Hello everyone.. Some of you knows me ...some of you don't. I am Nityah. Usually I don't like to get into word spars but from last few days there were quite some debatable posts here in forum where certain words are used time and again. Those are
True Love
Forgiveness
Second Chances
Forced relationship/Moving on
So my question to you is what are these in your opinion??
Word true love is flying around here so much. According to people your first love is true love. I say, this is load of BS. Let keep aside true for some time, let's see what love is?? Over the years I have listened and read so many definitions. But I find this one seal almost everything in nutshell.
Love is a combination of attraction, trust, respect, care, commitment, knowledge and responsibility.
For love to be there, these attributes needs to be there and especially trust and respect. When a love is nurtured with all these attribute it becomes a true love. And your companion who is with you at every step to nurture this love becomes your one true lover, soul-mate, twin flame or whatever you want to call him/her. Its not a easy road... some people leave your hand in between at the first sign of storm. And that means they are not your one true love. And some keep holding till you are safe from storm. If you found that person you found your true love.
According to some Laksh still loves Swara genuinely. Like really?? I agree at some point, may be Laksh did love or atleast liked Swara but once the storm came all that so called love was out of window. He saw one video and believed Swara betrayed him. Didn't he knew what type of girl Swara is?? Wasn't he was best friend of her who supposedly knew her very well?? Where was his trust for Swara which he proclaimed a night before their supposed marriage?? The counter argument that is given for this is Ragini manipulated him. He is the victim of that. According to me, he is a weak willed person who never truly knew Swara. That's why he was manipulated so easily by Ragini. But then also, lets consider him victim, but that tag was ripped off of him the moment he decided to marry Ragini in same mandap. There he turned into betrayer. In my opinion he married her in the same mandap to satisfy his own ego and to get back at Swara. Today I read a comment that amused me very much, according to that If on that day Sanskaar's deception hadn't came out the situation would have been something else. I say, because Sanskaar deception came out, it should have raised red flags in his mind. And after that Dida's accusation should have stopped him to marry Ragini. But we all know he willingly had gone through the marriage. And after Swara returned we all know what happened... the name calling and all. So, Is it called true love?? Actually forget true love... is it called love?? Where is the trust, respect, commitment, knowledge, care in this love??
Love never asks for proofs, Love trusts implicitly.
To prove her innocence, Swara had to present proofs time and again then also Laksh was not ready to believe. He was told truth time and again.. first Dida, then Swara herself and then Sanskaar with all proofs. He still remained blind eyed to everything. The day he got to know truth... then also he was not ready to believe Swara. The only reason he believed her after that because he himself fell in river and experienced what Swara did on the day of their supposed marriage.
So, I don't get it why people want Swara to go back to a person who claimed to love her yet didn't trusted, respected or cared for her.
I think the love or whatever that was in Swara and Laksh relationship was either drowned in the river with Swara that day and the rest was ignited in the fire of altar at Laksh and Ragini marriage.
Another words that are floating around are forgiveness and second chances.
Forgiving and gaining forgiveness is a journey.
Forgiveness and second chances are earned.
And this is what Laksh doesn't understand. He asked for forgiveness and Swara decided to forgive him. That was first baby step to truly forgive him. But as usual Laksh jumped on gun and proposed that they should get back together. So watching that do you really think Laksh is sorry for how he treated Swara or he is sorry for himself that he let go of her. I don't think he even realise how big damage he have done to Swara's trust for him. He doesn't even realise his mistakes. He didn't learned from them ...forget about repenting them. Right now he wants Swara back to satisfy his own ego. Saying sorry and actually feeling sorry are two different things. Had he truly felt sorry and wanted to repent for his mistakes, he would have given Swara some space and started over with being friends but he jumped right back where he had thrown away everything. It was his own fault that he threw away his relation with Swara so callously Did someone had put him on gun point that NO... you have to married right now Did someone put him on gun point that NO... you have to married right now and he expects Swara to be still there waiting for him.But Swara have left that place long ago. And now he is running after her. So why do people think that he deserve second chance when he is doing nothing to earn it. And by the way, wasn't his first chance was earned too. Swara had initially refused to do anything with him but things then worked in their way and he got his chance which later on he had brutally thrown away on the face of Swara.So why do he deserve another chance??
The comparison given for this is that Sanskaar too got forgiveness and second chance. He got that because he earned it. He was also forgiven at first sorry of his. But after that too he repented for it. He could have easily shaken off this whole mess from his side but he didn't and helped Swara to fulfil her mission. Time and again after he offered his support, friendship and became shield for her and thus he earned forgiveness and second chance.
But did Laksh done so?? No, he just jumped on chance to get back Swara because he assumed everything is alright. And now is adamant to make Swara accept him even the girl told him NO numerous time. And amazingly the dimwit thinks that Swara is just playing coy with him to punish him. The most interesting argument given for this is Swara still loves Laksh. I suggest these people to watch recent episodes where she told him looking in his eyes that she does not love him. The counter argument given for this is she is just saying NO but her heart says YES... she is doing all this for Ragini. Actually, Swara is doing it for herself, Swara have time and again said she does not want Laksh back. Ragini may be a small part for it but bigger reason is that she can't trust Laksh with her heart again and right now he is just reinforcing her notion. And about NO on lips and YES in heart.. Its loads of crap. When girl says NO not once but numerous time it means NO.
Another argument that is going around is since SwaSan relationship was forced that means Swara can't move on. Also, Sanskaar forget Kavita so easily and fell for Swara. About Sanskaar falling for Swara... it wasn't too soon. Kavita was dead for 5 years before he even met Swara. It was Kavita's death that changed Sanskaar into that revengeful person. And it was Swara forgiveness and gentle nature that calmed down that fire of revenge. So what's wrong in falling for your saviour who once again gave you chance to live freely without your demons. Now SwaSan relationship being forced, Yes it was forced but it have everything that a good relationship should have. And if you watch recent SwaSan sargi segment by SBAS.. you will see that their bond is getting stronger.
SwaSan relationship have everything; trust, respect, care, commitment, knowledge and responsibility but one. The only thing is missing is attraction from Swara side. But slowly and steadily I think Swara is going to feel it for Sanskaar too just like he feels.
So do you think Just because it was first love of Swara and Laksh, it was their one true love? Does Laksh deserve the second chance? Should Swara move on or go back to the guy who broke her heart?
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