Nabiii
Answering both your posts here. Sorry!
I agree totally with what you mentioned in your first comment.
Regarding the bond between a mother and child (esp first child): I cannot explain it in words but the relationship is kind of like a private world where no one, not even the father, has entry. When this world is formed is hard to say. It is not necessarily when the child is still in the womb. At that time, there is a superficial kind of joy and anticipation but we are not really ready for the transformation in our feelings and our ability to love, protect and nurture another being until we hold the baby and caress it, feed it, bathe it, hear it coo, watch the first smile on its face,...The sheer helplessness of a baby, its total dependence on us, its aura of divine innocence, its cherubic face, mischievous eyes, gurgling laughter, I can't say what it is, but slowly without realising it, the cocoon around the mother and child is completed.
It is hard to say who is dependent on whom in this symbiotic relationship. Very often, the mother, a nurturer in the eyes of the world, becomes emotionally so dependent on the child that she cannot bear to see the child getting closer to anyone else. It's not jealousy but a deep insecurity of losing the one we hold most precious to us.
In her wildest nightmares, Jodha may never have imagined the sudden breaking of her private world and the unexpected loss of the sun within that world. When the sun itself is lost, how can the mother whose world revolved around that sun remain alive?
Jalal's grief is as real as it can be. I am deeply touched by his conscious effort to present a strong, purposeful front in front of Jodha and being with her every moment to share her grief and help her cope. It is a mute testimony to their eternal love.
At the same time, I would say that somewhere Jodha, the mother, has lost more than a child. More than her hopes for the future, her dreams, her aspirations. She has lost the center of her universe, her purpose to live, her very life.
Do you remember how Jodha had become when she was in Amer in the separation track, away from Jalal? She was a walking zombie. Hasan is much more than even Jalal in some ways because he is not a separate person to her, he is a part of her, the core of her existence. Jodha had recovered on her own in the separation track because her soul was still alive then. But now when her soul has left her, she cannot recover on her own. She needs Jalal to find and bring back her soul from the desolate stretches of the graveyard where Hasan is now reposing.
Regarding Ruqaiyya's downfall: I also feel that Ruq does not need to do anything nasty. All these days, she was goodness personified (real or put on ?). And I had lost hopes of seeing her being punished. Today she is returning to the Ruq we know. I feel if she continues like this, Jalal will become disgusted with her and grow totally emotionally distant from her.
This time, he will not let Ruq go so easily because he cannot bear to see Jodha breaking down in front of him.
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