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I would say it was the most poignant dialogue of today with lot of depth. I have always believed a woman should be given a proper bidaai from her parental home if she has to get respect in her sasural. And similarly a proper Grihapravesh has to happen for a happy life forward. I am not talking this from a perspective of any superstition or anything, but on what they represent.
A bidaai represents closure of past for the bride. Yes she has lived in a home, grown up, studied and now she is leaving that place to take up new responsibilities. So when you go the last moments as a daughter of the house has to be happy. Your parents elders should have willingly accepted your new relation and a your family has a basis of trust with your new family. It is in this condition a bride should take bidaai.
And grihapravesh symbolically represents her new journey. She should be happily welcomed by the groom's side. As a symbol bringing new things, new prosperity.
Swa had none. That means her past is not closed. If you look now it is not just about Asad. It is about Swa's dignity in her sasural. How can she live with peace when she feels her brother took away the suhaag ki choodiyaan of her sil while she was wearing those. How will her relation with Simmi will be. That of guilt, that of mistrust. Poor girl stood outside Suha-Manohar room. And it was symbolic. She is there in the family because Adarsh tied a mangalsutra around her neck. But in everyone's mind her family had wronged them. Living like that is quite suffocating and it is better she does something to close that past at the earliest. Because as time passes the wounds will fester and it will be difficult to heal and a barrier will always remain.
It is better to take the short term pain at this point and correct things than suffer life long emotional pain, where even tomorrow Abhay's child can look at her and say badi maa's brother killed his father.
It was she who chose Adarsh. So let her fight out for her proper bidaai and grihapravesh after clearing Asad's name.
PS: It is getting hard and there seems no respite from it in near future.
