Why always portray draupadi as UNFORTUNATE???

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Myraa sengupta

@Myraluvpanchali

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Posted: 11 years ago

Howdy folks!!!! 😛
Guyz,we all know that mahabharat is a very intricate story,and draupadi is one of the most complicated character in the epic.There are many many ...people who don't know about mahabharat and it's character. And I seriously don't know why some people are hell bent on making draupadi as a very misfortunate woman.yes I know that she was wronged in many ways,and there was a point in her life when she was wronged by her own husbands,but does it mean that people around her never loved her??? The 1st misconception of draupadi being so "unfortunate" was given by our own cv's...thereby misguiding some people ,that draupadi was an unwanted child & all the misfortunes in her life was b'coz of her own father.and recently there was a play on draupadi in Rome,which portrayed her being a very misfortunate lady,a girl who was always an unwanted child to his father,and a wife who was always "MISTREATED" by her "HUSBANDS".seriously ,like this is just too much...this gives a Wong message to those who don't know about it. I know that pandavas not helping draupadi was the biggest mistake they ever did but does it mean that they never "loved" or "cared" for her?i don't believe that people around her never loved her,she was special to lord Krishna,wife of 5 mighty warriors who throughout their life kept their promise of never bringing another wife in the palace where draupadi lived(subhadra is an exception),queen of indraprasth,unparalleled beauty ,and daughter of a powerful king who was always very proud about her beauty n knowledge,so come on how on earth she cud be so unfortunate??? 😕 and the fact that her husbands mistreated n ignored is the most ridiculous thing.i don't think bhim was mad to tear someone's chest or break someone's thigh nor arjuna was a fool who hated karna without any reason for 13 yrs.they did that b'coz of some reason.also now n then many people keep saying that arjuna never loved draupadi back,so was shrutakarman born without any feelings???
Hence,my conclusion is that draupadi was not so unfortunate as she is being portrayed by some people,she always stood up for herself but this does not mean always no one was ever there to stand for her.
Her husbands wronged her for once,but this does not mean they made her cry her entire life...
Sorry if I hurt anyone 😊 no offence...

Edited by Anmira67 - 11 years ago

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Justitia

@Justitia

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Posted: 11 years ago

Completely agree...

In the epic, during the exile, she was completely fire, and she kept on reminding her hubbies about what happened to her.

She NEVER forgot her insult and she did not let anyone else forget it.

Originally posted by: Anmira67
Draupadi was not so unfortunate as she is being portrayed by some people,she always stood up for herself but this does not mean always no one was ever there to stand for her.
Her husbands wronged her for once,but this does not mean they made her cry her entire life...

Bold - Agree with you 200% on this one.

Really, if a woman stands up for herself, does it actually mean she is "unloved" or "uncared", and that is the reason for her "independence" and "outspokenness"???

What rubbish...😡

Arjuna not loving her back is THE biggest joke ever.

Yes, the Pandavas did make THE biggest mistake as well when it came to her. But IF her hubbies never cared for her, then why did they even bother avenging her dice hall humiliation?

And Bhim even dealt with Keechak as well...

⭐️B has been giving its own wonderful contributions for enhancing this "dukhiyaari bechaari" image of Draupadi -

1. Drupad's unwanted daughter who (at birth) got cursed by her own father 🤢 and thrown out of Kampilya, only to be brought back by her sakha

2. Her songs of "Mein Draupadi jisne bachpan nahin dekha" and "Yagyaseni ka vachan" - When did Draupadi ever feel that she had missed out on her "childhood"? Why lend this misplaced sense of (non-existent) "innocence" to her FIERY personality?

And if a song contains a name like "Yagyaseni", shouldn't it be a "strong" song? I mean, that song makes you wonder if Draupadi spends her time crying in a closed room all the time...😕

3. Portraying her to be the one making "sacrifices" - yes, I'm talking of the Pandavas taking an imaginary sanyaas due to Kunti's "division" statement...😕

4. "War is bad because it causes loss of innocent lives"...anything more to say? Her anti-war stance hasn't changed since Khandavaprastha...

