What a wedding na bidaai hui na grihapravesh

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Posted: 9 years ago
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I would say it was the most poignant dialogue of today with lot of depth. I have always believed a woman should be given a proper bidaai from her parental home if she has to get respect in her sasural. And similarly a proper Grihapravesh has to happen for a happy life forward. I am not talking this from a perspective of any superstition or anything, but on what they represent.
A bidaai represents closure of past for the bride. Yes she has lived in a home, grown up, studied and now she is leaving that place to take up new responsibilities. So when you go the last moments as a daughter of the house has to be happy. Your parents elders should have willingly accepted your new relation and a your family has a basis of trust with your new family. It is in this condition a bride should take bidaai.
And grihapravesh symbolically represents her new journey. She should be happily welcomed by the groom's side. As a symbol bringing new things, new prosperity.

Swa had none. That means her past is not closed. If you look now it is not just about Asad. It is about Swa's dignity in her sasural. How can she live with peace when she feels her brother took away the suhaag ki choodiyaan of her sil while she was wearing those. How will her relation with Simmi will be. That of guilt, that of mistrust. Poor girl stood outside Suha-Manohar room. And it was symbolic. She is there in the family because Adarsh tied a mangalsutra around her neck. But in everyone's mind her family had wronged them. Living like that is quite suffocating and it is better she does something to close that past at the earliest. Because as time passes the wounds will fester and it will be difficult to heal and a barrier will always remain.
It is better to take the short term pain at this point and correct things than suffer life long emotional pain, where even tomorrow Abhay's child can look at her and say badi maa's brother killed his father.

It was she who chose Adarsh. So let her fight out for her proper bidaai and grihapravesh after clearing Asad's name.

PS: It is getting hard and there seems no respite from it in near future.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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was thinking its like she is in middle..as a muslim i've no idea about this bidaai/welcome but i can understand or can assume meaning of that line .. i didnt get why she was outside .now get it..
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Posted: 9 years ago
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@sana bidaai means farewell given to bride from her family and grihapravesh is the welcome bride gets from groom's side. customs for both varies from state to state, community to community. In my community for grihapravesh there is a custom itself that the groom has to hold the bride's hand and bring her across the threshold or dahleez of his home. Then she symbolically fills rice in a barn kept near the pooja room.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Great Shru. 👏

I would just like to add. Swadheenta may have learnt a lot of discipline, mannerisms etc from her parents. But she learnt to enjoy her independence and decision making etc from maamu. Every time she has hesitated making decisions, he has stood behind her like her anchor. It is not just Asad's honor or Abhay's martyrdom that she is defending. In a way, she is defending her upbringing. No one may have said it to her now, but she knows that she has maamu's upbringing in her. If he is questioned, then it is her honor that is being questioned too. If he is disrespected, it is her disrespect too. She has to defend him because otherwise she can never be comfortable with her choices going forward.

Tomorrow, if she has to have the respect of everyone in her sasural, she has to ensure that everyone know that she comes from a family where people die to save the lives of others... just like the Sinha's. And it is when she establishes this truth that she can let herself be welcomed into a new life.

Also, adding new relations to your life does not diminish the meaning, significance and importance of earlier ones. A girl can be a great wife, great mother, great sister, great daughter all at the same time. She will manage all her relationships wonderfully! Even when she is fighting for her brother and father (figurative), she will continue to be a great wife to Adarsh, because that is also part of her upbringing.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Shruthi,
I SO wish makers had little bit more show run time.. had they shown proper wedding+bidai+rasams day after wedding
And THEN this terror & situations thereafter were planned for big fat Delhi reception one day after -- would have been a wholesome watch.
This mix up of events is bit too cruel.

Swadheenta ki Bidai tab hogi, jab she clears her Bhai & MAmu of wrong accusations.
Her Grihpravesh in true sense will come when she brings Abhay's real killer to justice.
This is still Agnipariksha, and is interesting to see if Her lifepartner respects & understands her restless quest: afterall that involves his chhotu as well.

