double standards of buaji and meher. - Page 4

This post is really true...bua hates abeer so much but can stand her brother...abeer cant come to their house but that idiotic man can..n meher talks about not giving rights to brken rishte but this applies only to abeer n not her dad who abandoned them

@ firdose , clear me , did I miss something , I mean , I thought Meher's father comes home on his own will , I dint knew Suman still tolerates him , I heard Suman saying to Meher he is just another person to me , I thought she moved on . Is she still struck ??

Originally posted by: madhufx9...

@ firdose , clear me , did I miss something , I mean , I thought Meher's father comes home on his own will , I dint knew Suman still tolerates him , I heard Suman saying to Meher he is just another person to me , I thought she moved on . Is she still struck ??

I seriously missed something .

No Madhu. For me words don't matter, actions matter. I have seen enough woman in my family who says like Suman, shouts and complains the man in their life is not behaving well with them, but then allow these men to do the same again and again with them. They don't take a strong stand and say enough is enough.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

No Madhu. For me words don't matter, actions matter. I have seen enough woman in my family who says like Suman, shouts and complains the man in their life is not behaving well with them, but then allow these men to do the same again and again with them. They don't take a strong stand and say enough is enough.

Funny thing is the same complaining ladies will want the rebel among them to be a doormat like them. That's why BD gets a TRP of 1.3 and SNS gets 4.3.

Because BD has a heroine who acts, whereas SNS and other SBS has the leading lady who talks.

Suman pushed Abeer into Meher's room despite her reservations. Meher tolerated Abeer that day for her mother.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

No Madhu. For me words don't matter, actions matter. I have seen enough woman in my family who says like Suman, shouts and complains the man in their life is not behaving well with them, but then allow these men to do the same again and again with them. They don't take a strong stand and say enough is enough.

Funny thing is the same complaining ladies will want the rebel among them to be a doormat like them. That's why BD gets a TRP of 1.3 and SNS gets 4.3.

Because BD has a heroine who acts, whereas SNS and other SBS has the leading lady who talks.

Suman pushed Abeer into Meher's room despite her reservations. Meher tolerated Abeer that day for her mother.

May be because of some misunderstanding bua hates abeer and lets face it till now meher had made clear that it was abeer who left her so its quite natural to hate a person who has caused so much pain to ur loved one but where the fathers part is concerned. I dont know what to say..meher's father is selfish whereas abeer's father is cunning..

Yaa Madhu these people follow the idiom Pati Parameshwar hota hai. But they forget Parameshwar which is another name for Lord Shiva can see Parvati as Durga also. The Goddess is Shakthi, Maya, Annapurna and Gouri with him. Her each form meant for various duties apart from being a wife.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

My take on the whole issue. If Meher and bua have to stop supporting that creepy human that is Meher's dad, Meher's mom has to take a stand. She has to stand firm that he is not welcome in their house. Because only he has the right to push him out of the house and show him the door. Meher and bua can only tell her. As long as she doesn't do that, they have to tolerate this creepy nonsense man because they are trying to ensure Meher's mom is not hurt. Now coming to Abeer, Meher has taken the decision to end her marriage. She has decided to throw him out. And in Abeer's case Meher holds the power and since Meher has thrown him out, bua can behave not to care about Abeer.

If you see Meher and bua are not interfering in Meher's mom relation with her dad, but Meher's mom is interfering in her relation with Abeer. She wants her daughter to tolerate Abeer the way she does her husband.

Meher's mother needs to change. She needs to take a strong stand for herself and her children. Her change is only that can truly liberate Meher. This lady needs some solid lessons to take a stand for herself and know her boundaries. She needs to understand her husband had gone leaving her and kids. Her nanad has supported her in tough times, her daughter is supporting her and by inviting this man into their lives again and again she is doing a disservice to the people who have helped her. And forcing her daughter to be like her is the last straw. This lady according to me needs a solid beating. Not Meher and bua.

I agree with you shruti in terms of their internal family dynamics, meher's mother needs to take the initiative and kick this leech out of their life. But that is their internal problem and resolution. My problem is with their outward projection of this problem animal in their family. My issue is with buaji pointing fingers at abeer and his dad in a police station knowing full well that its her skeevy brother who is creating a tamasha for no reason. the fact of the matter is that no matter how bad kuber and abeer malhotra are, they dont go around irritating people unless they're in their way. abeer didnt bother meher before she decided to prove something to him and herself by trespassing in his space, similarly kuber doesnt really care about meher or her family until they decide to call and bother him. bua is well aware of that. kuber is too busy and too important to go around damaging her petty brother's car. in this situation, her filial obligation makes her go to his aid, but the least she could do is not encourage his behavior by lashing out at abeer and his dad. she shouldve maintained a dignified silence and dragged her brother out of there. this isnt their home and as they keep saying, abeer and kuber arent their family that they can just go around insulting them in public for no reason other than to overcompensate for her brother's shamelessness.
as for what meher had to "tolerate" in comparison to her mother, then i think thats an unfair comparison to begin with. no matter what abeer did, meher i dont think EVER had to tolerate anything close to what her mother tolerated with her dad. i think we in this forum, with good reason given abeer's behaviour, tend to unconsciously shift most of the blame of the divorce on abeer. we dont know what happened and im pretty sure meher is not as blameless as she seems to be. if shes hurt, then shes hurt him too. she wanted to stick it to abeer and so decided to make herself visible in his life again, that wasnt abeer's doing. abeer was fine letting her be, despite of his pain and hurt. so now if meher is having to tolerate abeer, well she kind of called it upon herself. meher is neither anywhere nearly as blameless as she believes herself to be and neither is she as professional as she believes herself to be, a professional person would've never taken this job, especially when she is seemingly so much in demand professionally. Most people dont even want to share boss employee relationship with their spouse, let alone their ex-spouse with whom theres a history of animosity. But yes 100% agreed that meher's mother needs to take the initiative and kick this man outta their lives.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Yaa Madhu these people follow the idiom Pati Parameshwar hota hai. But they forget Parameshwar which is another name for Lord Shiva can see Parvati as Durga also. The Goddess is Shakthi, Maya, Annapurna and Gouri with him. Her each form meant for various duties apart from being a wife.

So if the woman has to treat her husband Parameshwar, he too has to treat her Shakthi. It's a 2 way process not one way.

I always say we woman have no choice in choosing our parents or relatives. But we do have choice in choosing in our better half. If woman use their brain properly to choose the right one in their life, well their power will be acknowledged and appreciated. Sad part is that woman has been conditioned in such a way that many believe they don't have a choice.