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RadhikaS0

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Posted: 10 years ago

Full many a gem of purest ray serene,

The dark unfathomed caves of ocean bear:

Full many a flower is born to blush unseen,

And waste its sweetness on the desert air.

Today, the entire episode was dedicated to little Hasan, who lived for barely a few days but what memories he left behind! Oh! how many broken hearts and tear-stained faces did he leave behind without a backward glance.

Did he not miss his mother's gentle caress as she hugged him to her bosom and sang sweet lullabies?

Did he not miss his father's strong hands that promised to protect him in their embrace forever?

Did he not miss his brother who had been snatched from him but who still remembered Hasan with every breath he took?

It was painful to watch Jodha and Jalal today. There are no words that can describe what they felt, what they went through, how they embraced each other through the night, struggling to come to terms with a loss whose magnitude cannot be measured or understood by anyone else.

Coping with loss is a deeply personal experience. Nobody can help one go through it more easily or understand all the emotions that one is going through. But others can help comfort one through this process. The best thing we can do is to allow ourselves to feel the grief as it comes over us. Resisting it only prolongs the natural process of healing.

Jodha especially went through so many different stages of grief today, as she tried to come to terms with the reality that Hasan was no more a part of her life.

She tried hard to deny that Hasan had gone away. She tried to convince a broken Jalal that their Hasan was alright, that he would soon wake up upon hearing her voice. This was her mind trying to rationalize overwhelming emotions and to protect her from the immediate shock. Almost all of us go through this stage of denial, to tide through the first wave of pain.

As Man Singh took away the baby for final rites, she and Jalal remained, holding on to each other, as if afraid that if they let go, the other would disappear too. They spent the long, dark night remembering Hasan, trying to understand what had happened and why, if they could have prevented it, why God had punished them for being good, how God could have spared the child and taken them instead, and how they now had only each other to live for and how they had to live on for each other.

Sadness and regret predominated the mood. Jodha kept wondering why God had not taken her instead of Hasan. Jalal was stricken with guilt that despite being the Shahenshah, he could not save his own child. The grief and depression they exhibited was subtle and private. It was their way of quietly preparing to bid Hasan farewell. No one could have consoled them at this time. Except each other. It was so heart-breaking to watch them cradled together in a helpless, - sometimes raging, sometimes sad - despair, trying to find and offer succor, even as their hearts and minds seemed ready to collapse.

Jalal was magnificent, as the man struggling to control his own bursting grief, so that he could protect and console Jodha, who had completely melted. This was a strong man, if ever there was one. Not the one who fought tigers bare-handed or waged war on enemies. But this one who could subdue his own tormenting soul so that he could soothe the broken soul of his beloved. If only I had done this...If only this had happened...If only ...There was no end to these Ifs...

Jodha and Jalal, who had always been so strong, so independent, so much in control of their lives, were today unashamedly lost and drifting in the seas of helplessness and vulnerability. They tried hard to regain control of the situation by thinking of ways in which they could have prevented the tragedy from occurring.

Towards the end of the episode, Jodha's tumultuous feelings gave way to anger, as the masking effects of denial began to wear and reality re-emerged. She was not yet ready to accept the ultimate truth. And so the intense emotions swirling within her deflected from her vulnerable soul and expressed themselves instead as anger directed towards her beloved Kanha. In her heart, she knew that Kanha could not go against Destiny. Emotionally, however, she felt resentful with Kanha for causing her pain by taking away the light in her life. Ironically, this is a vicious cycle Jodha is caught in. The more Jodha stays away from Kanha, the more guilty she will feel, which would make her more angry.

One day, both Jodha and Jalal will have to accept the inevitable. Of course, it is a difficult journey fraught with emotional pitholes. Hasan's demise was so sudden and unexpected, that Jodha may continue to live in denial or anger against God for ever. But I hope that Jalal will be able to accept and help Jodha accept the truth. This is crucial for their peace of mind.

The days ahead are far from being happy ones. But I wish to see JJ at most withdrawn and calm rather than depressed or angry still. I wish to see them remember Hasan ultimately with fondness as God's gift to them, if only for a few days.

@All: Remember, grieving is a personal process that has no time limit, nor one "right" way to do it. Please do not judge how JJ grieved or should have grieved.

