Octopie I applaud you for giving me such a well written, thought provoking point of view at looking at both sides of the coin. It is so refreshing to see someone
I have never seen post come in and make me not pull my hair out for posting.
You see I basically know the views of my friends, and I was hoping for Adini fans or someone who I know nothing of their opinion come in and sweep me off my feet even if I don't share their view, and I thank you for making all this possible. Of course my friends are always welcome to post.
I too agree that the Cvs are playing God and that is where the problem lies with me. It bothers me even more that anyone would accept their interpretation of God's work without question, just blind approval for the sake of superficiality in what is perceived as a Jodi ordained by God.
Notwithstanding I did want someone, any one to give their perspective that could give some other angle to this debate and maybe I could also see some truth in another perspective.
Yes it could be perceived that they are breaking the tradition of Sardhakai, but more specifically with Sugni. This would have gone well with the theory of learning to creep before you can walk, hence Sugni making the first step of the change. At the same time, the questionable aspect is of the morality of the sequence of events to get to that point of the beginning of a change in the Bedni culture. If they mock the sacred institution of marriage by doing the traditional rituals of this, for the significance of Prostitution no matter the so called good Intentions of it, then going back and doing the real marriage, would this make it right from a moral stance? Are the cvs saying that God would make you do the same rituals of a marriage to signify the beginning of the life of a mistress, even if it is not in practice and then turn around and do the same rituals claiming the marriage is now pure? Are we sure we should accept this from the Cvs without thought or questions? Does this even make any sense on paper, put aside God and morality?
Wouldn't it have been more morally plausibly if Sugni did not have to perform the same rituals as a true wife, and was just a mere prostitute, then a man came along and made an honest woman out of her with a real marriage?
For the record my voice is always against Aditya. Even if he felt he was doing Sugni's Sardhakai for good intentions, it is obvious he is very naive and does not understand the seriousness of his actions, in spite of his Father's past life with a Bedni and how it ruined his family. He does not seem to understand that being an unmarried Thakur does not make your crime any less when you perform a woman's Sardhakai, because it is still a culture that is scorned as it is deemed to be immoral.
Yes, I can see where you are going with him making friends with the enemy, even though his intentions were mixed from point of view. He wanted to fulfill a promise to a Bedni, but by blocking the Bedni's daughter from breaking the so called marriage of his Uncle, and in the process he did an immoral act and continued the tradition from the other perspective (that of his Father leaving his Mother) by leaving Amrita to whom he was engaged, broke his should have been loyalty to his Uncle, slapped his Mother in the face with the repeat of history, played with an already emotionally unstable Sugni, who has secretly been building dreams of his so called Knightly actions, though unintentional. So, with all that said, are the Cvs saying that God would ruin so many lives to make a Jodi that started out the wrong way to begin with?
Yes, Sugni and Adi on the outset may not have any secrets or hostility that would prevent them from having a lasting loving relationship. However, how blessed can a relationship be that is built on the foundation of betrayal,misunderstandings, ungratefulness and disrespect.
I say betrayal of Adi to Amrita, Adi to Vikram, Sugni to Vikram by getting with his nephew in his face (even if she felt Vikram did her wrong, she is not right either), betrayal of Adi to Vikram with Gulabiya, joining forces with her without hearing out his Uncle. Misunderstandings where Vikram has never been able to explain before dismissal by Sugni, or Adi misunderstanding his intentions towards Sugni. How about the ungratefulness of Adi towards Vikram who has been like a Father to him, didn't he deserve a fair day in court? Ungratefulness of Sugni and her Mother towards Vikram and Amrita, for all they have done. Should a person do a million good and we hate and punish them so much for one bad without even a thought to say thank you for the million Good? Disrespect from Adi to Vikram with marrying Sugni, no matter his so called knightly reasons. Disrespect of Sugni, for staying in the house with Vikram before marriage and then turn around and stay in the same house with his nephew with intentions to marry in that very house, flaunting her new life in his face. She should have stayed some where else.
How can one build their home happily knowing they have done all this, no conscience or thought to what they have done, how Godly can their union be, if they lack the mere essentials of a conscience?
I too believe that Vikram should repent for what he did. I would not have a problem with a separation for sometime with reflection and let him see that even the most well meaning lie is still a lie and it is wrong. Even if they had broken up permanently, and I would still be hurt by the end of them, I cannot swallow or agree with the sequence of events that followed their break up.
Honestly, if Vikram had done Sugni's Sardhakai I would have been very disappointed in this because I know Vikram never saw Sugni in any other light but that of a Wife in its true sense, and it would have been not only a slap but a further display of the cvs disregard for the Sugvi fans who believe in his Knightly ways.😃
I would have been totally against it, but my outrage would not have been bad as the repulsive feeling I have towards a girl going with her ex fiancee's nephew and a nephew taking his Uncle's love knowingly in the name of an ordained by God Jodi.
At the end of the day it is my point of view, my perspective of morality or immorality and my perspective of God's will for us.
I had no problem with hearing conflicting view, no intention of bashing them, that is why I directed my post the way I did in the first place.
Thank you so much for understanding me.
