As per ACTUAL episode they only shows that arjun had called pari/purvi... they have never mentioned that this is his first call in 10 years ...if we can assume that arjun called pari first time at age 10 than why we can't assume that due to purvi..arjun was unable to connect with pari?????
@ Bold. Exactly. As per Arjun's dialogue in the actual episode, he tried to call her many times and the last time he called them was on Pari's birthday when Pari snubs Arjun. So, a man who could call his estranged wife and daughter many times in spite of his wife not giving him any chances to explain himself suddenly stops calling them. And according to the episode, the ACTUAL reason that Arjun stopped calling them was not Purvi's indifference but Pari's snubbing him. So he stopped calling them simply because a child (his small daughter) in her childish immaturity snubbed him? His anger towards Purvi is justified. I would have understood if he wanted to have nothing to do with Purvi after all the attempts he made. But is his indifference towards Pari justifiable too?.. Pari might have hated him but shouldn't that have triggered warning signals that he is losing his child and shouldn't that have been a reason enough for him to want to reach to her? And as per the post leap episodes, Purvi would not have stopped him from meeting his child had he wanted to do so. I understand his self-respect was important-hence I could have identified with the self -respect issue had he severed his ties with Purvi: any normal man would have done that, but I don't understand how he preserved his self-respect by severing ties with his child.
why every time she represent herself as bichari if front of her daughter who is left by husband for masi??which daughter wants to talk wid father who left her mother for another woman and another daughter????
@ Blue : I agree again. No daughter who thinks that her mother has been cheated by her father for her masi would want to talk to that father. But when Purvi left with Pari she was just a toddler, a child who had just turned one. So for another couple of years or may be more, she was just a child who could not understand the miseries of the World. Hence she was not in a position to know about the status of her parent's relationship and draw her own inferences out of them. Why didn't Arjun try to clear the stand of his and Ovi's relationship with Deshmukhs and Purvi during that time? Purvi might not have listened to him, AGREED, but there were Archana, Manav and even Sulochana with whom he could have talked. In one of the flashback scenes, DK even asks him to reconsider his decision. So even if he didn't want to confront either of them himself, he could have taken DK's help. Even if we assume that Purvi was representing herself as a bechari in front of Pari, it doesn't still negate the FACT that Arjun was an absentee father and that was as bad as Purvi's portrayal of bechari woman for Pari to hate him.
regarding purvi told pari to talk with father...this is also not half hearted attempt????if arjun's attempt was half hearted for clarification than m seeing purvi's attempt too half hearted here.
@Bold: That was a half-hearted attempt but a continuous attempt nevertheless. Not like Arjun's who stopped making even those half-hearted attempts when a child snubbed him.
is this what a real mother does?? she was doing pari's upbringing but was representing her father in very negative way due to her false hateness... Acc. to me pari is innocent as a child...arjun is 30% at fault that not fight for custody or meeting rights and purvi is 70% at fault for creating negative impression of father ,for not trusting arjun, simply left him nd never try to listen to him nd at last due to ego and hateness for arjun...she painted her daughter's childhood with bitter nd hateness feeling...that kid is hating father but feeling very bad for not having father too.
@ Purple: Purvi's hatred towards Arjun was not false: it was kinda understandable. According to the pre leap episodes, she goes to Canada to make amends with her estranged husband and comes to know about Pia's parentage and gets a shock of her life. She even collapses in the hospital wherein Doctor Onir calls for emergency operation.
What had happened of this child we do not still know? However, from the dialogues in the recent episodes, it seems that Pari is their only child and hence Purvi had miscarried in Canada after that shock. If she had indeed miscarried and then seen Arjun and Ovi in one room with the child, it was very natural for her to think the worst about Arjun. First of all Arjun lies about his whereabouts, then she comes to know about Pia's parentage, probably miscarriages, then sees her husband and sister with the child under her sister's roof and assumes the worst. On top of that Arjun doesn't come clean about when Pia was conceived and hence continues to let her assume the worst.
Now if Arvi's second child is still ALIVE, it doesn't portray Arjun in any good light either. Rather than shaking the sense into his pregnant and hence hormonal wife, he just signs the divorce papers ( again a FACT shown in one of the flashback scenes) and lets her walk out of his life when she was in need of his love and support the most, hence reinforcing her suspicion about Arjun and Ovi's relationship. And then he doesn't bother to ask or even know about his second child at any point of time for 20 years.
And I do not BUY that before 20 years leap Purvi was FAKING her pregnancy. Because it was none other than the World's Best OBGYN Dr. Onir Dutta who had confirmed about Purvi's 2nd pregnancy.
Nowhere it is shown in the ACTUAL episodes that Purvi had either poisoned Pari's mind against Arjun or was portraying him in a negative light. It could have come from other sources or Pari could have formed her own perspectives about her father as he was absent ever since she had known the actual meaning of father.
However, I DO agree that Purvi more than Arjun was at fault for the entire separation at the first place. Purvi had always been impulsive and she was indeed wrong to assume the worst about Arjun and not give him a chance to explain then.
But Arjun was also at fault for not trying to make stronger reconciliation attempts. If Purvi had assumed worst of him, it was in his hands to explain the truth to her. We all know that communication has never been one of Arjun's stronger points, but If he had really wanted to make Purvi hear him, he could have done so. When he could literally drag her out of her home during a rainy night to make her hear his love confessions, he could indeed have made her hear about his innocence had he wanted to do so.
