Beauty - Page 2

Originally posted by: jhanvibella

Di, this such an awesome post!! U have written out your thoughts very well... this particular post of urs has tapped a particular memory from my heart.

I have seen many people who tend to judge girls just because the girl is fair and beautiful and that's the main reason why products like fair and lovely is hit in our country. Unfortunately, parents are the main reason for the mindset of the kids, with which they grow and never ever change it. The society I have seen and was brought had 60% of people who would overlook a mistake if she/he looked good looking. it took a really long time for me to attain the maturity I have today and the self-confidence which I have gained. In process, I had my pride hurt due to various things which I think are totally idiotic now. This had happened in my school too. I was born and brought up in Chennai and I studied in a suburban school. As the people too conservative here, there is a rule in this school, which is boys and girls shouldn't speak with each other. Keeping this aside, boys and girls would speak behind the teacher's back. If at all a guy spoke with a girl she would be beautiful and fair. I was not someone, who was told that you look very beautiful, except my parents. It never affected me as I had many people around me who valued character more than beauty. When I was in my 11^th std, I had a crush on a guy who is my classmate. He had it all, he was a topper and according me he was too good looking. due to the conservative environment of the school I studied in, I never really even thought of saying it to him. After we finished school, I gave him a friend request in fb as I wanted to know abt him. It would sound funny, but he declined it. After that I browsed his profile and found girls from my class too. Then It striked me, he didn't even know that I studied with and hence he couldn't recognize my name and photo, even after studying together for 2 years, coz I was not that beautiful for him to remember. It really hurt my pride and ego. I deleted the request by myself afterwards because of my self-respect. It really affected my perspective to an extent that I don't want to see anyone from my school except for my close 4 friends. It was only in college, my total mindset changed about all these things and my maturity level and confidence level increased. But this memory still haunts me in some way. Seriously parents need to teach their kids" to judge a person only by their character and not by eternal beauty which can sometimes be deceptive .everyone are beautiful in their own unique way. Only people who are able to understand it will appreciate it". This is what I would teach my kid. This society seriously needs to change. I didn't think I would share these things in the forum, but di u have made me do so. And I want to thank u for that.⭐️

p.s: I think this is my first long post other than my ff ! It is scary to even me!!😆😆 And I seriously recommend u to start a blog.

I'd read this old joke eons ago:

A guy is checking out girls for marriage. He and his parents visit three families.

-The first family's daughter was industrious and a high-ranking officer in an MNC.

-The second one was a devoted social worker and was known for her empathy and compassion.

-The third one was a scientist who had recently made a life-altering medical discovery.

Who did the guy choose?

Socho...
Aur socho...




He chose..


THE BEST LOOKING ONE!

@teja and jhanvi- I'm glad that this post has opened up portals to self-reflection for us and not just for the characters. jhanvi my dear, this is exactly what I'm talking about. its stupid you clearly understand that as much as it is shallow of him to not be your friend based on his "standard of beauty", it is his prerogative. you have a sense of self-respect and thus you withdrew your request but that doesn't mean you will hate on the girls who he's friends with. you just wouldnt keep any relationship with him. if ragini had done the same and completely cut off laksh i'd have been fine, it would've been funny to see Laksh try get to Swara without Ragini's help. but you don't give drugs to the guy's girl friend or do black magic on them. like what?!? as i said, I've been very fortunate in the beauty department and in my unkind immature teen years, i did disregard many people's feelings as well, and if they'd all been ragini-esque in their crazy instead of like you i'd have been very dead. 😆 i did get to speak with one of them professionally and we've become quite close. and to think i could've had that friendship for years if i wasn't such a colossal bitch. thats something every bitch in your life will realize as well cos you will SHINE, you know why, cos it takes a a hard will to build your own confidence from scratch. but then i learnt my lesson not to rely on beauty the hard way and i suspect i taught them a lesson on focusing too much on outer beauty as well. 😆

All such 'jokes' aside, this mentality (of judging a woman's worth by her appearance) which has been fed and feted for years by the media, comes from the millenia-old entrenched view of considering women as a means of carrying forward the family Surname. Good-looking woman = Beautiful progeny. A woman had little other worth.

