Dear Janhvi, I am getting confused with argument and counter an argument that is going on so I will just summarize what I particularly feel and what I know from my experience.
A child out of wedlock is a true victim. In countries like India, children who are born of such union are ridiculed to the extent that they end up confused and angry. The constant ridicule and ostracization lead them into either a life of crime or depression and/or suicide, or might make them a pimp. A girl, who had the misfortune of being left pregnant for whatever reason, is not looked upon as a role model and is often called names ranging from loose character to a wh**e. People tend to think these girls have questionable virtues and can be taken for granted and can have quick sex with them, as it is assumed that they too are looking for that quick pleasure and not any serious commitment. This happens in any economical levels but this ostracization is much more acute in the middle class for to value their respect and their up bring the most. Besides, they do not have the extra money to cover up their mistake easily and are left at the mercy of others. I am not necessarily talking about Western societies (although I have mentioned examples, that I have myself seen that life isn't easy for unwed moms anywhere). In India, this is much more acute. If you go into the Middle East, these unwed moms will probably be stoned to dead.
In case of Purvi, the mere fact that she had sex with a man and then forced that him to marry her sister, isn't something to applaud in my opinion ' and the resulting child out of wedlock ' faces a lifelong ridicule of an irresponsible act of 2 adult. Imagine what this girl child faces growing up ' she will be ridiculed and considered having questionable moral value as well. As someone said, did anyone ask this child, if this is what he/she wanted to be at the receiving ' did anyone prepare this child of the life of ridicule or the constant uphill battle that she will face to establish that she isn't her mother's daughter as far as her sexuality is considered ' I call her poor child, she will be labeled quickly as a s**t herself even when she isn't at fault. And it will always be the onus on her to prove that she is of a good moral character. In fact, before she can even enjoy her childhood, all the gossip, the eyeing and the secret smile will dampen her spirit, force her into adulthood and leave a permanent scare on herself that can never be erased.
As for Purvi didn't have an easy life, why I have to disagree. She really had it very easy. She faced not a single gossip, not a single questioning eye, not an open accusation for being a s**t, or inquisitive and exploring hands or men, wanting a quick sex, for they assume she was ready to provide that sort of pleasure. Rather, she got a respected life of a renowned doctor's wife, who loved her so much that he pressed her feet, hand her medicines and put kalatikka ' wish we had Onirs in real life.
Now, there are many marriages in real life too, that are based on some sort of compromise. Now, even these people who are in such compromised marriages are engaged in sex, and then probably they too (And in this case the woman) aren't more than a glorified prostitute. Even then, most societies still don't consider it as pristitution. Now, if this wife decides to walk out of the marriage (where she had sex everyday of her life) that is her decision ' no one will say, she was immoral. Even if a woman planned to have sex and walks out of the marriage to get a space between her and her hubby ' that act isn't considered immoral. Here Ovi just wants to go away from Arjun. Arjun is free to do anything he wish/want. Ovi's walking out isn't effecting anyone In fact, Ovi says that Arjun could find her easily if he wants ' but she hopes that he doesn't for she wants the time to self-realize/heal. To you, since Ovi's leaving was premeditated and then she had sex ' that makes it wrong. I personally, do not consider it wrong ' for she is the legal wife, she didn't pre-mediate the sex itself, she stayed to have a good time with Arjun for a lasting memory that didn't include the plan of sex, she didn't initiate the act and much importantly ' it wasn't anything unnatural about in in reality' couple do get intimate under such circumstances for there is the essence of familiarity in this equation ' and they might have sex like this one before too under a similar circumstance of rain and warmth. And then , to the society at large, this sex will not be considered immoral and if a child result from such an union ' will not be considered illegitimate and ridiculed. As I said, this isn't something I invented ' this is what has been done for a long time now.
Now the question is whether Arovi love is mutual. To me it is. I think I have said this before; it is possible for a man to love 2 women at the same time. So, I think Arjun did love Ovi and Ovi returned that love. Ovi was committed to the relationship, but to me Arjun's was questionable, but that love was there. So, since we both agree love isn't enough and something more needed ' I think that something more is what Arjun need to give to their marriage namely - commitment and his respecting his wife and not taking her for granted. This is what Ovi needs to get back to her relationship with Arjun, and I find it not wrong in wanting that from him. It is for Arjun to decide what he wants ' whether he wants to manao his wifi and convince her that he too is committed, both heart and soul in this relationship. Let us wait and see what Cvs has in store for us before jumping to any conclusion. But, as of now, the onus is on Arjun to choose what he wants, and how he wants all his relations to work, namely with Ovi and with Pari. And whatever his decision is, he now should live by it. Btw, I do not believe that Ovi's problem is the baby, but what the baby represent. Now, if Arjun convinces her that he truly loves Ovi, who knows how far Ovi might go to accept Arjun, with all his baggage, but this time around, to me the wooing has to be Arjun's and he has to convince Ovi that he is truly committed.
Anyway, am sure we will not agree, but that Is all I have to say and how I see this serial and hopefully, I am out of this discussion, for I think I have said it all.
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