Mansi is sooo Dumb!'

Why is she taking panga with Raunak or even Kinnari?

Originally posted by: xxhiyaxx

Why is she taking panga with Raunak or even Kinnari?

Kinnari is not going to help her!

She should have conferenced Sunanada and tell Shashank about it.

Originally posted by: Tanyaz

Also she should have told Ankita and Naren .

^^^

I think I am the only one who disagrees.

Originally posted by: bonnefille

I think I am the only one who disagrees.

Telling Ankita or Shashank is easier said than done. I am sure Mansi weighed that option as well. If Raunak would have been some random guy, Mansi should not have had any problem to even to approach the police. The reason she was hesitant to share it with her sister or Shashank was because he is Ankita's brother-in-law. Mansi would not have wanted to create any unnecessary problems for Ankita with her in-laws and instead would have wanted the issue to be sorted by including as less people as possible. She thought the whole problem will be nipped in the bud by informing everything to Kinnari as she was the one who was directly affected. She did not want to involve the families in the mess and wanted things to get sorted at their level itself.

There is always an ideal solution to every problem but everyone has a different way of approaching to a situation. Mansi did what she thought was the best solution. Her approach might be debatable but she did not act dumb or oversmart IMO. Nothing that Mansi does calls for her to be subjected to any kind of abuse from Raunak. What is the guarantee that Raunak would not have taken revenge if she had informed about it to Sunanda or Rushali? It is only Raunak who is to be blamed here not Mansi.

I personally would have wished another track for Mansi and Raunak. Raunak could have been this grey character who could have been reformed. It is a shame that CVs have decided to paint him all black.

I think that Maansi should have told someone in her family no matter how the matter would get resolved. if Sashank had found out that Raunak is texting her or what ever, it would have been a big misunderstanding between Maansi an Sashank. Where would this have led to?
Telling Ankita would have been a better approach, even though Raunak's habits are known to Ankita. She would have spoken to him directly and kept an eye on him. No one in Ankita's inlaws would have interfered as we all know that when Ankita is right and she knows she can stand for herself, she will speak to anyone with a finger. She did that to Sunanda tai then who is Raunak?
Maansi should not have called Kinnari. Kinnari is useless. But we don't know how much Maansi knows about Kinnari's past etc. She does not know the convenience of their marriage. She thought that Kinnari would get upset, jealous and keep Raunak in line.
Maansi is a simple girl and take people by face value. little did she know that she needs to scrutinize these so called rich behaviours.

Originally posted by: naava

yes, but bonnefille, i think she should have told Shashank as he is her husband to be ..in just a few days. I can understand why she didn't want to tell Ankita, in fact she weighed that idea before, but her husband she should tell all to him.

Kinnari wasn't a good choice for another reason...there was all those terrible things Raunak said about her that were unnecessary for her to hear through Mansi.

You are right, it is only Raunak who should be blamed not Mansi, but it's too bad she didn't handle it in a different way. As you say, she did what she thought was right, but i am afraid it will bring more trouble. Her calling him was not a good idea, because now there is a record of her making a phone call to him. She should have waited until he called her again before conferencing in anyone.

CV's...

Originally posted by: bonnefille

There are a hundred ways of dealing with a situation but you do what your instinct says at that point of time. It may not be the best decision but a victim is already under some or the other stress which influences her to take that step. When someone eve-teases, the most common response is to either slap or ignore and walk away. The victim does not know how the abuser will react to either of the responses. If the abuser has the intent, he will take the slap as an insult and silence as an approval to carry on with his conduct.

My argument is not about who she should have approached...all I am saying is that it is wrong to say Mansi acted dumb or oversmart. She did what her instincts told her to do...she did not know how either Kinnari or Raunak will react. The argument that Mansi should have told about it either to Ankita or Shashank is absolutely spot on. Yes she should have told them. Everyone here is giving the ideal situation...all I am saying is that sometimes it is difficult for the victim to share the stress that she is under. Sometimes you want problems to be resolved without burdening them on others. It is not being dumb, but the dilemma one faces in a victim's position. I have given my arguments why Mansi found it more convenient to tell it to Kinnari than anyone else.

Most are arguing what Mansi should have done...I am just saying I understand where Mansi is coming from. I have a problem with TM's description of Mansi as dumb. My earlier argument was only to put her dilemma across. The reason why so many victims keep quiet about years of sexual abuse. They are not acting dumb, they fear the consequences. Again, not saying keeping quiet is right, but it can be difficult to share.