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^ yes it's true my friend, it's tough for a woman with child. Women who don't have a child from marriage find it easier to remarry, I am not saying it's right or wrong I am just stating the fact.
The writer tried to show us the consequences a woman faces when she wants out of an abusive relationship.
Koi hath uthane pay talaq leta hai?
To phir kis baat pay talaq lete hain?
I would like to know as well, if abuse isn't a big enough reason then what is?

Originally posted by: -shabz-

^ yes it's true my friend, it's tough for a woman with child. Women who don't have a child from marriage find it easier to remarry, I am not saying it's right or wrong I am just stating the fact.
The writer tried to show us the consequences a woman faces when she wants out of an abusive relationship.
Koi hath uthane pay talaq leta hai?
To phir kis baat pay talaq lete hain?
I would like to know as well, if abuse isn't a big enough reason then what is?

Originally posted by: -shabz-

It wasn't just about domestic violence, it was also about what happens to a woman when she does raise her voice.
Life is not a bed of roses for a divorced woman in our culture. That's exactly what they showed. Adnan wasn't perfect but Kiran did not have the courage to go through the same finger pointing the second time, go back to the convo between kiran and her mom.
In Pakistan parents do try to get their divorced daughter married again, it's allowed in Islam so we don't look down on it. Here kiran didn't have a child so it was easier. Kiran advised Arzoo to not get a divorce, that itself shows that kiran thought being divorced brought more sorrows for her and she wouldn't want arzoo to suffer the same.

If Sikander and kiran stayed together, Sikander wouldn't have reformed. You can check stats on this. It actually gets worse with time.

I did not want to get into the discussion of Adnan is better than Sikandar or Sikandar is better than Adnan but couldnt resist.

First, am I missing something.. when did Adnan stop Kiran from studying? Please correct me if I am wrong but as far as I remember Kiran had started working even before her marriage to Adnan and yes Adnan stopped Kiran from working but did he 'force' kiran to not work or was it more like he 'asked' kiran to not work because he did not want to burden Kiran with financial responsibility and Kiran accepted it. Is it really abuse? I remember only one conversation of Kiran with Rikhsar where it was mentioned and Kiran did not seem vexed about it.

Was Adnan 'wrong' at many places or was he 'abusive'?
A few pages back where people were saying that for a marriage you will have to make a lot of compromises so yes for a marriage you will have to and this is what it is all about that when you can make compromises and when is the limit. People keep on comparing Adnan and Kiran's life with their own expectations that Kiran should have been shown leading a perfect life after divorce but sorry it did not happen as in most of the cases it doesn't. I think for once we will have to look at Kiran and Adnan sans Sikandar and see if it is a normal marriage or if it is an abusive marriage although it is true that Kiran's life with Sikandar had a lot of effects on Kiran's life with Adnan. How many times Adnan and Kiran fought because of their own reasons or because of the other influences.

People are saying that Sikandar changed (although I have doubts but assuming he did change), Adnan also changed but what made Sikandar to change and what made Adnan to change? I personally think that is the difference.

Originally posted by: -shabz-

Watched all on YouTube, and loved it again.

The scene when arzoo comes to meet kiran was beautiful, how arzoo praises kiran for taking the right decision at the right time, and how kiran was right that he would never change, she praised her for being brave. She wished it was easy for her as well.
She came to kiran for guidance and kiran advises her against getting a divorce because it's not easy, the hell kiran went through, everyone was accusing her that she must have been wrong since arzoo and Sikander are living happily, it made her doubt herself. I loved this about the story that she was constantly made to doubt her decision by the society. Sabr ker Leti, theek ho jaata, this is what everyone kept saying. Theek hua? He hit arzoo too.
Did arzoo do something to ask for it too? There was no dawat involved, he wasn't tired, oh I guess Arzoo talked back to him, tsk tsk. How dare she.

Kiran wasn't as brave in the second time, she compromised, because she learnt her lesson, but she still let adnan know that she wasn't happy with the situation. Kiran never had a problem with freedom, that was never an issue, going to college or not was not highlighted, the stress was on Izzat e nafs. That's all she cared about. She never complained about sikanders mother attitude or phupo's attitude to anyone but her spouse. It was a non issue for her. She only wanted respect from her husband.

Btw, all the dualogues that Sikander,sikanders mom, faiqa, Kirans sister and rukhsar said about kiran and sikanders divorce reminded me of the comments here lol. UA is such a mind reader.

dear aarzo ki mistake thi bilkul thi baaat ye thi ki she question sikander about his loyalty what type of faltu question she is asking to sikander aur vaise dil ke bass nahi chalta pagal aarzo cant force sikander to be loyal to him just because she is his wife now jabki vo janti hai ki sikander ne bass kiran se hee mohabbat ki hai apni puri zindagi mein vo zabardasti sikander ki life min ghussi padi thi i u truly luv someone have courage to set that person free

Adnan's wedding to Kiran was plagued a lot by the burden of the past while with Sikander she had everything going for her,a rich household, a besotted husband so the two cases cannot be compared. With Adnan her suffering eased over time while with Sikander it would have gone worse. Women should walk out after the first slap , the abusers plead ,apologise and go back to the same a few days post it ,Since marriage concealing being a foreign concept in India and Pak the situation never improves. And furthermore saying that a person should be patient after dealing with abuse may seem good in theory but in practical life it's shattering, you lose self confidence and many women start contemplating that maybe they deserve it.Kiran did not fall for Sikander prior to marriage , her parents found the match to be perfect , her consent meant nothing and then he goes on to abuse her🥱

I find it hilarious 🤣 how some ppl are justifying Adnan's behaviour post marrige. A husband telling his wife on their wedding night that his mom and sis are the most imp for him 🤣🤣 ...bhai yeh baat shaadi se pehley batani chahiyey thi 😆 ...ek sweets ka box kya le liya, one week tak wife sey baat nahin ki 🤢...

I find it hilarious that how people are justifying Sikander.
No body here said Adnan was perfect, the writer clearly wanted to show the flaws. If she wanted she could have shown a perfect happily ever after, but that's not reality.

Btw why are announcements made before leaving the topic. I find that even more funny. Lolz.