a person with abusive past, there are men who are control freak but they are unbearable to be very truthful but than women aren't physically as strong as men. Most probably woman who feel suffocated in being isolated or caged won't cause any physical pain to her husband with mental illness.Toxic relationships are toxic no matter any of the partner is mentally stable or unstable.Its not easy to cure a person with mental illness but abandoning them isn't also the solution of the problem. Relationships comes with responsibilities as u can't leave ur husband or wife with contagious disease similarly u can't leave ur life partner with mental illness if Maya wasn't having any mental illness and still be the killer or had emotionally exhausted Arjun than I might have said Arjun should leave Maya. (my POV)</font>[/DIV]

Originally posted by: kavsy

First of all, it is the woman who stays at her husband's place after marriage. So it would be Maya who would be staying with her husband. A woman would not go for an immediate divorce. She would try to mend her husband especially if he is mentally ill. Whether Arjun agrees or not, Maya would go to the doctor and tell his problems and get the medicines for him. She would add medicines in such a way that Arjun would not even be able to make out. If there are cctv cameras, she would use her neighbor's stove and add that tablet into the milk and make him drink. When Arjun drinks it, he would feel the changes within him. There are many ways to deal with the situations. I don't know how much Arjun has used his brains.[/DIV]