Originally posted by: ltelidevara
I am not a feminist. Let me declare. In fact I hate the word itself. Contrary to popular belief that women need to fight for their rights I say a person needs to fight for his or her rights.
But today feminism has taken a beating with mostly women using it in the wrong sense. It became a slogan raised as per the option and convenience.
Feminists also have their own agenda . They want to chose for whom they want to raise their voice.
Just this is an interesting study about the change of colours feminism went through in supporting the charecters of our favourite show Kuch Rang Pyar Ki.
Cambridge Dictionary defines Feminism as
" The belief that women should be allowed the same rights,power and opportunities as men and be treated in the same way or the set of activities intended to achieve this state."
So how are our charecters treated by progressive,people with feminism as their basic trait let us see.
Sorry I fail to see how feminism or feminists in our forum have treated Sona, Neha or Ishwari differently. If so why would they do so. M sure Sona has bashed fairly when she has like an emotional fool. I remember ppl have supported Neha whenever she has voiced her opinion and stood her ground. And Ishwari was equally sympathised during Devakshi Marriage ( specially regarding non-veg food and Sonakshi's lehenga)
Iswari Dikshit Right now the most hated Charecter on the forum. Every move of her is branded as manipulative ,scheming and mentally sick by the feminists and others also.Iswari toiled hard to help Dev reach the position he achieved. She is blamed for taking away Neha's right to progress. The glaring reality that Iswari could not afford making both study is conveniently overlooked.Iswari's hard work,her fight as a single woman was never acknowledged. Instead she is accused of being partial to Dev . She invested on Dev because he will look after the family later. So she is selfish in doing so. That is the verdict. If it is so then all the parents will be called selfish only.
Of course she she has toiled hard, made sacrifices to feed her family. She was a single mother in abject poverty and four kids to take care of. ANd could not afford to send Neha to school. Dev seemed more promising who was ready and capable to shoulder the responsibilities. And Ishwari being a conservative person believed that her only son would be there to support and care for her in her oldage. Evey parent think like that. Nothing wrong with that. But most parents don't demand this from their children. Demanding is also not wrong but Ishwari has a unique way to do this. She demands his attention by becoming ill by spoiling her health. ANd mind you she does not do this for family she does this simply so that Dev leaves all his commitments to spend time with her. Another way to keep her son close to herself is by constantly reminding him his responsibilities and above all by reminding that she has showered more love on him than his sisters. So he owes it to her eternally. She conveniently forgets that Dev takes good care of the family fulfils all needs and required before being asked. She knows this as a mother.
But Sonakshi's presence makes it difficult for her to deal with it. She knows that Sonakshi is a good-hearted girl and that probably why Dev will neglect his family or his mother.
If we know a person is bad then there are r two ways to confront them. 1. Become bad like them to teach them a lesson. or 2. Be good and show them the right direction.
But if a person is good then there is no question of confronting them.
But our dear Ishwari aunty finds it a threat. Now you might call this normal, but the actions from this "normal " behaviour might be too much too handle if you know what I mean.
My sister is a divorcee. She faced so much then came out of the marriage. She has a good job. But no children.My mother says you are blessed with everything she is denied everything. Does that mean my mother envies my happiness? Never.
Iswari is called names. She is disgustingly referred to as GF and mocked at by all progressive minded people.She is criticised for holding power on the house and Dev. So I feel the feminists and others do not consider Iswari fit to be supported.
Yes she's definitely holding the power in dixit house. What's there to disagree. You don't have to be feminist or non feminist to prove that. Dev got influenced by her speech on ehsaan and decided, no sorry he begged Vicky to join him as a project manager. It is a wrong decision by all means. Ishwari made him to change the decision when she got to know that Sona had adviced him earlier.
I know she's not like other ususal MILs on tv who constantly plot against their DILs... her insecurities are constantly underplaying and she instantly comes up with a plan to reassure herself of the position she holds in Dev's life. the latest being then HM getting cancelled. ( Trust me M not feeling bad for Devakshi here, its Ishawari m worried about).
honestly what is there to pity her. The pahse has long passed where we could sympathise with her or understand her. but is she really trying to deal with her insceurutiies.
Neha. The unfortunate sister of Dev took wrong decisions and is back in Dikshit house.She is uneducated. She lost her years in helping her siblings. Her husband could not provide a satisfied life for her.
People who really want to fight for women will definitely try to understand Neha. We were not shown the incidents that lead to her decision to come back.Hardly two weeks over I think since she reached her mother's place. Already people started complaining about her ways.
Why should she sulk? Why should she cry over her bros HM?
Why can't she think of learning some thing? Why can't she stand by herself?
Why should she make a scene and blame Sonakshi in the pre cap?
I read in another thread how could Neha dare to blame Sona standing in her house? Really? People who call themselves liberal could question a daughter or sister's right to feel her parental house as her own? Isn't it odd to say so? Tomorrow if Sona leaves Dev and goes back to Bijoy won't he let her be happy rightfully there? Can Saurav's wife say it is not Sona's home at all?
Every daughter though married still belongs to her parents. No one can question her right to stay there. Neha Ria Nikki every one has the right to stay at Iswari mansion along with Sona. I disagree with the argument that a brother has no such responsibility like a father does. A son replaces the father after the father passes away or if he retires from his duty.
Coming to feminists they should uphold Neha's right to live with her family as long she wants to.
But I observed all the support and sympathies are meant only for Sonakshi but not any one else.
Sonakshi: Well I am the only one who finds fault with whatever she does . And I am not ashamed of it.
If we take just the instance that may be shown Today I found it irritating when Sona revealed the issue of Neha to her parents that too in the public place . Isn't it Neha's personal matter? Did Sona think a minute before doing so? Or it would have been better if she took her parents to her room and spilled the beans. Still our feminists supported the act by saying Sona was in shock Hence she did so.
But the same people are finding fault with Neha for blaming Sona rightfully. And they are eagerly waiting to see Dev support Sona today.
Every woman Charecter is naturally flawed. Why show sympathy towards one and hatred towards others? If you are feeling bad towards the cancellation of HM feel bad for Neha whose marriage is on the verge of being broken. If you say Neha is responsible for her situation Sona also is responsible for nourishing a dream that can be termed as untimely
Let Iswari be understood and sympathised despite her insecurities.
Let Neha be pitied for the precarious condition she brought herself into.
I don't need to tell about Sona because she is the golden girl who will get all the concern and love.
Finally feminism should not be restricted to favouritism.
It is not optional.
So treat all the flawed charecters equally.Let opportunities,rights and power be equally distributed or attributed to Iswari,Neha and Sona. There lies propriety. There lies justice.