5. The unforgettable "Draupadi-Arjuna-Subhi" promo 🤢

6. Turning into Sita when Jayadratha kidnapped her (no offence to Sita but let's face it, Draupadi wasn't Sita)

7. Krishna exclusively revealing to her that her sons will die in the war - as if she is the only mother who will lose her kids in the war...and ⭐️Draupadi subsequently stating that she does not want the war - yes, she is really born to wipe out adharma - believe it or not.

8. Polyandry = "Adharma"...'nuff said.

Sakha proclaiming "yeh vivaah adharma hai aur adharma hi rahega". Like, what the...?

If society condemns women for associating themselves with more than one man, that is society's own flawed mindset. How on earth can someone like ⭐️Krishna himself call it "adharma"?

No offence to the real Krishna.

Also, how come "polyandry" (having more than one hubby) is adharma, but "polygyny" (having more than one wife) isn't?

In conclusion, I'd like to state that (epic) Draupadi is a real role-model to girls and women everywhere. And the world would be better off in trying to seek inspiration in the dignified manner with which she lived her life, rather than trying to portray her and visualize her as a "dukhiyaari bechaari".

Because she certainly wasn't one.

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AnuMP

@AnuMP

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Posted: 11 years ago

Actually after VH Draupadi herself laments about this to Krishna (from KMG)

Draupadi said to Krishna "Husbands, or sons, or
friends, or brothers, or father, have I none! Nor have I thee, O thou slayer of Madhu, for ye all, beholding me treated so cruelly by inferior
foes, sit still unmoved"

😭😭😭

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AnuMP

@AnuMP

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: -Shani-
Bold - Agree with you 200% on this one.
Really, if a woman stands up for herself, does it actually mean she is "unloved" or "uncared", and that is the reason for her "independence" and "outspokenness"???
What rubbish...😡
5. The unforgettable "Draupadi-Arjuna-Subhi" promo 🤢
6. Turning into Sita when Jayadratha kidnapped her (no offence to Sita but let's face it, Draupadi wasn't Sita)
7. Krishna exclusively revealing to her that her sons will die in the war - as if she is the only mother who will lose her kids in the war...and ⭐️Draupadi subsequently stating that she does not want the war - yes, she is really born to wipe out adharma - believe it or not.
8. Polyandry = "Adharma"...'nuff said.
Sakha proclaiming "yeh vivaah adharma hai aur adharma hi rahega". Like, what the...?
Also, how come "polyandry" (having more than one hubby) is adharma, but "polygyny" (having more than one wife) isn't?

I would dearly love to agree with you.

1) In Star MB or epic, when VH happened NOBODY stood up for her. A husband (or 5) who does not stand up for you under THOSE circumstances is not worth the name. (That is why I wasnt too unhappy about the " I dont consider you my husband any longer" statement from Panchali. It may have been mocked as Dwapar Yug divorce but then lets not forget Ganga was separated from Shantanu and even earlier Sita felt enough was enough and went home to her Mom's. So, Panchali saying that does not seem too far fetched to me. Thats beside the point though)

2) They may have loved her after a fashion, but never loved her ENOUGH to place her as priority (with the possible exception of Bhim)

3) The promo may have emphasized the pathos a bit. But even in the epic, she was not too happy about the PS marriage

4) Turning into Sita bit was really annoying and I havent found any translations where it was even similar to Star MB

5) Krishna may or may not have revealed the consequences of war. But, I cannot believe that a woman who was until that point admitted to be one of the sharpest minds around, would not have realized the possible consequences. So, she is being portrayed as having second thoughts. So what? She is HUMAN. She thinks this through and makes the sacrifice. She may have done this all on her own, but that does not make for good drama on TV

6) Polygamy was the norm of the day because of high infant mortality rates. Men wanted to make certain that at least some of their progeny lived on. Polyandry was not the norm. I must admit, I did not like that blanket statement in Star MB that it was Adharm. It could have been a qualified statement like "Adharm, but------".

