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Posted: 11 years ago
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In order to show Anandi as being vigilant and caring, the behaviour of Sanchi's family, especially parents, is being shown as extremely illogical and foolish. This has been noted in other IF threads as well, and it just seems to get worse.
Given Sanchi's youth, her headstrong nature, and most important, her repeatedly letting down her family and doing wrong things in the past, Ira and Alok should have taken a few steps to ensure she is on the right track.

Instead of which, they are depicted as totally gullible, which is hard to believe in an educated and aware family such as theirs is supposed to be.
  • Despite Sanchi's past history, Ira does not think that she should monitor her taking her medicines regularly.
  • Nobody finds it strange that Sanchi does not need to get a fresh stock of meds every now and then
  • Ira and Alok don't feel the need to meet or even speak to the counsellor in private, to find out how the counselling sessions are going.
  • Sanchi's drinking and misbehaving during JaGan's reception - nobody wants to know where did she get the liquor from, was it the first time, has she been drinking with friends.
  • Knowing that Payal was instrumental in exposing Sanchi during Jagya's court case, nobody wonders whether the friendship has recovered
  • As others have noted in previous threads, Alok and Ira are least worried about Sanchi's future, career, higher education, job prospects. The conversation never occurs.
  • The only part which they seem to be following to a fault, is the counsellor's advice that Sanchi should not be thwarted in anything.

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Posted: 11 years ago
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I don't think they are doing this to show Anandi's greatness.There are many clueless parents who are as pathetic as Ira and Alok in real world too.
They just give in to their children's demands however illogical their demands are because they don't have patience to explain to their children and those children grow up to be like Sanchi who is so used to getting what ever she wanted and without any sense of responsibility.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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exactly I agree with Aparna Girls like Sanchi do exist just like parents like Alok Ira exist too



Sanchi is responsible for her behavior so Alok Ira for her making her as she is Today


Alok Ira all these years pampering her all of sudden try make put sense in her mind.

This is real...many Parents can't control kids or simply do not bother


People blame Parents more but I feel sometime they are too helpless once kids grown too
Edited by blushing - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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aparnauma, blushing:
I appreciate the point you are making that parents like Alok & Ira do exist.

However, Alok atleast has been shown to be not as indulgent towards Sanchi as Ira is. BV writers could have shown Alok voicing his concerns to Ira and her pacifying him to show more faith in their beloved daughter.

Similarly, Ira has been shown in the past to literally pounce on every tiny clue and detail in relation to AnSh's marriage, Anandi's behaviour and so on. The same vigilance is not depicted with Sanchi.

I would have found it more logical had Alok-Ira voiced concerns, quizzed Sanchi, and then been lulled into a false sense of security by Sanchi's convincing lies. But to not have any doubts at all, despite her past history? - I find that hard to believe.


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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: psu34e

aparnauma, blushing:

I appreciate the point you are making that parents like Alok & Ira do exist.

However, Alok atleast has been shown to be not as indulgent towards Sanchi as Ira is. BV writers could have shown Alok voicing his concerns to Ira and her pacifying him to show more faith in their beloved daughter.

Similarly, Ira has been shown in the past to literally pounce on every tiny clue and detail in relation to AnSh's marriage, Anandi's behaviour and so on. The same vigilance is not depicted with Sanchi.

I would have found it more logical had Alok-Ira voiced concerns, quizzed Sanchi, and then been lulled into a false sense of security by Sanchi's convincing lies. But to not have any doubts at all, despite her past history? - I find that hard to believe.


Sanchi does seem to be an expert at convincing her family and put up a show of being a good girl when ever it suits her.
Even when she was engaged to Jagya she made them believe that she has changed and her parents despite having doubts they wanted to see her change and so they gave her a benefit of doubt and probably now also they are so desperate to see her turn a new leaf they probably believed her this time.
Other than that I can't see any other reason.It obviously love that is not lacking in them but they are absolutely clueless when it comes to her.
May be that they too don't want accept their failure in her bringing her up and they are turning away from their own shortcomings.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Very valid points. Sanchi has always been shown as an arrogant selfish girl even before Anandi became a member of Shekhar family. So it is very clear that the parents have ignored her tantrums and always got cheated by her unusual conceited behaviour since her childhood and adolescent years.

The director could have shown that Ira tried everything with Sanchi, like being a friend to her, keeping a tab on her whereabouts, offering to accompany her when she went out for fun but it didn't work out.

Sometimes, even parents become completely helpless at the hands of such kids as they just won't listen. Their one-track mind seems to think they are always right and Mom is always wrong. After all, Ira and Alok have brought up Shiv also in a similar liberal open-minded environment, which backfired in case of Sanchi.

That's where close friends or relatives who can see both sides can help bridge this gap between the kid and parents. In Sanchi's case, I think even Ira silently counts on Anandi to help her out with Sanchi.

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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: tellygeek



That's where close friends or relatives who can see both sides can help bridge this gap between the kid and parents. In Sanchi's case, I think even Ira silently counts on Anandi to help her out with Sanchi.

So true.Anandi is the third party here.Very often the two parties in a relationship may not be able to see what has gone wrong in this case Sanchi and her family but Anandi who is an outsider to this relationship as an observer who has a bird's eye view will be able to see what has gone wrong and may be hep them mend their relationship.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: aparnauma

So true.Anandi is the third party here.Very often the two parties in a relationship may not be able to see what has gone wrong in this case Sanchi and her family but Anandi who is an outsider to this relationship as an observer who has a bird's eye view will be able to see what has gone wrong and may be hep them mend their relationship.


exactly...sometimes...families doesn't realizes where exactly problems lies 🤔 how to tackle it too

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Posted: 11 years ago
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@ TM,
I agree that it is quite illogical for parents like Ira / Alok to be completely clueless on Sa's acts despite her repeated let downs and wrong doings. With their type of family, it is hard to believe that Ira-Alok and others fail to keep an eye on Sa.
As you said these parents have never taken up topics like Sa's future plan, job, career etc either with Sa or among themselves. But that appears quite illogical. Parents are usually worried and extremely cautious for their child, especially if the child has bad habits like Sa.
The way Sa is handled (portrayed), it clearly shows that CVs want a negative character to continue hence they have made her parents dumb and thrown all the logic outside. Otherwise the same parents have rasied Shiv, it wouldn't be so hard to deal with this air-head.
Besides which if Ira-alok managed to turn their daughter into a new leaf, then CVs may not have interesting tracks for Anandi.
Edited by Missesha - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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I am, infact, not at all surprised that the elders in the family are clueless about Sanchi's activities. I was not questioning that aspect.

The point I wanted to make is - given previous history of Sanchi, it would have been more realistic and believable if the elders had questioned things a bit (as listed in my original post), and only then shown Sanchi's chikni-chupdi baatein convincing them.

Instead of that, in the current scenario, they seem to be totally unquestioning, almost not bothered (when it comes to her career / education). Having no doubts / questions / concerns despite her having proved herself to be silly, with poor judgement, vengeful - over and over again.

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