Precap:

Jodha has apparently nursed Hussein and is rocking him in her arms to make him sleep. Ruq is hovering around like a stricken hen and ultimately almost snatches Hussein from Jodha's arms and puts him in his cradle. Jodha is stunned at Hussein being taken away. Salima Begum is looking on in helpless silence.

Has Jalal managed to convince Ruq to share Hussein with Jodha?

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Posted: 10 years ago

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Radhika,

This post of yours is a masterpiece. I do not possess the audacity to match your words.
Absolutely Phenomenal Performance by the Leads.!!!.
What an Episode it was.. I would recommend to all the friends here, watch the episode..

Tell me what was Missing.?. >>

Memories
Broken hearts
Tear-stained faces
Grief
Sadness
Regret
Guilt
Depression
Heart-Break
Rage
Sadness
Despair
Collapse
Console
Lost
Drifting
Helplessness
Vulnerability
Anger
Resent
Fraught
Denial
And what not.?.

Watch it NOT ONLY for RT and PS..

Today watch the episode for Jodha Akbar.
Amidst all the NR which we are fed up of, i am pretty sure, the scenes we saw today must have been replicated in the Fort of Agra .!!!

Didn't we all feel a Tsunami of Humanistic Feelings.?.
Didn't we all get all those emotionS one could think of, in such a setting.?.

" The rush of arrows and the clash of swords,
Tore the marrow of elephants and the entrails of tigers. "

^^^^^^ These lines "be-jewel" the capability of Shahenshah-e-Hind Jalal-ud-din Mohammed Akbar...Can we think of the man who had the ENTIRE Hindustan at HIS Feet, but was helpless.?. The Man who Proclaimed that he can write(and he DID) the destiny with HIS Sword, was a spectator before the Decree of God..!!!.

Coming to Jodha. She was so much broken today, that she even said, why God took Hasan and why not her.?. I can not think of better lines by Ghalib , to describe this moment :>

Urdu

Koi ummid bar nahin aati
Koi surat nazar nahin aati

Maut ka ek din mu'ayyana hai
Nind kyon raat bhar nahin aati

Aage aati thi hal-e-dil pe hansi
Ab kisi baat par nahin aati

Jaanata hun savab-e-ta'at-o-zahad
Par tabiyat idhar nahin aati

Hai kuch aisi hi bat jo chup hun
Varna kya baat kar nahin aati

Kyon na chikhun ki yad karate hain
Merii aavaaz gar nahin aati

Daag-e-dilagarnazar nahin aata
Bu bhi ai chaaraagar nahin aati

Ham vahan hain jahan se ham ko bhi
Kuch hamari Khabar nahin aati

Marte hain aarazuu mein marne ki
Maut aati hai par nahin aati

English Translation

I am left with no hope at all,
No possibility to reach my goal,

The Day of my death is fixed,
I can not sleep all night.

Then, the state(s) of my heart which used to make me laugh
Now it (laughter) doesn't come for anything.

Though I know the reward of obedience and worship,
But I have no tendency for it.

I am silent for a certain reason,
Otherwise I can convince you with my words,

Why I shouldn't cry,
For when I don't, she asks about me,

My heart is burning, though you cannot see the spot,
But O my doctor, can't you smell my heart burn?

I have reached to a certain state,
From where even I cannot find myself.

I am dying (Waiting anxiously) for my death,
I don't know where my death has gone.

Can we imagine the plight of Akbar - HK.?.
How it feels for a father to carry his "ANSH" {as Jodha says it}, to the graveyard.?.
The face of Jodha and Akbar displayed a 1000 shades today, each more subtle than the other.

Only people who are capable of loving strongly can suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them. Today Jalal was playing the same role for Jodha. Having said this, i also want to add that, the grief always remains there.. It has been said time heals all wounds. I differ a bit here.. The wounds remain. In time, the mind protecting it's sanity covers them and the pain lessens, but it's never gone."

"Agar kuch hota hai to woh yeh ki, Waqt ke saath us dukh ki "Kashish" "kam" ho jaati hai, par wo "kashish" kabhi "khatm" nahi hoti, woh kayamat tak aapke saath rehti hai.". We can wipe the tears from our eyes, but we can not wipe the pain from our heart.

I admit that i do not shed tears easily, but this episode brought me "almost on the verge" of shedding them. The scene looked so original. It was "saddingly ethereal" . I agree with you that neither can we compare the grief of the parents nor can we say who suffered more..When your fear touches someone's pain, it becomes pity, when your love touches someone's pain, it become compassion..

