Originally posted by: JAfanCharu
Radhika, you seem to be really upset with the turn of events in today's episode.
Yesterday's pre-cap indicated the return of the 'jallad' Jalal . With this change in him , I was actually anticipating some tension between him and Jodha to surface , but I did not expect it to prolong for three years . ( I am hoping that this is wrong ) Anyway that is a part of Natakiya Roopantar and I let it be.I have a different take on Jalal's behavior .This is purely my opinion , nobody has to agree with it.Charu, refer to the lines in bold below. Actually I had expressed exactly similar sentiments, as you have done here, in my response to Gem on the previous page. Pls take a look. 😊I do understand your POV and I do share it too. It's just that my POV goes a bit further to the next logical level - that is, how Jalal's behavior is unacceptable and is hurtful to Jodha. Pls see this. 😊Very often sudden , intense grief can manifest itself into guilt and anger . This anger is often directed towards the person emotionally closest and most loved by the victim , In this case the victim is Jalal and the person whom he loves the most and is closest to , is Jodha.Jalal is not angry with Jodha . He is angry with himself . The intense anger is caused by the guilt that stems from thinking that he was unable to be a responsible parent and provide a secure environment for the babies within the mahal, the mahal that is in his control .( We should recall how he helplessly yelled 'yeh mahal hamara hai' while the search for Zeenat and Mirza was on ).This guilt also stems from the realization that he was also equally responsible for Jodha staying away from Hussein on that fateful night . Every time he sees Jodha he is reminded of the twins that were a symbol of their union, every time he sees Jodha he feels that he has let her down as a husband . He is unable to face her , hence has isolated himself from her .The anger that has enveloped him is flawing him in every possible way . Considering his personality , this is actually a good thing , because bottling up all that anger will only hold the guilt and grief within .By allowing that anger to flow , he is releasing all the pent up sorrow , helplessness and guilt that is tearing him apart . This release will bring him the clarity of thought that his mind desperately needs.Definitely, anger should be released. But a mature man and Shahenshah of Hindustan is not an ordinary man to behave like one. He has to rise above ordinariness and release his anger through a proper channel. If Jalal goes to war and fights his enemies ruthlessly in this state of anger, I can understand. And even support him. When he was mutilating the body of a dead Qasim (another NR), I didn't mind that because that kind of release of anger for a warrior is understandable, even if not acceptable to us today. But releasing anger against a halpess woman who is herself devastated is a STRICT NO in my view. Just because we are close to someone, we cannot release our pent up emotions on them. In this 21st century, which husband or wife will accept quietly if the spouse releases their pent up emotions like this, just because the husband / wife is the one they are emotionally closest to?There is a reason that the Creatives are showing the Chittoor war .The gory sight of the aftermath of the war will make him realize that by making the decision of going to war in anger and being indirectly responsible for all the innocent lives lost in battle , will not bring his dead babies back . Jodha's words of advice to him , prior to leaving for battle will haunt him and force him to rethink about his senseless brutality .I will not discuss this war here, considering that will become a historical discussion then. But I agree with Abhay that the Chittor war is a sensitive subject in our history and should be treated with respect. AKbar had different reasons for that war and this NR is very hurtful to those for whom Chittor is still very personal.His deep love for Jodha was amply clear from the quick but intense look of concern he shot at her , while marching down the mahal with Maan Singh in tow . The fact that he loves her was also visible when he insisted on her performing the tilak pooja , prior to his leaving for war . We heard him roaring at Rukaiya when she offered to stand-in for a hesitant Jodha .There are 2 interpretations here why he insisted Jodha should do the tilak puja. You have presented one view. And I agree it may be so. But in my view, this tilak puja reminded me of the tilak puja last year when Jalal was going to fight against the to-be in-laws of Sukanya. The also, he had insisted that only Jodha should do the puja because he knew that she was against the war and he wanted to humiliate her by forcing her to pray for his victory against her people. I felt that he was similarly trying to humiliate Jodha yesterday by forcing her to pray for his success against her people when he knew that she was against the war.If he really loved her, he wouldn't accuse her of what he did. Emotional withdrawal and separation in the aftermath of great grief is one thing. But to stoop to the level of humiliating a person who is emotionally dependent on you and is at her most vulnerable at that moment is another thing. I cannot see love here, only aggression and abuse. Anyway, this war NR is also too much. Akbar, in my opinion, never had a moment of epiphany like Ashoka, after any war.There is immense love hidden behind that intense guilt ridden anger , pain and blame game . It is the influence of that very same guilt which is causing his self disgust , that will enable him to heal too ."The course of true love never did run smooth". ( Shakespeare )This temporary separation will prove to be bitter sweet .Jodha's love for him and vice versa will outweigh the guilt and anger that is eating him up .Their love for each other and the shared love for their babies , will help them heal from their grief . Jodha's mature level headed thinking will play a major role in bringing about a calming effect in him . She sees his pain and is allowing him to vent his sorrow , guilt and anger .Never once did we see her questioning his rude behavior towards her . She knows that in his present state , reacting to his behavior will only worsen the situation .Her quiet understanding is sustaining their relationship . She understands his imperfections , loves him in spite of them .She is silently suffering along with him . She is his 'ardhangini' in the truest sense .Instead of becoming disheartened , we have to remember that this is a story of a kind but strong willed Rajput Princess who completely changed a jallad Jalal into a kind hearted and benevolent ruler whom we love even to this day . They were royalty but humans too . No relationship is perfect ."A REAL relationship has fights , trusts , faith , tears , pain , arguments , separation, patience, jealousy and above all LOVE ".It is this love that will enable them to overcome their guilt and sorrows and heal together.(I am not endorsing Jalal's behavior . I am only trying to understand his state of mind and sharing my point of view ).
Thanks Charu for presenting Jalal's POV so lucidly. 😊 It's always good to have all possible POVs on the table so that all of us can benefit from the discussion.I hope you will take my views too positively, as I have taken yours. 😊Personally, Charu, I always empathize with women more than men. May be because men anyway have a lot of support. 😆I had a different take earlier on how JJ will come closer together and help each other heal after the twins' demise. This NR is not what I expected. Jodha was his ardhangini, true. But he should also have been her equal partner. Jodha has no choice but to put up with his behavior because she has nowhere to go. I haven't been able to sense that Jodha is understanding his pain and keeping quiet to let him heal. Because after that accusation, she was really shattered. I have also failed to see any love behind his pain and anger. Doubtless, love is there, but it's suppressed deep down in the recesses of his heart, is what I feel. Right now, he is only seething and wants to burst out like a volcano. Jodha, due to the unfortunate detail of being present with him that fateful night, is having to face the brunt of his self-anger and self-loathing.He will repent and return to her. And so the pattern will repeat, ad nauseum. Something happens. Jalal is angry. He hits out at Jodha because he is closest to her. She suffers silently. He repents. He apologizes. They get back together. Everyone says "poor Jalal, why does Jodha have to be made mahan every time" and so the story goes on. I thought I had seen the last of this steretyped formula but apparently, the CVs still love it and will continue to repeat it in future tracks too. 🤢
I am consoling myself by telling myself that this is not how Akbar treated MUZ. He was a ruthless king but a good husband. 😕Charu .