Janhvi, Abhi,
I do not at all agree with
@ red, Janhvi. Just try and imagine that you were Purvi's kid and how all this would feel to you. You would very likely end up hating
both your biological parents.How on earth can you explain all this stuff to a kid? At what age? And how do you think the other kid would react? He/she would HATE Purvi's kid, his father, and Purvi. That is for sure. This is the kind of revelation that breaks up even very solid families.
And Janhvi, surely you do not mean what you say:
This will not deprive Onir of any of his rights, he will be the child's father still, sharing in its daily upbringing and the bond between him and the child should not be hurt because of the hovering presence of the biological dad. Do you mean 'would not be affected" or 'should not be affected'?
In either case, I cannot believer that you are serious. Think again of what if you were in Onir's position, but with everything now out in the open, and 'his' child now knowing that he is not the kid's father at all.
Would that child's relationship with Onir not be badly affected at once? He/she would very likely make a beeline for the Kirloskar household and demand to be told why all this happened. And what about the reaction of society to this 'broad-minded'' arrangement? Even in a true blue American TV serial, such a revelation is never shown as playing out as smoothly as you seem to think it could. And this, Janhvi, is India. He/she would be forever labelled
naajayaz.This label sticks.
There are some truths that are best left hidden. If Arjun is to know that Purvi's child is his and vice versa, all the negative consequences that Abhi has outlined are sure to follow,
unless Arjun and Purvi free themselves from their current spouses and get married to each other.
Abhi, I agree with you re:
@blue, unless, as I noted above, Arjun and Purvi have a grand
punarmilan after disposing of all the
kabab me haddis. I had suggested a feasible scenario for achieving this on the
Which is more Important thread, and I hereby make a present of it to the CVs.
If things are to continue as they are, I would NEVER advise burdening a child with this ugly fact of his life. Life will, slowly but surely, become pure unadulterated hell for all 6- the 4 adults and the 2 kids. I can think of no positive that Purvi's child will get from knowing that Arjun is his/her father that can compensate for the negatives, unless it is a share in the Kirloskar fortune!
Shyamala (Aunty)
Originally posted by: arjunaluis
Yes, even i agree Arjun deserves to know the truth...he is the father and deserves to spent time with the child but it is just too weird all of them leaving so close to each other Arjun with Ovi and her child and then he comes and gives eye locks with Purvi and her child...How would Onir feel than...how would the child feel...and truth be told they live in india imagine what words the children would here about the parents...the neighbours would know the truth...how they will be bullied...so, Janhvi di even if the children are not told the truth the will find out about it...why even manju would make fun daily...and would savita keep quiet? Ovi is her beloved grandchild...how can she accept this? how coming from an old age culture...and Ovi...would Ovi quietly watch Arjun going to visit his former and still lover to visit his child...She will defintely poison her child's mind on her/his father...and then there is Arjun after knowing the truth can he honestly love both of children the same...even parents tend to have favourites...Arjun wont be different and with his undying love for Purvi, he to me would love Purvi and his child more than his child with Ovi...the children like it or not when the truths come out will have to pay the price...and it will be bad cause they do not need to pay the price for their parents mistake..
.i remain with my opinion that Purvi and Onir should take the child and live far away without Arjun...cause this child will be fine but Ovi's baby will live to hate her father because Ovi will damage the child mentally and maybe even physically...and the child needs his/her father more than Purvi's baby does...
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Originally posted by: soapwatcher1
Abi, no doubt Onir would make an excellent father to Purvi's baby (if his character remains the same).
Playing devil's advocate, while it may be prudent to keep the truth from Arjun and the rest of the family, Arjun is still owed the truth of knowing the baby is his. Yes, it will create a lot of ugliness between Ovi and him, between Ovi and Purvi, maybe even between Purvi and Arjun but the bond of parent and child is special and I don't think any child should be deprived of knowing the truth behind his/her birth however painful it is. The truth will be nasty, the kids will share the same father (if the track is true), born to two sisters and they will be cousins and half siblings. But Arjun has a right to know that the child is his and the child ultimately has a right to know who its father is. This will not deprive Onir of any of his rights, he will be the child's father still, sharing in its daily upbringing and the bond between him and the child should not be hurt because of the hovering presence of the biological dad. If Purvi had decided not to keep the baby, she would have owed Arjun nothing as he was already married by the time she discovered she was pregnant. But knowing she is bringing his child into the world, Arjun does need to be told. My two cents.
And the children need not be told all the sordid details of how or why Arjun got Ovi pregnant (that is for us viewers to know and rue and debate). All the children would need to know is Purvi was engaged to be married to their dad and got pregnant but as Ovi loved him too, Purvi stepped aside and Arjun and Ovi married and had the other child.
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