Skip to the present: Women have ventured into the outside world, but the regressive thought which has been mutated into our DNA down the ages, remains.

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

I'd read this old joke eons ago:

A guy is checking out girls for marriage. He and his parents visit three families.

-The first family's daughter was industrious and a high-ranking officer in an MNC.

-The second one was a devoted social worker and was known for her empathy and compassion.

-The third one was a scientist who had recently made a life-altering medical discovery.

Who did the guy choose?

Socho...
Aur socho...




He chose..


THE BEST LOOKING ONE!

The joke actually ended with the line, "Aakhir ladke to ladke hi honge na!"

Originally posted by: tejaswiniwenham

@teja and jhanvi- I'm glad that this post has opened up portals to self-reflection for us and not just for the characters. jhanvi my dear, this is exactly what I'm talking about. its stupid you clearly understand that as much as it is shallow of him to not be your friend based on his "standard of beauty", it is his prerogative. you have a sense of self-respect and thus you withdrew your request but that doesn't mean you will hate on the girls who he's friends with. you just wouldnt keep any relationship with him. if ragini had done the same and completely cut off laksh i'd have been fine, it would've been funny to see Laksh try get to Swara without Ragini's help. but you don't give drugs to the guy's girl friend or do black magic on them. like what?!? as i said, I've been very fortunate in the beauty department and in my unkind immature teen years, i did disregard many people's feelings as well, and if they'd all been ragini-esque in their crazy instead of like you i'd have been very dead. 😆 i did get to speak with one of them professionally and we've become quite close. and to think i could've had that friendship for years if i wasn't such a colossal bitch. thats something every bitch in your life will realize as well cos you will SHINE, you know why, cos it takes a a hard will to build your own confidence from scratch. but then i learnt my lesson not to rely on beauty the hard way and i suspect i taught them a lesson on focusing too much on outer beauty as well. 😆

teja my dear I'm proud to share my name with someone as awesome and lucid in their thinking as you! girl i get you, half white remember? lol i feel like my late aazuba would've given me a medal if 3 relationships were all he had to deal with. i was so bad that he didn't even mind that i was pissed drunk during my pheras...cos i was present for them. so i have been on the butt end of MANY cruel jokes and assumptions and about things i did do. but honestly, i don't regret a THING. cos i enjoyed it and i didn't harm anyone intentionally whilst doing it. and its a part of what makes me beautiful, makes me who i am, cos its my wealth of experience, its what makes me confident that i'll be an ok parent to all three of my children despite my age, its what makes me confident and makes my clients confident in me despite of my young age, its what has made me finally understand why things happened the way they did with my parents and its what makes me believe that shiv and i are forever, cos we love each other not only with our mistakes but with the maturity that comes from it. SO HATS OFF TO US REBELS AND WEIRDOS! FUDGE THOSE WHO CANT RECOGNIZE HOW PRETTY WE ARE INSIDE!

Edit: soon to be four children*

Originally posted by: -LovelyLakshmi-

Thank u for sharing this here, i really like IF..it opened me to many new opinions and thoughts from ppl from all over the world.and made me have more broad minded view. Whatever hppns and in whatever way ppl treat u and on whatever basis, never fee low abt urself. Always stand for urself. It is really nice tht u achieved self confidence. U r an inspiration to me. Beauty is something only ppl who truly love u see and admire u for what u truly are. You will surely meet the guy who admires u and respects u for what u truly are. In my opinion, this concept of beauty is human created. It is sure tht we instantly like few things like neat places, beautiful locations. But the truth is every person and objec has their/it's own beauty and charm, in their/it's own way. Not all r same and can't be same. It isn't all abt how u luk like bcoz not every one luk same..it is more abt ur character and the personality u shape. And tht bold line, i'll def. teach my child too along with few other things like respect for any gender, treating others equally, standing up for urself in tough situations wen u know ur way is right and many say it is wrong, follow ur heart, etc.

please write a blog... ur views are such that they should be read time and again...otherwise they will get lost in india-forum's pages...👏👏👏👏