Vandana RIP: A tyrant mil or a petrified mother?

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Is Vandana a typical, cruel, taunting, abusive mil?
IMHO, No 😃 ...She's just a petrified mother...

A woman who has loved her step-son as much as her biological son, if not more...Who patiently waited for Arjun to accept her, for so many years...Who put her ego n self respect aside...Why?!?!...because the maternal instinct over-rides all other...

Yes, Vandana's behaviour with Maya does appear unacceptable, on face value...But the fact is, it's not as if Vandana has typical mil type issues with Maya, like intercaste issues, dowry issues, or plain obsessive n possessive love for her son, n hence unable to accept Dil in son's life...Any other greedy middle class mil would have been licking Maya's feet, thanks to her financial status...But NOT Vandana...

She is not accepting Maya NOT for any of these reasons...I'ts solely because she feels n believes that association with Maya can bring about Arjun's downfall, as Arjun is Maya's obsession...N as a mother, her fears have only been compounded since Arya marriage...

1) Ashwin's disclosure to Vandana just before the marriage
2)Maya insisting on completing the marriage amidst a blazing Mandap
3)Ashwin's dying on the Mandap pyre , after accusingly pointing towards the trio of Maya, Arjun Jhanvi
4)Arjun becoming a prime suspect in Ashwin's murder n being interrogated at the police station one day after the marriage
5)now, Arjun being arrested for Ashwin's murder

In this scenario, how can we expect Vandana to welcome Maya with open arms?

A mother's love is one of the purest forms of love...Yes, every mother is selfish in her love...The mere existence of her child is her first & last joy...It's a mother's primitive instinct to be protective of her child...I only see fear n protection for Arjun's life in Vandana's eyes everytime she yells at Maya...Yes, her approach may not be right...But then, when has a mother's fear for her child's life been able to think or behave rationally?!?!?

Vandana's behaviour may appear OTT at the moment...But if it turns out that Maya is the killer (I believe it's MPD), then Vandana's fear & behaviour will be justified to the majority on the forum, who are all gunning for her šŸ˜†

(Though if Maya indeed is a case of MPD/DID, my heart would reach out to her😭)

EDIT: 29/6/17
Maya has finally killed Vandana .....that too, such a ghastly, terrible death...Vandana was the only one who saw thru Maya from the very beginning n tried her best to stop the ill fated Arya marriage. ..but it was not to be...

RIP Vandana...you were a good soul 😭


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Posted: 8 years ago
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Firstly my post will not be bashing just putting up my opinion. Will Agree and disagree to few things si just bear with me

The reasons you mentioned are quite evident on Vandana disliking Maya. But there is huge differences between hating and disliking a person and here I can clearly say Vandana's dislike from initial days has slowly turned into hatred. Okay fine she is worried about Arjun's downfall but lets keep it this way when Arjun threatened Ashwin, he was only a genuine friend to Maya like with Saanjh. That cop clearly said on the after wedding time that Arjun is suspect just because he threatened to Ashwin. Even if the marriage didn't happen, he would still remain a suspect as matter of the fact.


Even I never expected Vandana to open the arms but my concern is on the trust on that Ashwin's words she is putting above everything and overlooking another side of coin. Before marriage too she didn't like Maya because Saanjh was in picture. What she has to understand is no matter how hard she tries Arjun has to face his fate and she cannot save him from the disaster (reality of nature). All she can do is think rationally on how to handle Maya camly rather than badmouthing her.


I am not gonna talk about Arjun's parents death here since that is complete different story and does not relate with your topic.


She might love Arjun as a real son but before being mother she is woman who has face the humiliation in society which Maya had to face on the marriage day. Being a good human being she should rather talk with Arjun directly (he is solely responsible for all this mess between his wife and mom) rather than dragging Maya in her hatred.


As a mother she has every right to think about her son but her blind hatred is going bit overboard. The point where you mentioned I no doubtedly agree about Vandana's as ml has no greedy over getting a wealthy Dl (very rare to see)


Maya's love might not be that simple its just bit more extreme than others but still it is love that can go to any extent to protect not harm others.

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Vandana's blind hatred was shown when she insults Maya by throwing her sarees out of the laundry... I was just like ok then! And also when Maya is crying at Vandana's feet begging for forgiveness for anything bad that she has done and giving her the right to be angry and bring her back on track. But vandana just didn't budge! That's when I started feeling it's going to overboard now!
I feel like vandana is hiding something, which is another reason why she doesn't want Maya to be in their house. Maya is smart and she will figure it out

Why did vandana like Saanjh so much?
Because Saanjh was already in her grip. She knows Saanjh wouldn't rebel against her and she wouldn't ever doubt her.
On the other hand, vandana is skeptical about Maya because Maya is someone that figures things out quickly. vandana feels that with the coming of Maya, she will end up losing control of the house...
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: ishakumar