I do feel, Adarsh's main prickpoint against Jilanis is Abhay's last words: Asad.
It will be interesting to see how the whole next fight unfolds.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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@spdp - You bring out a good point. I was actually thinking about Abhay's last words.
Well, it takes a highly logical and practical mind to make such deductions. But, if Adarsh were Sherlock Holmes, or ever becomes him in the near future (please God, please), it will be interesting to think why Abhay would say "Asad" as his last words when he could have said anything else in the world.

Think about it. Asad had been shot dead by the cops because they thought he was a terrorist. Adarsh has already heard this bit. He knows Asad was shot by the cops. Thinking about it from Abhay's POV, Adarsh would have found out that Asad was a terrorist anyway. So, why would Abhay try to tell him that as his last words? Something that Adarsh would find out anyway... unless, what Abhay was trying to say was not what Adarsh would understand of it.

Does that make sense?
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: Soapoperasrfun

@spdp - You bring out a good point. I was actually thinking about Abhay's last words.

Well, it takes a highly logical and practical mind to make such deductions. But, if Adarsh were Sherlock Holmes, or ever becomes him in the near future (please God, please), it will be interesting to think why Abhay would say "Asad" as his last words when he could have said anything else in the world.

Think about it. Asad had been shot dead by the cops because they thought he was a terrorist. Adarsh has already heard this bit. He knows Asad was shot by the cops. Thinking about it from Abhay's POV, Adarsh would have found out that Asad was a terrorist anyway. So, why would Abhay try to tell him that as his last words? Something that Adarsh would find out anyway... unless, what Abhay was trying to say was not what Adarsh would understand of it.

Does that make sense?



Exactly:
They were in the middle of the wedding.
Sudden police presence & finding of Bomb..mamu pointed as one who brought that box. Noone - not even swadheeta has thought about it yet-why he brought that.

Adarsh was a wreck seeing Chhotu. Police told him he was shot by a terrorist 11 times.
His last words 'Asad' came just before his life literally slipping through Jay & Adarsh's hands.
Police shows him Asad's body..
There is not even a moment spared to think anything yet. Its just a shock, grief, disbelief.

They both will think.. everything will unfold... Will be interesting to watch how & when that starts.
My thoughts: Jaya like always will ignite thoughts.. then on SwaDarsh will pick up...


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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: Soapoperasrfun

@spdp - You bring out a good point. I was actually thinking about Abhay's last words.

Well, it takes a highly logical and practical mind to make such deductions. But, if Adarsh were Sherlock Holmes, or ever becomes him in the near future (please God, please), it will be interesting to think why Abhay would say "Asad" as his last words when he could have said anything else in the world.

Think about it. Asad had been shot dead by the cops because they thought he was a terrorist. Adarsh has already heard this bit. He knows Asad was shot by the cops. Thinking about it from Abhay's POV, Adarsh would have found out that Asad was a terrorist anyway. So, why would Abhay try to tell him that as his last words? Something that Adarsh would find out anyway... unless, what Abhay was trying to say was not what Adarsh would understand of it.

Does that make sense?

exactly..i actually thought Adarsh was gonna think Asad was not the terrorist because of Abhay's last words when i read the episode update..but no.

Doesnt Adarsh know the gift was from Asad's friends? Would Mamu himself bring the bomb to the wedding uf he were the terrorist provided his family too was present there?
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Posted: 9 years ago
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@sp beauty of the script is no bidaai, no grihapravesh for swa. Because if things have unfolded after she entered Sinha household it would have been much difficult for her. Now she is on threshold. Aar yaa par. Only when she closes aar she can go par.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Hey dear. Amazing analysis. I look forward to reading ur analysis and it always presents a different and new meaning to the episode. The points you point to and comparison you make is amazing specially comparison to mahabharat. I might not be wrong in assuming that you must love reading books.

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