Did we notice this today.?. Did we notice Jalal's Love being converting into compassion for Jodha. He was very much present with her so that she no longer wrestles with the grief, but could sit down with it as a lasting companion(Jalal) and make it a sharer in her thoughts.

They say that the darkest night produces the brightest stars. In my view, the story becomes EPIC by such poignant display of emotions. I have heard that even a hundredfold grief is divisible by love.

Your partner complements you. While Jodha was with Jalal as his pillar, after he was broken hearing MA's crude words to THEIR unborn sons. Today, it was Jalal who played the same role for Jodha. Tears shed for someone are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart. Jalal and Jodha BOTH have went through the phase.

What can i say about Jalal. The "MAN" in him was very much present there, as a shield for Jodha. Apart from this i would request all not to judge the bereaved mother today. She lost the most beautiful thing she could keep in her heart.

NOW,

She is breathing, but she is dying.
She may look young, but inside she has turned old.
She may smile, but her heart sobs.
She may walk, may talk, may work. She is, but she is not, all at once.
She is here, but part of her is elsewhere for 'eternity' ."

RIP -||- Akbar and Harka Bai..

You both were NOT supposed to meet, but you MET..And, You scripted the "UNscriptable script"...!!!..!!!...I can't ADD more here.!. TODAY, I feel short of words..

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RadhikaS0

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: history_geek
Res...

This post of yours is a masterpiece.. :))

Will post my thoughts soon...
Logged in just now...My Net is troubling me.

Thanks 😊

Looking fwd to your views...

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Rutuja Deo

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Posted: 10 years ago

beautiful post Radhika...

each n every thing u described wonderfully...

miss u lil baby Hassan...

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Sindhu Menon

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Posted: 10 years ago

Take a bow to your writing Radhika. Maddy's post convinced me to finally watch the episode and I am still heartbroken.I hope this week just goes by as I feel very gloomy.

It was an awesome Episode with breathtaking performance by Pardihi and Rajat as Grieving parents at the death of their child. I just cried with them. A part of them died with Hassan's death as children are always a symbol of your future and they just lost all their hopes and dreams. Sudden death of your child is severe and agonizing, yet Jalal regained his strength and was today Jodha's pillar of strength.It was saddening to watch Jodha question her Kana.

Precap was irritating. My only hope is that all this is not dragged to next week and we are tortured. I do hope Zeenat is caught and punished. It will be very depressing to see them escaping. At this Point I am not even thinking about Ruks as to me she does not exist at all so it does not matter if she is shown or not. I have learned to zone her out. One thing I am sure Ruks will learn it the hard way like Mamanga.

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Neetz

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Posted: 10 years ago

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Hey

Lovely post. You have put across everything very very beautifully. You write so well. :)

Will post in detail in a while.

The episode today was excellence redefined.

Btw, what do I call you? considering the fact that you're elder to me ,something I didn't know before.

P.S. I am so very sorry I couldn't reply back on your previous thread. I typed in a detailed reply but as soon as I hit send I got a spam alert. but I agree with each and everything you mentioned. Even I am not going with the swap theory because if that had happened Jodha and Ruks would have realized it na.

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Hey,

Now, how do I even start? I am at a loss of words today. I doubt whatever I am going to write now will do justice to the magic we got to witness on our screens. Both Rajat and Paridhi gave powerhouse performances today. It was a treat to watch them. I applaud them for it. I cried with them and I am sure many would have too.

As Abhay mentioned in his post that there was every emotion that should have been there. It was all very subtle. Nothing OTT. Probably that is what touched the viewers so.

It was heart wrenching to watch Jo and Ja in so much pain. Seeing them so I couldn't help thinking about real Akbar and HK. I can't even begin to imagine what they must have gone through losing their kids again and again. And it's amazing to see how they withstood the test of times with their love and support for each other and also their faith in the Almighty. They emerged out of it stronger than ever before. The way Jalal was holding on to Jodha it seemed as if he was drawing strength from her to be able to give her the support that she needed then. He himself was a grieving father but I was amazed to see how he was keeping his emotions in check and not allowing himself to succumb to them because in that moment he had to be his wife's shield. His face was a carbon copy of the despair on Jodha's face. He was absorbing all her pain and that was reflected on his face. In a way he was carrying double the burden of pain- that of losing his precious son and watching his beloved wife in such a state,In so much pain. It's one thing to bear your own pain but it's far more difficult to watch the one you love and care for the most breaking into pieces. And to stay strong and poised in such a situation is the hardest thing to do but Jalal did it. For Jodha. That's why Jalal stood out for me here. Rajat nailed it so perfectly.

