zaroon sexist?? - Page 6

People raised a few points which I wanted to address. Did Zaroon love Kashaf because she didnt hang out with guys or stay out late at? No! He loved her as she was someone who could balance both family and home and would prioritize one or the other based on the situation. Thats the only thing he wanted from his wife because he found that missing in his mother, sister and later Asmara. Yes her conservative upbringing gelled well with his own conservativeness so it was a win win for both. Lets not forget he wants tells her after marriage that he would teach her awaragardi and she says her habits are pucca now. So its not as if he was expecting her to sit at home while he had fun outside because she is a woman and he is a man.

Zaroon also never had an issue with his wife working. Infact he was extremely supportive. He never asked her to quit her job and join him at his place. Instead he worked on getting her transferred in the same city which is quiet natural as he himself had no scope to move where she worked. When his mom asks Kashaf to extend her leave for a honeymoon he chips in and says even he has the same number of leaves too so that Kashaf doesnt feel pressurized to compromise with her job in any way. I have seen lots of guys who will go to office in such occasions while they expect their wives to stay at home and bond with relatives.

The best thing about Zaroon was he was reasonable..he was willing to discuss/debate and convince or be convinced rather than order his wife.

Jeans and Top are not a big deal for zaroon too, that was the only reason he never objects his own sister or even Asmara about wearing them, except that particular situation where he himself saw Osama and random boys mocking Asmara, may be his words were rude but his intention was to protect her, it happens everywhere. And if you are asking about elite society then let me tell you, Zaroon has seen his elite mother and his elite sister failing to be a good wife to their respective partners, especially his mother, his mentality, his ego and his chauvinism are evoked from his own elite lifestyle and upbringing where a wife does not respect and give time to her loving husband, a daughter hardly cares to take her father's advice, a mother does not care to guide her kids, and he clearly never wanted his own married life in such a mess.

and the only reason he married kashaf was because her values and her personality impressed her, not because she is a behenji who does not hang out with boys, please if you have watched the show then do realize the essence of the story. And he saw a woman in Kashaf who is complete, who would be a job holder, a good wife and a good daughter, he saw the balance in her which he never saw in his mother and he never wanted to compromise in his life the way his father has compromised. Zaroon was angry at kashaf not because Osama had proposed her, but because she had hidden it from him, which ofcourse Kashaf returns him back after leaving him because he met asmara and hid it from her. any husband at zaroons or kashaf's place would react, this is close to reality, and it does not make them a jerk, it only alowed Zaroon to grow into a better husband and a better human being, he dealt with Kashaf aftrall the woman who was the hardest nut to be cracked by any other men.

You have to have a certain way of thinking to allow all the above to happen. Zaroon was hypocritical..and male chauvinists possess that trait. In the novel, Zaroon actually ends up burning Kashaf's clothes in anger when he finds out about one of her past marriage proposals. Not to mention, he actually slaps Kashaf in that library scene. They toned it down the for the show..but Zaroon was still illustrated as a male chauvinist in many ways even in the show. Umera Ahmed did not change the essence of the character. If she did, then it would not have been her Zaroon. Even Kashaf confronts him about him being a male chauvinist etc.

Yes, Kashaf was flawed..as was Zaroon...but Kashaf was not a female chauvinist. People keep forgetting that. Kashaf's issues were not the same. Lets also not forget that Kashaf was the first to give in when it came to letting go of her ego when she was pregnant and called up Zaroon to move on. She thought about her kids and their future, and herself. Zaroon wasn't the one to have initiated any of that. If she was that sexist or such a feminist as some have claimed, she would have never done any of that. Kashaf was also not a hypocrite.