Vandana's blind hatred was shown when she insults Maya by throwing her sarees out of the laundry... I was just like ok then! And also when Maya is crying at Vandana's feet begging for forgiveness for anything bad that she has done and giving her the right to be angry and bring her back on track. But vandana just didn't budge! That's when I started feeling it's going to overboard now!
I feel like vandana is hiding something, which is another reason why she doesn't want Maya to be in their house. Maya is smart and she will figure it out

Why did vandana like Saanjh so much?
Because Saanjh was already in her grip. She knows Saanjh wouldn't rebel against her and she wouldn't ever doubt her.
On the other hand, vandana is skeptical about Maya because Maya is someone that figures things out quickly. vandana feels that with the coming of Maya, she will end up losing control of the house...


Totally disagree šŸ˜†

But you are entitled to your opinion...😃...So we can agree to disageee, buddy
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Posted: 8 years ago
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If Arjun gave the right of a mother to Vandana, it is because of Maya, no matter in whichever way it is. Whatever her laadli Saanjh could now do in these 20 years, Maya did that in no time.
Vandana's hatred towards Maya is mostly based on her superstitious beliefs. She is just going overboard.

She has humiliated Maya publicly in the temple and slapped her. She has crossed all the limits. Maya is an extreme person. She is good to people who are good to her. So Vandana has to change her attitude at least for Arjun's happiness.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: katrinasalman

If Arjun gave the right of a mother to Vandana, it is because of Maya, no matter in whichever way it is. Whatever her laadli Saanjh could now do in these 20 years, Maya did that in no time.

Vandana's hatred towards Maya is mostly based on her superstitious beliefs. She is just going overboard.

She has humiliated Maya publicly in the temple and slapped her. She has crossed all the limits. Maya is an extreme person. She is good to people who are good to her. So Vandana has to change her attitude at least for Arjun's happiness.



Its clear in today's episode how good she has been to Jhanvi.
And btw, ur ridiculous. U think Arjun will be happy once he gets to know maya is behind all this. And do u think he will forgive maya?The day Jhanvi regains consciousness, everything will be out. And even if she doesn't regain consciousness at all Maya's secret won't be hidden fr long. So for Arjun's 'happiness' vandana should accept maya? Just so ur beloved maya is happy, that's what u mean right? Lol.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: katrinasalman

If Arjun gave the right of a mother to Vandana, it is because of Maya, no matter in whichever way it is. Whatever her laadli Saanjh could now do in these 20 years, Maya did that in no time.

Strongly disagree...Arjun ki ghanti baji, by chance, by something that Maya said...NOT BEC Maya wanted it that way...There's a difference...

Vandana's hatred towards Maya is mostly based on her superstitious beliefs. She is just going overboard.

Disagree again...It's mainly her gut feel...& Maya's behaviour, her history, her family history, etc...

She has humiliated Maya publicly in the temple and slapped her.
Vandana DID NOT slap Maya...She accidently hit her on the face when Maya tightly clasped her hand n she tried to get it released ...

She has crossed all the limits. Maya is an extreme person. She is good to people who are good to her. So Vandana has to change her attitude at least for Arjun's happiness.

N what does Maya do to people who are not good to her?šŸ˜†

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: lumos_31



Its clear in today's episode how good she has been to Jhanvi.
And btw, ur ridiculous. U think Arjun will be happy once he gets to know maya is behind all this. And do u think he will forgive maya?The day Jhanvi regains consciousness, everything will be out. And even if she doesn't regain consciousness at all Maya's secret won't be hidden fr long. So for Arjun's 'happiness' vandana should accept maya? Just so ur beloved maya is happy, that's what u mean right? Lol.


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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: lumos_31



Its clear in today's episode how good she has been to Jhanvi.
And btw, ur ridiculous. U think Arjun will be happy once he gets to know maya is behind all this. And do u think he will forgive maya?The day Jhanvi regains consciousness, everything will be out. And even if she doesn't regain consciousness at all Maya's secret won't be hidden fr long. So for Arjun's 'happiness' vandana should accept maya? Just so ur beloved maya is happy, that's what u mean right? Lol.

I will be fine that Maya never gets caught and even at end of show all her enemies are dead and she n Arjun are together. In today's world no one cares about how you get things! It's a world of survival and Maya is good at survival! So I won't mind her getting away with all crimes
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: OriginalsFan

I will be fine that Maya never gets caught and even at end of show all her enemies are dead and she n Arjun are together.


In today's world no one cares about how you get things! It's a world of survival and Maya is good at survival! So I won't mind her getting away with all crimes


šŸ˜† by that logic, Maya should go on to kill Vandana, the inspector, to begin with...

Obviously, you are so besotted with Maya that you are forgetting that we are NOT inhabitants of the jungle where the fittest survives...We are homo sapiens living in a society, n are expected to live in a law-abiding manner

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