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Posted: 10 years ago
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Atlast Jagya and Ganga have some interesting track. How kids become the cause of conflict in parents' life? Which is a very common thing faced by almost all couples.

A strict parent has to deal with a lenient one. And vice versa.

What Abhi needs is some space, some talk and some proper attention. Both his parents are working but they have lots of time to spend with the kid.

Jagya is making efforts to get close to his son but the son is not reciprocating easily.
Jagya is also making efforts to mend with Ganga and she is also not warming up.

I can understand Abhi's behaviour but Ganga? Ganga accepted Jagya with full heart and she should see that she needs to bridge the gap.

It is good that the action is taking place without the interference of dadisa and anandi.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Sharing one's space, time, attention (from loved ones) and financial liberty is not always easy especially if one has to share this with someone who is just a distant relative.

Most of the times we can share all the above with someone who is our own or part of inner circle; such as siblings, parents, grand parents or members of a joint family. Beyond those boundaries, people are usually not your own, when it comes to sharing.

Same is happening with Ganga and Abhi, right now. Anandi / shivam's presence has indirectly intruded in their space and for Jagya's attention.

Ganga may not be insecured or doubtful of J, but she does definitely want that she and her kids are J's no 1 priority. When J ends up giving that space to Shivam / Anandi, Ganga does not like it.

This is common in many households. Good track.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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The problems are between J and G and J and Abhi
Sharing time and space yes it becomes problem at times.
They may not doubt each other's integrity but still they don't seem to communicate well.
J trying to engage Abhi in a conversation when he clearly is not in a mood for it.Then why not take him out and play basket ball with him? What stopped from doing that?
Did Anandi and Shivam stop him from doing that?
Anandi and Shivam did not ask for space in their life nor did they ask for their time.Anandi and Shivam are quite happy in their own space where they have some gaps in life but learnt to cope with them.
May be it is Jagya who conceded space to Shivam out of his own considerations.
So blaming Anandi and Shivam for the problems in their own family is not really on.
We have seen Anandi Shiv and Amol handling lot more difficult people and also difficult circumstances like handling two pairs of parents but still not let those problems come in between them.The biggest problem they faced was when Anandi went out supported J but they were clear why each one has taken a different stand they didn't let that affect their own relationship.
Communication needs to be there one can't take wife and children to understand each and every action of yours.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: Missesha

Sharing one's space, time, attention (from loved ones) and financial liberty is not always easy especially if one has to share this with someone who is just a distant relative.


Most of the times we can share all the above with someone who is our own or part of inner circle; such as siblings, parents, grand parents or members of a joint family. Beyond those boundaries, people are usually not your own, when it comes to sharing.

Same is happening with Ganga and Abhi, right now. Anandi / shivam's presence has indirectly intruded in their space and for Jagya's attention.

Ganga may not be insecured or doubtful of J, but she does definitely want that she and her kids are J's no 1 priority. When J ends up giving that space to Shivam / Anandi, Ganga does not like it.

This is common in many households. Good track.



It is not due to anandi's and shivam's presence only.

The problem would have cropped up even without them.

Blaming anandi and her son is not fair here.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Sometime back there was comparison between DB's stay at Shekhars and Anandi's stay at Singhs.
If we have to compare the situations - Daddu wanted DB with him and be part of his life and DB made everyone else's life specially Anandi and Amol's life miserable.
How did Anandi Shiv handle DB? They made sure that this lady did not affect their lives in any way .How did that happen? Only because Anandi and Shiv are on the same page and they communicated well.It's not like Anandi and Shiv are less busy then the current couple.
Third person and difficult situations don't by themselves cause rift.They only enter when there is a pre existing gap and widen the already existing gap. Anybody who is married will know that.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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It is laughable that only close relatives can live in harmony. I have seen where grandparents who get blamed for causing rift in nuclear families and they are either shunted away or put in oldage homes.

After getting rid of them too, the couples restart fighting over kids, over money and over other things.
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One situation has led to another.

Anandi / Shivam's presence is not the only cause, but it is definitely a cause. The other cause is communication gap between J G and Abhi. And probably the third cause which has not been highlighted very clearly in the show yet is comparison of Ganga /Abhi vis-a-vis Anandi / Shivam, where the latter stands out to be better or more preferred.

From yesterday's episode, it felt that Abhi was always faulted and Shivam was always excused by all.

Also Ganga's dialogue that 'this is happening saalon se' reflects that many things have hurt her in the past too but she managed to overlook.

Again, it is not like Anandi and Shivam are deliberately causing problems. They are not. But their presence cannot be ignored by anyone.

For example - the holi scene. J put colours on A, because she was standing right next to DS. He could not have just ignored her as that would be rude, but that means Ganga had to face disappointment because she was the not the first woman to be coloured by her hubby. She was hurt because she got a second priority.

Later she was only happy when her hubby made special efforts to make her feel special.

Similar things would have happened in past too, but every time hubby cannot make special efforts to undo something, and that widens the gap.

These kind of insecurities and disputes have also been seen other well-established couples like Bhairon-Sumitra and Shyam -Sugna, despite all their communication and faith on each other.

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That's my opinion and others can have theirs, however it would be nice if forum members did not lecture other forum members (in bold fonts) on what married life means. We are just analysing the characters and their behaviour, we are not here discussing our individual married lives and ways to handle it.


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Well comparison between Ganga and Anandi have been going on in the Singh household from the time Ganga entered that house and it is nothing new.It never bothered her before infact she was only too happy when they told her she is like Anandi.

It is how people perceive situations -Why did Anandi Shivam become a problem between them?
It is simply because they allowed it to come up between them - Neither Anandi nor Shivam did anything to enter their psyche .Ganga and Abhi let them into their head.
For that matter even Mannu is not J's son but he gets equal love and affection from J and the rest of the Singhs.
So why should Shivam getting love and attention should be a problem for Ganga? Abhi is a child but why should that be a problem for Ganga.
If Ganga is insecure it is because J made her insecure and she doesn't have enough trust in her husband and If J is seen giving priority to Shivam it is his own way of handling things that created this impression.
If it had not been Anandi and Shivam it would be something else or some one else simply because the foundation is weak
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Tomorrow by starnge twist of circumstances Gauri ends up being chief cardiologist in Jaitser hospital and since she is alone all thanks to him if he pays attention to her try to make her feel comfortable and gives her more time and space - then who will be causing problem? Gauri or Jagya?
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Posted: 10 years ago
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This can actually be a good track even though some amount of twisting the characters is done by CVs. The problem is mainly between jagya, ganga and abhi. Seemingly more partial treatment to shivam by jagya might have been a trigger. If only CVs would let the resolution of the problem too by people in question and not drag others like DS or anandi in the actual resolution of this issue.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Obviously Anandi will be dragged into this issue simply because they are portrayed as the villains just by staying there with them.
Even people in the forum do seem to think that Anandi and Shivam precipitated the problem so how else will it be solved without Anandi??😛
After all Anandi doesn't like it if anybody shows unnecessary lenience towards her son.She was strcit with Amol too and she would tick off Shiv at times for being lenient with Amol
So she definitely won't like this unwarranted kindness coming from Jagya towards her kid.
I so hope Anandi and Shivam move out of this and move into Shiv Niketan which feels more like the home Anandi made for herself.Dsa can move out with them too if she wishes to stay by Anandi.

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