7) Even to her beloved Sakha, she was a pawn. Admittedly for the very good cause of recreation of a just society. But a pawn, nevertheless (very strongly disagree with the philosophy of an individual for a family, family for a village and so on. My own inclination is towards one for all and all for one)

She says that very clearly in the KMG translation that she feels very much alone, indeed

While I feel burdens are given to those people that God feels have strong shoulders, I do think she had a particularly tough life. Anyone else would have collapsed, not her. And that is the freedom of thought, steadiness of heart and strength of spirit I admire about her

Edited by thearcher - 11 years ago

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Shriya95

@Shriya95

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Posted: 11 years ago

Agree wid u 100% on the fact that draupadi is a fiery lady who never compromised on her self respect no matter wat...😃😃

And regarding starbharat...I don't think they have portrayed draupadi as weak...i read it in some places that drupad indeed asked nly for a son but of course he dint hate or banish draupadi...

And regarding the song main draupadi...it depicts the curiosity of a newborn princess which is natural...what's wrong with it?!?! A lady has many sides to her personality n this nascent innocence is truely apt...

And yaa, regarding her being not so happy abt her wedding wid all 5 pandavas, well u can't expect her to be dancing wid joy, it's nt a situation any girl would like to be in...sacrifices do hurt...it's nt all hunky dory...

The entire rajsuya n VH portrayed draupadi beautifully...hats off to the makers n pooja fr dat👏...

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Nripendra

@Abhisheking

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Posted: 11 years ago

@TM and Divya Di Complete Agree

StarDrau has always been shown weaker,though she was one of the strongest personalities of Mahabharat. Those who don't know about MB,Sb can leave a wrong impression on them.😕

@Divya Di Point no 2 is spot on!👍🏼

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KHUSHI-99

@KHUSHI-99

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Posted: 11 years ago

Plese do not consider me a bad person but.

I feel draupadi is NOT what she is being portrayed as,she once said ,"Main to applogon ki seva van mein bhi rahakar kar sakti hoon"

But it is NOT true with the real case.In the van she has complained and said to Yudhishthir that she cannot forget those gold,ivory comfortable sofas ,beds and all -I DISTINCTLY REMEMBER,I will quote it if I again come across...BUT SHE WAS NOT A SAINT AT ALL,She wanted war because of her insult,and at that time she never cared about the lives of innocent people...And moreover she never knew about the fate of her sons.

I completely agree with you😊

Edited by darklight - 11 years ago

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Myraa sengupta

@Myraluvpanchali

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Posted: 11 years ago

@shani: I completely agree wid all Ur points... 😛
@darklight:I agree wid u,draupadi here is being portrayed in a very saint type manner.the epic draupadi was a little proudy n sarcastic too.

Edited by Anmira67 - 11 years ago

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Brishti Sarkar

@CaptainSpark

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Posted: 11 years ago

I agree with you in some points. In some places, Panchaali was very very fortunate. The best example of this is Vastraharan! So many women are mistreated an insulted in open public, who comes to save them? Nobody. So many rapes today, and there must have been MANY ordinary women in Dwapar Yug who were wronged, Who came to save them? Govind is not everyone's Sakha. Panchaali was very very lucky and fortunate. But yes, all the Pandavs loved her, and everyone respected her. Being a Queen she got the love from so many people. So correctly, she was not unfortunate in all this. Arjun did love her back. Arjun's character is carefree, and quiet and introvert. If you dont show your emotions, that does not mean you dont have nay right? So not unfortunate again.

Places where she was unfortunate was...

Her birth, not because she was an unwanted child. She was VERY MUCH wanted. Drupad did a yajna to get a daughter who will be the reason for the destruction of the Kurus. StarB is wrong. So she was wnated but her father did not want her just for the sake of love. She was wanted as a catalyst. A weapon. That is unfortunate.

She was unfortunate in marriage. But she was fortunate to be able to speak up to her wishes. She could have. But unfortunately she was married to 5 brothers.

Unfortunate due to the exile years and Vastraharan ofcourse. She was a princess, the Queen and her life went on in forests. This is kind of unfortunate.

And then the war, which was supposed to bring in happiness for her brought in disaster by taking away her sons.