Beauty

Originally posted by: rimis

Agree with you completely on this.. but unfortunately the idea of beauty on television and otherwise seems far away from the ancient wisdom..and this is perhaps because the people making them have very little regard for it.

But what I m more worried about from these anonymous facebook and other posts (presumbably from young people) is how attached they become to a character that they cannot take any critic of a charater and further see no difference between real and reel and often feel the need to display their delusion and hate in public forum be it in asking silly childish question like who is "more" pretty than the other or personal remarks on the actors.. i am yet to understand what exactly promotes these kind of irrational behavior on the internet... hopefully not indian tv because i too watch it 🤔

Originally posted by: laila.zkhan

Insan janam se nahin, karam se bada hota hai. - This is probably the most overused but underrated line in Indian TV.

Ragini had been the sweetest, most beautiful character to me - her way of dressing; simple but elegant, her way of talking; calm and composed and her nervousness at the slightest hint of being the reason for someone's discomfort. That is what made her beautiful - trying her best to fit in, not by changing, but by being the way she is.

Spot on! Thats what defined ragini's beauty to me. her uncompromising and indiscriminate compassion, be it for a crazy boy with a knife or a woman she thought had killed her mother. but clearly thats not what the trp audience defined Ragini's beauty by. for them it was her milky complexion and "bholi" face.

Now, Ragini is unrecognisable, because similarly to her, Swara's beauty is also defined by her character rather than how she looks. Ragini has become unbearable because trying to be Swara is not her beauty...why? I don't know, but it just isn't.

Its because what she's imitating isn't Swara's beauty but her clothes and her style of speaking and walking and talking. its all style and no substance. its impossible to copy someone else's substance. on top of that ragini has lost her own substance, her usp, so it seems even worse.

One thing I liked about Janki, Ragini's mother, is that she recognised Shekhar and Sharmishta's love. She recognised that it wasn't about how Sharmishta dressed or looked that drew Shekhar in - that's why she was so accommodating about it.
Ragini needs to understand the same Janki did earlier and Sanskaar did recently.

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If Lakshya couldn't accept her the way she is then he doesn't deserve her (the old her). If a guy cannot evoke change in you for the better then he's not going to do much in life for you other than just spend it for the sake of it. All Lakshya's "love" did to her is colossal damage.

I don't know about deservedness, but i do know that Laksh definitely has done nothing awful enough to Ragini to justify whats happening right now and as we're all guessing will happen in the future- being tricked into marrying a cursed crazy person. as far as accepting her the way she was, she was fine the way she was, but not everyone needs to be into that or love her in the romantic sense just cause she was a wonderful person. as laksh had explained to her and to swara- ragini's great, just not what I'm looking for in life. theres nothing wrong with that. if every man was into the same kind of girl then many of us would never find a partner. there was no reason to have not accepted that. but what you've said about evoking change for the better is bang on. and laksh cannot and hasn't provoked change in ragini for the better. them together will mean stagnation, for both characters.

Di, this such an awesome post!! U have written out your thoughts very well... this particular post of urs has tapped a particular memory from my heart.

I have seen many people who tend to judge girls just because the girl is fair and beautiful and that's the main reason why products like fair and lovely is hit in our country. Unfortunately, parents are the main reason for the mindset of the kids, with which they grow and never ever change it. The society I have seen and was brought had 60% of people who would overlook a mistake if she/he looked good looking. it took a really long time for me to attain the maturity I have today and the self-confidence which I have gained. In process, I had my pride hurt due to various things which I think are totally idiotic now. This had happened in my school too. I was born and brought up in Chennai and I studied in a suburban school. As the people too conservative here, there is a rule in this school, which is boys and girls shouldn't speak with each other. Keeping this aside, boys and girls would speak behind the teacher's back. If at all a guy spoke with a girl she would be beautiful and fair. I was not someone, who was told that you look very beautiful, except my parents. It never affected me as I had many people around me who valued character more than beauty. When I was in my 11^th std, I had a crush on a guy who is my classmate. He had it all, he was a topper and according me he was too good looking. due to the conservative environment of the school I studied in, I never really even thought of saying it to him. After we finished school, I gave him a friend request in fb as I wanted to know abt him. It would sound funny, but he declined it. After that I browsed his profile and found girls from my class too. Then It striked me, he didn't even know that I studied with and hence he couldn't recognize my name and photo, even after studying together for 2 years, coz I was not that beautiful for him to remember. It really hurt my pride and ego. I deleted the request by myself afterwards because of my self-respect. It really affected my perspective to an extent that I don't want to see anyone from my school except for my close 4 friends. It was only in college, my total mindset changed about all these things and my maturity level and confidence level increased. But this memory still haunts me in some way. Seriously parents need to teach their kids" to judge a person only by their character and not by eternal beauty which can sometimes be deceptive .everyone are beautiful in their own unique way. Only people who are able to understand it will appreciate it". This is what I would teach my kid. This society seriously needs to change. I didn't think I would share these things in the forum, but di u have made me do so. And I want to thank u for that.⭐️

p.s: I think this is my first long post other than my ff ! It is scary to even me!!😆😆 And I seriously recommend u to start a blog.

Originally posted by: tejaswiniwenham

Its because what she's imitating isn't Swara's beauty but her clothes and her style of speaking and walking and talking. its all style and no substance. its impossible to copy someone else's substance. on top of that ragini has lost her own substance, her usp, so it seems even worse.

I don't know about deservedness, but i do know that Laksh definitely has done nothing awful enough to Ragini to justify whats happening right now and as we're all guessing will happen in the future- being tricked into marrying a cursed crazy person. as far as accepting her the way she was, she was fine the way she was, but not everyone needs to be into that or love her in the romantic sense just cause she was a wonderful person. as laksh had explained to her and to swara- ragini's great, just not what I'm looking for in life. theres nothing wrong with that. if every man was into the same kind of girl then many of us would never find a partner. there was no reason to have not accepted that. but what you've said about evoking change for the better is bang on. and laksh cannot and hasn't provoked change in ragini for the better. them together will mean stagnation, for both characters.