Right- So, Mala? - Page 7

@NapsterMonster! Napster, I don't have words to THANK YOU, my vocabulary , my dictionary everything FAILS to find appropriate words to THANK YOU enough. I had tears in my eyes as I was reading your post. You have explained it so beautifully...who else ...other than YOU could do it ? NO ONE , I mean NO ONE...I went off to sleep after writing & when I woke up,the first thought that was on me was," I wonder if Napster would have read my comment or replied " & I ran for my IPad . You can imagine my happiness when I saw your response & was overwehlemed with your insight. You have cleared all my doubts ( which were PLENTY ) regarding Parvati . I used to always feel that for her everyone else is first & Rudra is ALWAYS second...now I reaslise how WRONG I was...Thank you once again for clearing my misgivings & understanding Parvsti's love. NOW, I will REALLY REALLY enjoy the show. Please take a BOW.

Originally posted by: napstermonster

Madam ji, Bengali hu--Dhaka, Bangladesh se! No Lit Professor here,( I wish! someday!) but I am a teacher, if that helps! Hugely junior, and working on my Masters. And for us Rangrasiyans, with our dedication to Bhaisa and Bhabisa's love life, its like they are family/neighbors, right? Mala Aunty pados ki woh scandal filled aunty hi toh hai -- ab hum yeh bhi jan gaya hu --- Uncle bhi thoda kameena nikli! Chai ki dukhan pein biscuit ki sath iss tara ka discussion/gossip session toh hoga !

AND...I've proved I have no grasp of Hindi.

Originally posted by: curledup

Right, so yeah,

I have taken a break from typing up my whatever-the-word-count-on-this-essay-is to write this because I for one am extremely frustrated. Also the amount of times I've typed a post like this and chosen not to upload is ridiculous. BEFORE I begin, I just want to say I'm not character bashing guys. I love every character (esp Mohini) in this show.

Now *holds hand* please for the love of everything that is holy don't shut your senses off to what I'm about to say, it's really frustrating when people write something and the audience interprets it as something else. (It's one of the reasons why authors hate people over-analysing work because the analysis misses the vital point)

I don't know whether anyone has picked up on this, or maybe y'all are just as sympathetic with Mala as the next character is on the show but why has everyone (besides Mohini, Sumer and Rudra) happily accepted her into the family? I cannot get my head around this.

Yes she has tried to explain herself to Rudra, but please, why the hell is he going to listen? For her (thanks to Dilsher) she is the evil mother who ran away with her lover friend.

And secondly, why the didly-in-squatting-hell (because squats are exercises from hell) has Dilsher not explained himself to Rudra? Technically he is all to blame here whether he did atyachaar on Mala or not, he has created this poisonous being called Rudra, fed him every bloody trust issue under the sun and yaha Dilsher-Banna is too busy running after his ex-wife?

I cannot understand this need to pity Mala man, she's human, she left for a reason, she got married to another dude, she needs to explain (and then everyone needs to understand) that she wasn't chained to Dilsher she was entitled to leave if he was being horrid to her, and then she got married. And then somehow (life is a circle folks) she came back into the Ranawat haveli and life is all sugar and candy for her, but Rudra? If anything she and Dilsher need to explain herself to Rudra, need to try and make him listen and understand.

I'm all for trusting the CV's and what have you but nah mate, when Rudra got slapped my heart broke. His father is to some crazy extent a role model, he has supposedly (all in Rudra's world of course) battled the loss of a run-away-wife, worked his limping leg and managed to maintain his dignity and then for him to be slapped by someone he holds so highly in some part of his brain? Nuh-uh Gauti.

Okay- my rant didn't make sense but for the life of me I couldn't type another word of my essay without getting this out there.

P.S: am I over-sympathising with Rudra? Nope.

P.P.S: I am not character bashing

P.P.P.S: I've watched Friday's episode a million times, needless to say I love Rudra. (Never fan-gurled so much in my life.)

Also guys if you're going to be negative and call me a crazy woman please just allow it. I open the floor for some constructive dialogue between myself and you guys.

Au contraire! Your rant makes COMPLETE sense to me! 👏

I do not understand Rudra's family at all!

- Mala left home 15 years ago when Dilsher threw her out - understood. But Mala made no attempt to come back and see her son the next morning or for a whole month after that? I do not understand.

- Dilsher left home a month after Mala did. I understand - he probably wanted to get away from the place that held a lot of his ex-wife's memories. But Dilsher broke off all contact with his brother that he really seems to love? I do not understand.

- Danveer had no idea why his bhabhi left in the middle of the night without telling anybody. i kinda understand - he probably didn't want to intrude in his brother's affairs, or he knew a little bit of the actual truth and didn't want any confrontations. But Danveer kept in touch with his "Bhabhisa" on and off for 15 years, knew her current phone number, but never even tried to find out where his brother and nephew were? I do not understand.

- Paro! oh, Paro! She wants to heal, she wants to unite, she wants a happy family - i totally understand. She needs her husband to face the ghosts of the past and get over them once and for all. But pushing him to do it literally 3.5 days after his long-lost mother resurfaces in his life (Day 1 - the evening she showed up in BSD, Day 2 - back in Ranawat haveli, Day 3 - was rescused from Laila's clutches, came back to the haveli, made kheer, became kabab mein haddi by dropping the jug, then had a good night's sleep), Day 4 is where they are now - so 3.5 days in total, right?) - I SO DO NOT UNDERSTAND! Give the man some time to mull and vent!

But the one I'm most disappointed with is Dilsher. An abuser? And then holding his wife at fault for wanting to leave him because he abused her? Kicking her out of the house, throwing her to the curb, and then telling his son that his beautiful mother didn't want anything to do with them? He lied. Plain and simple lied. And today when Rudra only echoed what he'd been hearing all these years from his father, that very father slapped him?! What parallel universe is that fair in? My heart broke for that son today :'(

What I'm really looking forward to now is see how Paro reacts to this revelation! Yes, more than wanting to know how Rudra reacts to this. I have a feeling that Rudra will stay constant with his character and admit to his mistakes and misunderstandings - but will Paro still respect Dilsher as much knowing what happened?

I know there are many layers yet to be peeled and many stories waiting to be told, but I hope they don't go about trying to show that both were right in what they did. Coz domestic violence can never be condoned - and I hope Rangrasiya stays true to its promise and doesn't sell out!

Curledup!! Your rant makes perfect sense to me . Please, don't hold your rants. What you wrote is what I have been asking . Why ? Why ? Why ? Would GH please make sure that our WHYs are taken care of ?