Jodha as a mother who had just lost her son, a part of her, was sensational. Her cries of pain were blood curdling to say the least. For Paridhi I have no words to say. She was pure magic. Jodha in her desperation begged her husband to get her child back and she would never ask for anything ever again, her slapping herself hoping that it was all a nightmare and when she will wake up all will be well was very painful to watch.The moment she said she wishes to die and why hadn't she died in place of Hassan or why the curse had been for her child and not for her was very powerful. Her begging Jalal to take her along for Hassan's final rites was a sight to behold. Paridhi was brilliant in every scene so was Rajat. The simple yet sincere answer Jalal gave her was soothing in a way. He told her he was her reason to live and if she won't be there, his life would have no meaning so he would rather die with her as well. He made her understand that they had to live for each other and with each other. I couldn't help but notice the slight change in Jodha's expressions there. She knew she had her husband in whose arms she could find solace. And will always have. Here I would like to say that I really wish to see Jodha giving the same support to Jalal as he is giving her now. He will need to let go of his pent up emotions for his own sanity and only Jodha will be able to get through to him like he was the only one who could console her.Till now he has bottled everything inside him so that Jodha can come to terms with the reality, showering her with all his love and care. She has been openly grieving and he is doing so silently within himself-that's the only difference at the moment. He will need her as much as she needs him. They are in this together as well. It's a shared loss.

Amidst all of this I cannot forget the baby who lost his life so soon. It's painful for parents to watch their child die and none can understand that pain other the one who has to bear it. Hassan was here for such a short time but left behind innumerable memories. He will soon be followed by his twin brother Hussein and I don't know how I will be able to take in grief of this magnitude. Jodha and Jalal are already broken. How will they take it when Hussein leaves them too? God bless the babies who have played the part of Hassan and Hussein resp.

I have said enough now. I would once again like to say that Rajat and Paridhi were superlative in their performances. It was difficult to tell the difference between their acting and reality. It was that real to me. They made me cry with them. Must have been difficult to maintain the consistency in the acting without getting melodramatic They maintained that level of emotions beautifully.. We had such poignant moments in the episode that I cannot describe the way I saw them and how they made me feel. It was SPECTACULAR indeed!!!

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ILTHBEB

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Posted: 10 years ago

Radhika wonderful post.
I know how much i try to feel the agony,anguish, trauma of parents JJ for losing their flesh n blood,i won't ever reach the zenith of these all with my feelings b/c only one parent can understand properly the agony of another parent. I can only sound sigh, alas or fall little tears not more than these! The painful hole has been created in JJ's heart today as parents, the deepth of this hole is beyond of my understanding. Today's epi was overwhelmly heart wrenching. One side, Jodha had been crumbled down into pieces n another side Jalal had to control his own emotions again n again before Jodha for giving solace to Jodha so as to Jo didn't break down more to see his inner turmoil.
Previous in many posts i have already said this is the only track where Jo won't ever stand to b pillar of Jalal rather jalal has to b the rescuer of Jo bringing out frm trauma b/c she herself won't remain stable to lose her kid where as an offspring has always attached with mother slightly more than father may b the fact is almost 9 months pregnancy's time span of a mother has been already created a heavenly strong relationship b/w mother n her womb's kid which is genuinely unbreakable ever n its strenght can't describe using words its like that before getting the taste of universe's light,air a progeny 1st feel the entity of its mother staying in her womb.(it totally my personal view) Today paridhi justified quite to show a mother's terribly helplessness losing her child n rajat portrayed skillfully a rescuer husband Jalal who was impeccable to bring out his wife Jodha frm deep trauma(hope it wl remain continue)
1 matter i have liked that today cvs didn't show ruq consoled jo b/c its looked ruq as mentally disorder when cvs show ruq's fake gud behavior with jo that she did after mirchi war,after atifa track as its not real ruq.

Edited by ILTHBEB - 10 years ago