Originally posted by: soniiyaa
@red: great points di! It's true that Ovi kept in contact with Arjun inspite of him "pretending" to love her, breaking the engagement and promise to marry her, and not telling her about pari and the countless other ways I'm sure a man in love with another woman intentionally or UN-intentionaly may hurt his wife. She even had sex with him after she found out about Pari etc which never EVER made sense to me. And this isn't to bash Ovi... but it's an interesting point that she kept contact with him... but not her parents. She forgave him and brought his child into the world (remember when she said Purvi should have aborted Pari b/c Arjun was married to Ovi?) & then never cared about that child and maintained contact with him but didn't contact her parents.
I maintain my original point that both Ovi and Arman owed it to each other to find out the truth and explain themselves. They're FAMILY! But it is a very interesting to note the point that Ovi didn't call Arman after the apparent disowning but maintained contact with Arjun who had been the root problem of her issues and further more ignored their daughter together. I wonder why...
But honestly speaking, they haven't revealed exactly what happend between Ovi and Arman. Did Arman speak to her and find out truth or did Ovi try to explain? Did they ever contact e/o etc etc.
Is it possible that she doesn't expect anything from arjun but expected that her parents would support her no matter what? Is it possible that she was hurt that they had decided to believe the worst of her and disowned her, without any verification, when she needed help and their support and love the most? Is it possible that she's accepted that arjun is only a friend, her friend, and that she cares for him even though he doesn't in the same way for her so she's ok with that relationship the way it is? But that she expected that her dad and the rest of her family who did love her, who had raised her and who had known her all her life, to hear her out, to understand her stance and love her unconditionally?
And there are double standards and different measures for every character and every relationship. Didn't purvi sell arjun out on the day of their wedding, betrayed him in the worst possible way, but he still continued to love her? Didn't she hide the truth of his baby (ies) from him and did she not leave him when she saw him with Ovi and Pia without giving him a single chance to explain? Did she not allow pari to develop hatred for arjun? Isn't it interesting that arjun continues to love this woman who has never chosen him anytime there was a choice and betrayed him more than once, when he takes for granted a loyal friend who was once his wife and the mother of his daughter? How can we explain this? How can we explain archana's ego that she willingly parted with all her biological children to prove a point to manav? How can we explain archana's love for varsha that made her ignore manav and give away soham as a baby when she knew their history--- varsha had already kidnapped soham once and had been obsessed with him. These and a lot more relationships in the show and maybe in real life are not easily explained, but they exist. The problem with ARMAN and Ovi vs Purvi is that both are their children, but they have different yardsticks for measuring them. This when the relationship between parents and children should be the one relationship that is a constant---it shouldn't change depending on who the child is! A person can behave differently with different friends, more caring towards one or the other. Even siblings, you can be closer to one more than the other (s). But for parents, all children are the same. Or at least, they should be!
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